How do you handle it?

[Betticus]

When you are practically wired from birth to protect, nurture, guide and care for someone but have no-one?

 

[graceanne]

Well, believe it or not I understand more than you'd think. I have a very strong maternal instinct. As a child I would 'adopt' other children who's mothers sucked. I've litterally been taking care of children all my life. I can't imagine what it'd be like if I didn't have somoene to take care of.

 

[Betticus]

Well, believe it or not I understand more than you'd think. I have a very strong maternal instinct. As a child I would 'adopt' other children who's mothers sucked. I've litterally been taking care of children all my life. I can't imagine what it'd be like if I didn't have somoene to take care of.

It's unpleasant. I do have some things that I want to do though so I think I'll just be alone for now and try to iron out this whole series of lifestyle changes. The healthy stuff and diet and exercise. Save up some money and all that. I can't say that I like where I'm at right now but it will just take time and more patience than I ever thought I had.

At least I get some support and encouragement here from all of you wonderful people. Thanks for all of that.

 

[dolf]

When you are practically wired from birth to protect, nurture, guide and care for someone but have no-one?

the same way as if you long for someone to look after, protect and teach you but have no-one i guess if i figure that out i'll let you know.
xx

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

There are plenty of homeless pets with no one to love them that need someone like you. A rather poor substitute for having a sub/slave, one might think (and if you get a cat, you will be the sub no matter what you do), but it does relieve that itch to take care of others.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[Guest]

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Badly

 

[Betticus]

I actually end up finding myself bottoming to my closest friends (doing little things for them like making them dinner so it's ready when they get home from work) and working PT helps because someone else is in charge, and I have to anticipate the customer's needs and fulfill them (I work at a coffee shop similar to Starbucks). So while it doesn't fill all the void, I have made a bit of a mental shift, and those areas are where I fill some of my need to bottom/submit until I find someone I want to be with.

I had something similar before I moved. Most of my close friends were female and before I moved I got to play daddy for almost all of them. Some of them even called me that. I think the biggest thing now is that I just moved recently and started the new job and just don't know anyone down here. Most of my time is spent working odd shifts and long hours. I work almost every weekend and holiday and that limits my ability to meet people. Add to that the fact that this is a very christian area and it limits things even more. I'm not a churchgoer. That should be obvious though.

Maybe with all the limitations it will just take more time. Someone suggested that I take a college class and meet people that way. Sounds like it's not a bad idea.

 

[Betticus]

I think I should clarify some things.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[Betticus]

I am getting out and meeting new people when I have the opportunity. I'm just not finding what I need down here just yet. I think they are here but just blending in. There are no good clubs to go to for any kind of kink.

I'm just looking for something specific that isn't easy to find. I've already turned away three women. I know that if I wait I can find what I'm looking for and don't want to get entangled in something I won't be happy with.

Finding the patience is tough.

 

[CutieMouse]

*****

 

[Betticus]

Oh that makes much more sense.

I agree, finding the patience to wait for a person who deserves you is hard. I'm told it's worth it, but it doesn't make it easier to hear that it's worth it.

So I'll just send you another random huggle. *huggles*

 

[rosco rathbone]

Saving up money is a real good idea. They'll be needing it to get their hair and nails done.

 

[snowy ciara]

Saving up money is a real good idea. They'll be needing it to get their hair and nails done.

Or hockey tickets, if they're not the hair and nails type.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Or hockey tickets, if they're not the hair and nails type.

Same shit.

" I made Rangers reservations for us tonight sweetie. WE'll be sharing box seats with Bob and Carol from accounting"

But sweetie, you know tonight is my presentation at the Philatelic Society and they are giving me my 25 year pin...then I'm supposed to meet the fellows from the League of Bald Headed Men at the lodge for a game of snooker....

"Dont be silly , sweetie, you know how much this matters to me. What should I wear? I look fat in this frock, dont I?"

(dully) yes dear

"What???!?? I look fat?? Oh my god. Are you serious sweetie? I do? How could you say that?? What about this one? Wait. Sweetie. Look. I really look fat in this?"