How do people do it?

[SadLillySmile]

The irony here is that she completely contradicts herself on every post. If she's so worried about the troops, maybe she should practice what she preaches and get off the boards (and her high horse!) Ugly is ugly is ugly is ugly....

I'm sorry for your struggles, Mr. TeacherGuy. There are always people out there who don't mind being with someone attached. There are more that don't mind as long as all parties involved are aware. Loneliness is cruelly painful sometimes...I hope that things work out for you!

 

[sweetsophie512]

My wife and I are separated right now, and I am living in Denver while she lives with the kids in Tennessee (don't ask how THAT happened; it's job-related). Both of us envision getting back together eventually, but between issues with our marriage and uncertainty regarding the sale of the Tennessee house, I have no idea when that will happen.

At the moment, this VERY moment, I don't know how people get by like this. It's been nearly a month, and I'm so horny I'm about ready to explode. Going out and trying to hook up doesn't really seem realistic, considering I'm 40 (but not bad-looking at all), considering that my finger either has a ring on it or a clearly-indicated ring mark where it was previously, and considering that I'd rather just be able to be honest with people about where I am with my life at the moment.

So here I am surfing Literotica again, probably making things worse for myself. I cruised the Casual Encounters section of CL earlier, and they all sound like totally fake ads. I've enjoyed chatting with people on Yahoo Messenger now and again, but in the end, I'm still alone and taking care of business all by myself. The funny thing is, what I miss most is KISSING. Just making out, with our mouths caressing each other, and tasting each other, and tongues dancing together and floating between her lips and her cheek and her neck and her chest and back to her mouth again. I can give MYSELF an orgasm, but I really, really miss female touch and the taste and feel of a woman's mouth.

Not really sure what I'm doing here or why I am writing this or what I'm looking for in response, but I needed a place to post this and vent and talk about it without getting judged and without people I know finding out.

That's it, I guess.

KTG -

I am sorry that you're going through this. I've been through enough breakups to know that there is no formula. No one can really tell you how to get through it because everyone goes through it differently.

I can relate to what you're saying. What we miss isn't necessarily all those 'big' things, although they're important too. Those little things mean so much, don't they? Kissing means so much especially if you're kissing someone that you love because they convey emotions that words fail to say.

I could say, 'hang in there' or 'it will get better' or 'time will heal all wounds' because you know this - but none of these things will make you feel better RIGHT now. Just know that there are people out there who are going through what you are going through even if they aren't saying anything or reaching out on a board.

Will that make you feel better? Probably not, but then again, nothing will right now. *hug*

 

[KinkyTeacherGuy]

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[KinkyTeacherGuy]

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[NiceNastyMann]

I really didn't want to respond to any of this, but if you want to know - I lost my job when my school was closed, and I got a job in Denver, which my wife and I agreed would be a great place to live, and then my wife told me that she wanted to stay in Tennessee with the kids and think about our future. Considering I had no job in Tennessee, and I had a job in Denver, I didn't have a lot of choice in the matter. So I'm pretty sure that everyone involved is being selfish.

Why don't you go and haunt the married but looking thread?

Nicely played sir!

And yep, you made a lot of correct choices. No job in one place, got another. Kids getting taking care of? Always the best choice.

Your wife made a decision of her own. Meh, it happens. Not to sound cavalier, but we don't know - and DO NOT SHARE unless you are comfortable...

I meant what I said earlier. Just was very terse about it. It's a day by frigging day deal.

 

[KinkyTeacherGuy]

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[NiceNastyMann]

Sorry I went all Eeyore on everyone! Some mornings are harder than others.

There you go! It could always be worse, you could live in Philadelphia!

Zen koan people - well, if you believe that one...how about the time I spent with a dozen Swedish stewardesses?

See! Think positive.

 

[Irish_Eyes]

Sorry I went all Eeyore on everyone! Some mornings are harder than others.

Nothing Eeyore about it! You needed to vent and there are a lot of good people here willing to listen and offer helpful, sound advice. Of all the places that one would imagine finding judgmental trolls, this should NOT be one of them. And yes, it is a day by day struggle. It's yours and it's as important as that of anyone. I wish you all the best.

 

[sweetsophie512]

Sorry I went all Eeyore on everyone! Some mornings are harder than others.

Don't you hate when that happens?

 

[elusive_buttrfly]

Sorry I went all Eeyore on everyone! Some mornings are harder than others.

I prefer Pooh he's cuddly wuddly... or perhaps Tigger just because he bounces.