How Do You Choose Your Friends?

[juicylips]

Are you the kind that makes friends easily?

You go right up, introduce yourself? Have lots of success in doing that?

Or

You shy? Have only one or two close friends?

What qualities do you look for when deciding....hey...she/he is a keeper

Cassidy

 

[tennessee]

Are you the kind that makes friends easily?

You go right up, introduce yourself? Have lots of success in doing that?

Or

You shy? Have only one or two close friends?

What qualities do you look for when deciding....hey...she/he is a keeper

Cassidy

Yes, just barge right into their conversations and introduce myself. You can get a lot of icy stares by doing that but sometimes it works.

You would be a keeper JL. You sure aren't shy!

 

[Guest]

 

[juicylips]

Good morning Juicy daaaahling


Qualities I look for are a someone who is trustworthy, someone who has a good sense of humour and someone I can relate to and chat with. Kind of like yourself, really. That is why *you* are one of my keepers

Foxy!!!

I LOVE the idea of being a "kept" woman

You know you and Summery have my heart

Cassidy

 

[VanB]

I make new friends relatively easily and will talk to anyone in a social situation. It really depends if there is any synergy of interests or any chemistry as to how easy it is with any particular individual.

However a true friendship takes years to make and I don't believe anyone has more than a handful of "real" friends.

 

[juicylips]

However a true friendship takes years to make and I don't believe anyone has more than a handful of "real" friends.

That is what I was wondering.

Sometimes you do develop an instant bond with certain individuals and you just KNOW it is going be a great friendship.


Cassidy

 

[Simply Me]

I make friends easily. I'm a very approachable person. But it takes a while for me to call someone a true friend. I have those that I talk and joke with, but only a few that I share personal information with. I agree with Van, most of us probably only have a handful of real friends. Those are the ones that you know what you have shared with them, will go to the grave with them. They are hard to find.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I'm the shy not make many frineds type

most people have to come to me. and to make a friend they have to be well nice and... themselfs.

 

[MunchinMark]

I have lots of friends. I'll talk to anyone and it takes an exceptionally dislikeable person for me not to be fairly friendly with them after about an hour. But close friends are far fewer and I don't know how I actually came to be close friends with them, it just kind of happened.

I treasure those friends because I have lost one or two in the past. I know the value of a friend.

 

[Gamelover221]

I tend to think of friendships in much the same way as someone I'd consider going out with. It is a relationship after all, just not a romantic one. There has to be some sort of initial attraction or draw. This could be anything from common interests to two mutual strangers in an unknown environment that come together for mutual support. If the two individuals in the friendship find they like each other, they tend to spend more time together and interacting, hopefully building the bond of trust between them. My only problem is finding people that can keep my faith in them long term. Every "best friend" I've ever had is great while things last, but as soon as it becomes unconvienient to see each other on a regular basis, things just fall apart. I always figured that one of the main reasons people dating get married or move in together is so they remain in constant contact and that never happens...

Hmm, that was more then 2 cents, maybe a whole nickle?

 

[perks]

we're supposed to make friend? I knew I was doing something wrong.

anyway, for reallyyyyyyyyy.......

I don't like many people, so it is difficult for me to make friends.

perks

 

[alltherage]

Becoming friends is a process not an event. I have many aquaintences and a few friends. My friends have been my friends for a long time and there is an element of trust involved but also a high level of comfort. I know these people and I know what to expect from them in good times and in bad.

 

[Demian]

I always go by who Haz the Scotch

And never trust people who find friends over the InterNet

 

[Summery]

I have always been able to approach people fairly easy. I can get along with just about anyone. Most say I am very easy to talk to. I suppose I am.


However, for as carefree as I am about meeting new people, I am cautious who I let completely into my life. Like most, I can count my true friendships on my fingers.

Trust is everything for me, in both friendship and love.

I have always gotten along better with males. Not sure why. I think because females *not all* but quite a few can be too catty!

