How do my GF and I have sex in front of another couple/friends?

[npm0812]

My girlfriend and I have a fetish, where we'd like to have other couples watch us have sex, and possibly be able to watch them. We've discussed going to sleep in a room with others, starting having sex ourselves, and hoping they'd notice. Without directly asking, what situations do you think we could put ourselves in to have this happen?

Thanks!

 

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[npm0812]

The thought was that they would just "happen" to see or hear us while we sleeping, or supposed to be sleeping. At this point, we've never talked about actually involving another couple in this. So my thought wasn't that we'd be having sex on a bed while others watched, but that is was kind of secretive.

 

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[Hypoxia]

How comfy are you with the other couple? Would you mind losing their friendship because you were uncool by not communicating first? Is your goal just exhibitionist sex, or do you want to involve them in a group / swap fuckfest?

 

[Riley69]

Mutual fun

My first wife and I started watching some porno movies with another couple back when we were all in our early to mid-twenties. Nothing happened the first few times we watched, but it became a regular thing to get together and watch porn.
One time, the other couple started some mutual masturbation and my wife and I just did the same. It seemed that everyone just became bolder and bolder each time we got together until eventually we were doing full swap.

 

[KinkyPan]

You're getting good advice here. Just sort of starting to do it and hoping they are okay with being in the room while you bang isn't really a great idea in real life (although you could definitely roleplay it). I know it's an awkward thing to bring up, but if you're so uncomfortable with even mentioning the idea, and you WANT to do it, think about how uncomfortable your friends might be if they want no part in it and they suddenly notice something they really wish they hadn't seen? I know this is your turnon, but it's not everyone's, and many people would be very upset to not have any choice whether they're involved or not.

There may be parties in your area where exhibitionism is welcome. Some swinger groups, kink groups, or others may have events. If you do try to go to that kind of party, be sure to check with a host or organiser to clarify that exhibitionism is welcome and if so, in what areas (sometimes one floor is no nudity and another is do whatever you want, etc.).

Short of that, ask your friends. It may be awkward, but I guarantee that it's less awkward than them breaking ties and quietly telling everyone you know that they did so because you started to have sex two metres from them without a single trace of consideration for whether they'd be okay with that.

I hope you find your fun, without ruining anyone else's night. There are plenty of couples who would be happy to do what you're thinking, but you have to actually make sure that's who you're with before you just go at it. Just part of being a grownup.

 

[npm0812]

Thanks a lot for the advice everyone!

 

[cuffed_kitten]

I second what everyone else said about not involving them without prior discussion. If you're too uncomfortable to bring it up with them, it's because you have even a 1% suspicion it'll be awkward and they would be against it. If you suspect even slightly that that might be against it, you cannot force it on them. Just because you find it hot, doesn't mean they do.

If you're confident enough that they'll be into it, bring it up with them. Alternatively, there are plenty of groups, clubs etc where that kind of thing is appreciated and even encouraged

 

[7inchglory]

I would make it so you guys leave the room for a long period of time so they come looking for you, and walk in on you guys going at it.