how do you tell Him?

[lapinova]

please refer me to the original thread if this has come up before, but my search didn't bring me any results.

The situation goes as follows...


i have a very dear friend who also happens to be a Dom. i trust Him completely and have grown very fond of him over the course of O/our friendship. Lately i've found myself wanting to see Him more, and missing Him, and after much soul-searching discovered that i would love to belong to Him.
Small problem... i have no idea what to tell him or how, or even if i should.

any suggestions would be helpful.

 

[WildRose40DDD]

Very Dear Friend?

Are you involved with him as a Dom or just on a friendship basis? Either way, it seems that you are close to him and should be comfortable talking to him. I wouldn't necessarily blurt it right out, but maybe slowly lead into it. Maybe discussing his views and wants, ie: is he looking for a sub? What type of situation he is looking for? If your ideas still mesh, it would then be natural to tell him you would love to share that with him.

(BTW this is magic post 100)

 

[snoozebutton]

Well this depends on how well you can talk to him. If thats not a problem I agree with Wild Rose. If not perhaps a little note telling of your feelings and hopes for the future. You could even ask him to go sex toy shopping with you. Asking his advise on the various toys your interested in and gauge his responce to you teasing he use on you. I know straight honesty is best way. But it's also hard putting yourself out there as well. So if you have a mutal friend maybe get them to see if he would be interested in you that way as well. Hope these helped just a few thoughts. Good Luck!

 

[lapinova]

i know you're right...

and i have to tell him... i am sure he doesn't have a sub right now... i am less sure of whether or not he really wants to get involved with one now.

While telling him puts my little at risk, so does waiting and doing nothing- i was asking myself how i'd feel if he developed an attachment with someone else because he never knew how i felt. Either way sets me up for potential hurt, and i'd rather know and at least have the chance of something beautiful. No matter how shy or scared i feel, next time i see him i will have to spill it.

It's making me very tense- he hasn't called for over a week and i've had no luck reaching him. This is not the kind of thing you leave on an answering machine. My biggest (and probably completely paranoid and unfounded) fear is that he already knows and is avoiding me. That would be out of character- he's pretty direct, and i believe he'd say so if he didn't want to see me or was angry with me.
But you know how girls can be sometimes... and combine the silence with my longing, and you can see how i'd be a little freaked at the moment.