BTW- Cassidy. Some pretty strong dynamics with you and I and Foxy one. I trust you both completely. I laugh with you both, I've cried with you both.....God knows, I have really laughed with you both......Did I mention how much I laugh with you both?

 

[Guest]

 

[bored1]

True friendships take time as do all quality relationships in our lives.My true friends go back many years,People who have seen you at your worst and still like and support you, Those friends are very special to me.I think the rest are just mere aquaintances who come and go throughout our lives.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Theres someone I used to see she dont give a damn for me-------

 

[Nigel]

I make friends pretty easily. It's hard to say what makes the "click" happen - for me, it's mostly sense of humor, "energy" (if that makes any sense), kindness, lack of prejudice, etc. Common interests helps a LOT too......

Nigel

 

[juicylips]

BTW- Cassidy. Some pretty strong dynamics with you and I and Foxy one. I trust you both completely. I laugh with you both, I've cried with you both.....God knows, I have really laughed with you both......Did I mention how much I laugh with you both?

LAUGH???

god...what we do together is probably illegal in most countries.

Seriously, I am in total agreement with you, SR. We three have "bonded" very well..

Cassidy

 

[kiwiwolf]

Jesus...6.45 am and I'm trying to think.

I have a large group of friendly aquaintances. Guys and girls I can go out with and have fun with. These folks I seem to pick up fairly easily, but I would hesitate to call them true friends.

All of my true friends are guys I served with in the Army. In the services you form a lifelong bond with your mates. Some of these guys I haven't had any contact with for years but I know if I were to run into them today, we could pick up where we left off without any trouble at all.

 

[Georgia Girl]

I meet people quite easily and can get along with most anyone, however like others there are few I allow into my heart. By nature, I am a giver and often times give too much of myself, for this reason I limit who I let close. Like many have said I can count my true friends on one hand and have fingers left over. I adore getting to know new people and don't hide myself from them. A friend told me recently that the world passes through my MSN list. Its always a good day when I get to talk to someone new.

Dawn

 

[Tyrael]

I'm like Fly there....I'm not out there actively searching for people to be friends with. If it happens, it happens.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Defense mechanisms are something I've perfected... I don't make friends readily or easily, and I generally don't let anyone really 'in'. I have friends, I'm compassionate, and helpful, and empathetic. I'll do anything for the friends that I have, and sometimes too much for them. But maybe one or two really truely know ME.

 

[juicylips]

Defense mechanisms are something I've perfected... I don't make friends readily or easily, and I generally don't let anyone really 'in'.

I know exactly what you mean! I do the same thing in r/l. I make friends easier online. I am shy and reserved in person.


Cassidy

 

[cymbidia]

I have a wide group of very disparate acquaintences and a smaller group of true friends, some of whom i've been close friends with for many years (over 20 in one case).

Very few of them know me truly to my core. You all here know far more about my sexuality than most (not all) of them, but that does not devalue their worth in my life. They know far more about my history and choices and daily-life experiences and who i am from a whole-person perspective you all ever will.

We compartmentalize ourselves, most of us.
We show certain parts to certain people and keep the rest off to the side, for use with different people, different friends. It's not wrong or bad, it's just how we are as humans. If we're incredibly lucky enough to have a friend or partner that we trust enough to truly see into the deepest reaches of our private selves, then we're fortunate indeed. Most of us will never have such a friend.

I can talk to anyone about anything.
I make new friends easily.
I carry the people who matter to me with me in life as i move along.

I've made some really good everyday life friends, people that *matter* in my life, from online acquaintences. We gotta take the friends when life offers them to us, no matter where they come from.

pcg? Can i be your friend? (FUCK i miss those smileys!)


~Make new friends but keep the old
One is silver and the other gold~

 

[Calamity Jane]

pcg? Can i be your friend? (FUCK i miss those smileys!)


~Make new friends but keep the old
One is silver and the other gold~

I told you you'd miss the smilies darlin! And, though we don't talk often, I consider you in my circle of lit people i can talk freely with.