How Do you Communicate Without Words?

[someplace]

Been rolling this one around in my head the past couple of days. As I've skipped through the world of Lit, I wondered about how important words are here. The physical contact we seek, the mental images we fantasize about, remember and write about here are a lot about communication without words.

So how do you communicate with your lover without using words? What do you say and how is your point made without speaking? What do you think is your most persuasive body part?



[While I was posting this an old Jesse Collin Young song played appropriately: "Wake up laughing with her face. She will smile and ask you with her eyes to stay. Like the sunshine that warms the sand, she will touch you with her hand, and the touching makes you understand that's the way she feels about you."]

 

[someplace]

I'll start

Ever since I was taught to Hula dance as a child, I've had a "thing" about hands. The Hula is about telling stories with your hands (yeah, I know it's about sexy swaying hips too, but I'm talking about the graceful hands part here...)

I'm very tactile and love textures. My hands can speak volumes to my lover -- whether a nice rub, more pressure or lightly scratching, there's just so much to say. Maybe I was a massage therapist in another life.

 

[curvacious]

I think my eyes are the most persuasive. I can beg. plead, show happiness, joy, anger, and of course lust.

 

[methpez]

The eyes and face

I will agree that the eyes have a large part to do with the comunication but i think the face is where you get the main message. a slight nod, a pouting lip

 

[MissVictoria]

eyes, the positioning of the mouth, rapt attention to your partner's position.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Most persuasive body part: My eyes and my lips. I can say anything to my lover, and to my best friend just by using my eyes, and for my lover, I can speak volumes just by biting my bottom lip, for instance. My best friend and I hold entire conversations without speaking (which kinda freaks people out, if they've never seen it before), and we honestly do know what is being communicated.. and it's not about eye gestures, it's about staring at each other's eyes, and then reacting to the shared thought. (we've been friends for 17 years, so it's developed over the years).

I agree that the hands are very informative.. the way that they touch, the way that they move, the strength or softness of a pair of hands, etc. I read palms, and much can be learned through them.

What would I say to my lover with my body? I would tell him I love him, just by how I touch his face gently, or by looking at him, my eyes shining..

 

[DevilBoy79]

diferent looks, body language etc, its shockingly how much of a conversation you can have, doing just that

 

[leovc]

I use my hands.
I love to caress her black shining hair along the curve of her head.
I love to nip her hips when she comes home from outside.
I love to squeeze her breasts when we come to a orgasm together.

 

[Daddyslilpet]

I would have to say body language and with my eyes.

 

[dancinvixen]

Touching, making little "happy" noises in the back of my throat, stretching <as corny as it sounds, if a woman stretches like a cat, a man will sit up and take notice>, all sorts of things. My best body feature? My eyes. They change different shades of blue and green with my moods.

 

[someplace]

Thanks for your responses

So far, you've all come up with some good ones. Dancinvixin, I'm so glad you mentioned happy noises. I thought of one last night and couldn't get back to post it until now...

What about that sharp, audible intake of breath that often (always?) accompanies that yummy first penetration? From me, that communicates, "OMG! How could I forget how good that feels?"

And then, the softer (and sadder) explusion of air that leaves with the first withdrawal. That would be saying, "No, don't go, come back, and don't stop!" -- all in a nano-second.

Additional "happy" noises are optional with this type of breathing.

 

[Miguelito Breathstealer]

I think that there could be more to communication than eyes and mouths and hands. I have for years been cultivating the art of communication through clothing. What I wear or don't wear can tell someone a great deal about me. I have found that the same people will significantly change how they react to me, depending on how I roll my sleaves or tuck my shirt. Going without a shirt often seems to confuse people, perhaps leaving them wondering what kind of sleave man I am.

Likewise, I find, others apparel tells stories about them. Even someone who just throughs their clothes on is saying something. I usually seem to hear it loudly.

As for my favorite body part, I think it is my tongue . Even without vocal language, the tongue speaks volumes on its own. I could silently engaged it for hours if I were allowed.

 

[Saint Peter]

First thread bump!

 

[tbs230]

I apparently communicate with my face...sometimes, I don't even know I'm doing it.

A raised eyebrow can say alot, add a smile, and it means I really like something. Purse my lips with it, and it means I'm not happy. Tilted head means I'm very interested...

Sometimes just staring can say volumes as well...

and all this without ever speaking a word.

 

[alaskabibear]

Words Alone are Just Not Enough

The many posts here do tell us one thing for sure; body language is a very important aspect of communication. I know for me anyway, no matter how hard I try to communicate my thoughts and feelings accurately in email (or on posting boards like this) it usually comes up short of the mark. Without the eyes, hands and instant feedback of personal communication, it is really difficult to get beyond just basic chat with words alone.

 

[Bigg_Capone]

How do I communicate without words that I'm interested in making love (or any of the other phrases one might prefer to use for the act)?

Generally, I use my eyes. I make eye contact with whatever woman I happen to be seeing, gain her attention for a moment, dart my eyes to the nearest door and back to her again. Then I put a smile on my face and lick my lips, she giggles, I raise an eyebrow in an, "Are you interested?" manner and we usually take it from there.

My last steady girlfriend had this same technique, but she could do it with her back turned to me and her head turned to look back over her shoulder. She'd always pull that one when we were in the kitchen and cooking dinner together. I can't cound the number of meals we had to throw out completely for being so lost in one another on the floor. Timer be damned! lol

 

[fgarvb1]

When I want to I can I can be expressionless or "Never let on what I'm thinking."

This is not a good thing necessarily, it is a survival skill I learned growing up, along with misdirection,

The whole body tells the story, learning to read it can be a great help.

 

[laylayum]

I'm not with anyone right now, but in the past, the best experiences I've had with a man have come at times when we haven't had to speak to communicate.

Eyes can say a lot... You have to be willing to look deep and long in order to have your wishes conveyed through eye contact, but it intensifies things and can relay SO much with very little effort. It feels even more erotic when he has understood what I'm wanting just by looking at my eyes and vice versa.

Another way, of course, is by leading him by the hand... showing him what I want or what feels good. I also would want him to lead me by the hand if he had a desire I could fulfill.

SO, I guess my eyes and hands are my most persuasive (non-speaking) body parts!

 

[someplace]

Petey should be proud.

 

[otter09]

communicate

The eyes can tell a lot but so can a wink or a peck on the cheek lots of ways to communicate without words and if you know someone really well they have no problem reading you