how do i............

[Guest]

I'm a bicurious female who is engaged. I have found the the perfect girl for me. My fiancee knows that i'm curious so he would have no problem with her. I need to know how do i talk to her and ask her about how she would feel about the situation. but i've never asked a girl before and i need to know about how to do that.

 

[jenjen]

I am bi curious too...my boyfriend is very supportive of me finding a girl to, um, play with? Anyhow, I have found the same problem that you are having, how do we hook up with the girl we have our eyes set on? As for me, I am finding that I just have to have the guts to make eye contact and flirt, just as though I were interested in a guy...and if the girl is interested...things will start to happen and the subject will open up....good luck!

 

[rambling man]

in a perfect world the two of you would live in the same town and both be young and hot...so you could do a little exploring

 

[jenjen]

I was thinking just the very same thing Rambling Man....I am sure it would be fun!

 

[JUDO]

It's the same

JJ & CG -

Welcome to a wider world. It's the same. Just like the first time you talked/flirted with a guy. If you remember, you were ready to be humiliated, become the town rumor, etc.

It's the same risk and the same reward. It's more risky of course if the other girl knows your family, friends, etc. In which case, I would reccomend as much 'field research' as possible (Ask mutual acquaintenances about her, what she's like, etc.)

I prefer the more romantic route. The knowing smile, the eye contact, the flirting...these tools should tell you immediately what you want to know (hopefully, she isn't a game player - yes, there are those in lesbian situations, just like straight. That's why a little field reserach is great, if it's possible).

If not, like I said before, it's the same risk as with a new guy. Keep your eyes open at first.


- Judo

 

[It'sasecret]

You guys are so lucky. I am VERY bicurious too, but my hubby is not as open minded. I don't think I will ever get to fulfill my fantasy.

 

[JUDO]

Are you kidding me?

IAS -

You bring a pet home for the both of you to play with, no strings attached, and he has a problem with that?

If he considered it, he could probably help you pick her out.

As a very funny author once wrote, "Inconceivable!"


- Judo

 

[ub6ibfine]

this might surprise u

Personally tha thought have havin 2 beautiful women n
my bed with me is a damn good idea. But if like say my
X (who i wuz deeply n luv with) wuz 2 come at me sayin
baby i want 2 be able 2 fuck this girl u can join i would
probably an literally kick her out tha fuckin door. cause
jus like plenty have said be4 about findin out if tha girl
gets down like that or not its jus like with a guy. it would
be cheatin 4 that girl 2 fuck a guy so why wouldnt it be
cheatin 4 her 2 fuck tha girl. an tha thought of my woman
tellin me im not good enuff 4 her she needs a woman 2
get off more nahh fuck that. if im not good enuff 4 her
instead of cheatin on me she should leave me. but if we
were jus fuck friendz or whateva hey thats cool get at me...

 

[It'sasecret]

I know Judo it is pathetic right? Most guys would die to have a girl who wanted to be with another girl. If you read my other posts you would see all the problems I have getting him to try new things.

 

[JUDO]

I'm stumped

IAS -

It's...beyond me. I can't imagine it. Here is a person I love who wants to try something new that could only benefit me and I won't consider it???

What planet...?

- Judo

 

[It'sasecret]

I know Judo, I just don't get it. The thought of being with another women is so exciting to me. I wish I could try it.

 

[rambling man]

the more that the experience is denied to you the more you want it..it's human nature amplified by sexual desire....i think you all should discreetly find out what it is you have been missing..

 

[SallyIsHere]

Decide what you want

Just wanted to say that you need to decide what you want. I prefer to be with a girl alone most of the time, at least at first. My boyfriend understands and I am totally honest about that. Some guys make a girl's curiosity ALL about them, the fantasy threesome. So, you better decide up front if you want to experience the joy of being with a woman or do you want bring home a girl for your guy. They can both be fun, but the are NOT the same. Personally, the first time is anxious and new and I don't want two other people to worry about. One if plenty.

Sal

 

[JUDO]

She'll have to ask first

RM & SIH -

I'm afraid IAS is in a situation where she'll "need that hall pass" before she can try anything.

I can't imagine what her guy is thinking, but it's foreign to me.

- Judo