How do I?

[llast1971]

There is someone I work with to whom I am very attracted to, I sometimes think he feels the same way. The way he looks at me, sometimes makes small comments.

He is married, so am I . But damn I want to play with him so bad.

1. What should I look for to see if he is truly intrested?

2. How should I subltely let him know I am interested?

THanks for your input.

 

[ProfQ1955]

Ah the lost art of flirting. And all of what I say will make me a pig but you asked. I would develop a plan that allows him to see some things he shouldn't to see if he comments. This would be in the area of an extra button undone. Possibly an in appropriate retrieval of a dropped item that he gets and eyeful of you. Make sure the things that he sees would get a reaction the basic white and black undergarments may be overused in seduction. Make sure he notices you. Eventually he will say something and you will say it took you long enough.

 

[llast1971]

Ah the lost art of flirting. And all of what I say will make me a pig but you asked. I would develop a plan that allows him to see some things he shouldn't to see if he comments. This would be in the area of an extra button undone. Possibly an in appropriate retrieval of a dropped item that he gets and eyeful of you. Make sure the things that he sees would get a reaction the basic white and black undergarments may be overused in seduction. Make sure he notices you. Eventually he will say something and you will say it took you long enough.

Thank you for the suggestion, funny enough I have done some of those things, and continue too, and he does respond in a subtle way. We are a small office so lots more risk of getting caught. Last week we had a company bbq and I had gone out, and as I was pulling in he was "manning" the bbq and I asked if he needed help he said he needed a "sous chef", so to me that was a subtle flirt. I had to go back to work but went back out later and asked if he needed any help again, he said no but you can keep me company.

I know the sexual tension is there, on both our parts I just need to figure out how to act on it without coming off as a freak/stalker.

 

[coacheric]

Really the first questions should be:
* Is there a policy for dating coworkers?
* small office means people will talk, do they know either SO?
* Is a divorce OK if found out?

I played that office lust before. There really is no good outcome from it. She lost her job and my wife found out thru a friend. The story went thru 5 different companies to get to her friend. And the worst part is that all we did was flirt a little bit. Never went out, kissed or anything like that.

 

[stevie717]

Definitely sounds like you have his attention with your flirting and revealing more of yourself than you do for the average co-worker. I would think the only real way to move things in the sexual direction you are fantasizing about would be to meet outside the workplace. Find a reason to talk with him about a work issue close to end of day and, because you don't have enough time to finish the conversation, tell him you would be open to meeting for coffee sometime to continue the conversation. If that doesn't work seek his manly advice on a problem you are having with your car and see if he could take a look and give you his opinion. You could always thank him with a big tight full body hug to show your appreciation.

Let us know how you do!

 

[malefica]

Look up office policy on if you get found out dating. Don't assume that either of your spouses won't find out, and shit won't hit the fan. Don't assume either of you will keep your jobs in the aftermath.

 

[EquinoxRising]

Sexually harass him at work and see if you get fired or a date.

 

[beingtrue2me]

OP, take a long slow breath. Read the comments here so far then re read them again. Slowly. So far it's fantasy and that's what we are here for. But think about it before you do something you may really regret. You could lose your spouse which may or may not be tragic for you, dunno. You will almost certainly lose your job. Office politics and gossip never ends. Flirting is dangerous enough but follow thru with it and the train has already left the tracks. It's just a matter of how big the wreck will be and how many lives it will destroy. If this thread was wank fodder then great, have at it but I do hope you stop and take some of our advice to heart.

 

[EquinoxRising]

OP, take a long slow breath. Read the comments here so far then re read them again. Slowly. So far it's fantasy and that's what we are here for. But think about it before you do something you may really regret. You could lose your spouse which may or may not be tragic for you, dunno. You will almost certainly lose your job. Office politics and gossip never ends. Flirting is dangerous enough but follow thru with it and the train has already left the tracks. It's just a matter of how big the wreck will be and how many lives it will destroy. If this thread was wank fodder then great, have at it but I do hope you stop and take some of our advice to heart.

Sound advice and spot-on! That's the difficult thing when someone says they want "advice" on a fetish board rather than the advice board.