How do you go from fantasies to reality?

[satinmarabana]

Some recent events have me fantasizing pretty heavily about having a sexual experience with another woman. I've had these fantasies off and on over my life, but never quite as strong as recently. I've never acted on the fantasies, although, in the past, there were women I thought were very sexy and I was so tempted to try to be with them.

So I guess I hike my "Bi" flag a little higher and ask, how do you move from fantasies to trying to make it happen for real? How do you get yourself to do that first time? How do you explain that you just want to try things and you're not looking for a serious relationship?

What's your story?

 

[gaymm]

Some recent events have me fantasizing pretty heavily about having a sexual experience with another woman. I've had these fantasies off and on over my life, but never quite as strong as recently. I've never acted on the fantasies, although, in the past, there were women I thought were very sexy and I was so tempted to try to be with them.

So I guess I hike my "Bi" flag a little higher and ask, how do you move from fantasies to trying to make it happen for real? How do you get yourself to do that first time? How do you explain that you just want to try things and you're not looking for a serious relationship?

What's your story?

Just like that...be upfront.

I have been with several guys which was a first time for them...The best experiences, at least for them, were the ones who told me upfront. I have been with some guys who I suspected it was a first time, but I try to avoid those situations, if I can.

Also only you can answer the question when you are "ready" to go from fantasy to reality. For some the reality is not as enjoyable as the fantasy, for others, the reality couldn't happen soon and often enough.

I wish you luck, be reflective in your actions, and try not to put yourself in a situation that you will either feel uncomfortable in, or that you don't think you can back out of.

As I said, be upfront. I have had some very nice (and very tame by some standards) experiences with first timers who were experimenting with a fantasy, and in the end made some nice friends along the way too.

 

[SashaWM]

I wish I could help...

Some recent events have me fantasizing pretty heavily about having a sexual experience with another woman. I've had these fantasies off and on over my life, but never quite as strong as recently. I've never acted on the fantasies, although, in the past, there were women I thought were very sexy and I was so tempted to try to be with them.

So I guess I hike my "Bi" flag a little higher and ask, how do you move from fantasies to trying to make it happen for real? How do you get yourself to do that first time? How do you explain that you just want to try things and you're not looking for a serious relationship?

What's your story?

I feel like you've already told my story with what you just said. I feel like I've been fantasizing a great deal more about having an experience with a woman. I'm 22 and when I was in high school I did have an experience with someone and while I wasn't looking for it to be anything serious it turned that that way. I would like to move from fantasizing and making it a reality but I have no idea about how to go about it. I feel like I'm the only one with these thoughts and being attracted to someone of my own sex is quite my own issue. I would love to meet someone and just try something now that I'm an adult but it doesn't seem like it's going to happen. How do you let someone know you're interested? And better yet how do you know if someone is interested in you? I'm sorry I couldn't help with your questions... I guess I have too many of my own to be of any assistance.

 

[explorrgrrl]

You could grab an understanding girlfriend or gayboyfriend and go to a lesbian bar, see how that goes.

 

[miaction69]

cant advise on the girl on girl thing - it's not my thing
BUT if u feel it's right - initiate
easier said than done unless ur cetain the other person wants u too
and that - it the head fucking part

 

[cherrypies]

Not sure where you are located but you might try a swingers club. By the way, what would you like to do to me?