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Saint_Ann
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Beats me. I never do anything wrong.
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ditto
Comshaw
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You don't. NEVER apologize for something you didn't do or those times you have no idea what your apologizing for. I'd try to find out what it was that needs an apology. I have no problem doing so when I step on my own feet, when I've been a dick or when, by my actions, I've caused a problem but if I'm not the cause I will not, not even to smooth the waters. Own what's yours and leave what ain't.
Comshaw
Colonel Hogan
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You're already close. The person you've wronged has to give you the factual basis for WHY your apology is in order. You can't make a sincere apology unless you know what you're apologizing for.
If the person in question feels they are owed one and would like to have it, they should be able to articulate the grievance. If not, they may choose to embrace the bitterness instead. Their choice.
Hypoxia
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Merely smile thinly and step away. Depending on what you want from that person, either submit, or yell back, or run. This could be a relationship breaker, y'know. Or a chance to deepen your bond. Or seek help.
Stain_mAnn
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Theres no saying sorry for your enabling of queefy. His children would appreciate if you stopped then maybe someday he will become a man and a father to them.
an apology should not be necessary at all ...
… I feel, if she or he who feels hurt for some reason is able to phrase whatever disturbed her or him in terms of "the following XXX caused me some problems". This way she/he does not put any blame on anybody.
And then it depends on the reaction of "the other side". If that other side is able to voice regret about the misgiving of the one, who spoke up, regardless of who might be to blame, but simply because misgivings are uncomfortable, and (s)he likes to minimize misgivings wherever possible, then a path is open for resolving whatever caused the problem. Which often is not too difficult.
After all, voicing regret does not mean one apologizes.
If – on the other hand – the reaction is "you accused me of something, and therefore I don't like you any longer", whoever spoke up knows it is time to disappear, sooner or later.
Just my two cents worth.
… I feel, if she or he who feels hurt for some reason is able to phrase whatever disturbed her or him in terms of "the following XXX caused me some problems". This way she/he does not put any blame on anybody.
And then it depends on the reaction of "the other side". If that other side is able to voice regret about the misgiving of the one, who spoke up, regardless of who might be to blame, but simply because misgivings are uncomfortable, and (s)he likes to minimize misgivings wherever possible, then a path is open for resolving whatever caused the problem. Which often is not too difficult.
After all, voicing regret does not mean one apologizes.
If – on the other hand – the reaction is "you accused me of something, and therefore I don't like you any longer", whoever spoke up knows it is time to disappear, sooner or later.
Just my two cents worth.
Tristyn
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Never apologize for someone else's error.
Hypoxia
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That's Trompian. You're fired.
rae121452
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NO! NO! i'd rather bite my tongue in half!
"Agnes Macphail was the first Canadian woman to be a member of parliament, and one of the first two women elected to the Legislative Assembly of Ontario. Considered a feminist in her time, Agnes Macphail supported issues like prison reform, disarmament, international cooperation and old age pensions ..."
and i'm insulted.
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I have found that receiving a good blowjob from the potential wrong-doer is the best form of reconciliation regardless if a wrong was actually committed or not. And topping it off by swallowing more than makes up for any perceived acts that may or may not be seen to elicit an apology.
Is your back well enough now for you to kneel?
KeithD
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You can always say you're sorry there seems to be a barrier between you and offer to discuss what it is. In our early married life, my wife would pout over something she wanted me to guess, and I'd give it two tries and then just let her pout. She dropped that technique pretty quickly. Now she cuts to the chase on what her issue is.
You think jezzi cares about that? Srsly?
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Hypoxia
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You and your alts are going on iggy. Bye now.
Noor
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I have found that receiving a good blowjob from the potential wrong-doer is the best form of reconciliation regardless if a wrong was actually committed or not. And topping it off by swallowing more than makes up for any perceived acts that may or may not be seen to elicit an apology.
Is your back well enough now for you to kneel?
This might not work so well if the wronging was of a sexual nature...
Noor
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I would let the person know that you would like to make amends and you don't understand where you went wrong. Hopefully they can tell you. Then it is up to you to decide.
Sometimes people hurt people without realizing it. Even if it was not your intention to hurt someone, if you care about their feelings, you can apologize for hurting them.
run_silent
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Noor get it right. Its OK to say "I don't know how I hurt you but I sorry that I did. It opens a door to understanding.
I'm thinking friends not just a stander by that is offended.
I'm thinking friends not just a stander by that is offended.
