How do you know

[Selflessness]

How do you know if you want a relationship or sex?

I know this seems a bit broad, but at what point do you realize that you want a relationship (whether it is casual or serious or something else), or just a sexual relationship. They seem tied together, but lets assume they aren't.

 

[Derya]

you're not the only one

As I'm mentioning here don't think you're the only one who doesn't know when that coin changes or exactly what they want. It seems to be a challenge for men and women and those of all ages. I know it is for me and I here it from my peers and relatives too. I'm interested to see responses and I'll be thinking on this some myself.

 

[SnoopDog]

As think when you discover that you are not sure if you want a serious realtionship or just sex then a serious relationship might not be possible at all. Becuse, you should be 100% sure if you want something that goes deep and last for a long time.

Snoopy

 

[SweetErika]

A lot depends on how you personally define a relationship. IMHO, you know when you know what you want out of the relationship. For instance, do you want someone to have deep conversations with, cuddle, do non-sexual things with, mutual support, and sex too? Or, do you want no-strings-attached sex? Personally, I've pursued a nsa sex relationship and we ended up falling in love as we got to know eachother, so I suppose it can be a fluid thing too.

 

[Selflessness]

I know what I want in the long run... a relationship. But right now in the short-run, there is a battle between the penis and the brain, I seem to want both. Seems unlikely to have both at once in the beginning, one of them comes first then depending on the momentum, may have the other in due time. My actions have mainly dictated that I just want to remain friends, thought on some occasions, I have indicated I wanted more. Heh, now I think I know... I want to do stuff with friends right now. Whether it'd be a 'social date' with just one female friend, or hang out a friend or with the gang. Been so long. And this bordem is getting to me.

But I still want sex, because it is what the penis wants , and the brain wants to find love.

 

[Luv70sfords]

Id say right about the time you stop wondering which you want, you'll know. If you are thinkin you might just be in it for the sex, chances are you probably are. When I met my wife, she turned me on like no other, but at the same time, I truly did not care if I ever saw her naked. Thats how I knew she was the one I wanted to be with for the rest of my life.