How do you hit on a woman.....

[SoftPeaches]

when you are one? Especially an attached one, who would like to make a threesome happen too?
I've tried Adult Friend Finder, and all the other personal ads. Nobody attractive or fun wants to do me AND my man. ARRGH!

 

[cymbidia]

Before anything goes any further, you have to insure that you and your man are totally and definitely on the same page with regard to inviting another person, a woman, into your bed. Have you ever watched him fucking someone else? It's not the same as talking about it, babes. Sure you're ready? Got any little jealous bones in your body? Better be sure they're all taken care of before you do this. Conversely, he might just freak out over the fact that you are being sexual with another woman. Your relationship has to really be centered to do this and have it be the experience you want instead of a tension-producer.

Okay. Warning offered - check. Now onto the other stuff.
To find a third:
1. try http://www.alt.com (no, it's not just for BDSM people). i've had *great* success with this place over the years.

2. check out your local "singles" ads, especially if you're in or near any kinda larger city.


A few things to consider after you make contact with someone who seems likely:

1. Be certain that you thoroughly discuss (email is good for this) the expectations each of you holds for the play. For instance, are you and your man looking for a one-time thrill? A semi-regular playmate? A possible move-in-and-live-with-us situation? What about the other woman? What does she want out of this?

2. Be very sure of the other woman with regard to disease. Discuss it ahead of time. Make sure she's been tested very recently. (Most Public Health Depts offer discreet or anonymous low/no cost STD/AIDS antibody testing.)

3. Pick some kind of coffeeshop to meet in before the Big Event. You all have to be sure you'll have some moderate physical attraction to each other before the clothes-off day, right?

Oh, and one little addendum? In your getting-to-know-you email, the ones you guys write to her and she writes back, talking all hot and nasty about your fantasies and what you want from each other? Well, be really sure you mention a scrubbed-clean body (ears, nose, face, pits, pussy, ass, all over!) someplace in the beginning stages. You would be surprised and totally appallingly disgusted at the people out there who neglect personal hygiene. Sounds sad that you have to say it to another adult, but, well, you do.
cym

 

[WriterDom]

it depends on what I'm hitting her with.

 

[SoftPeaches]

You're evil, WriterDom