How do I start a dom/sub relationship ?

[gluttonne]

Yes and so do I BUT that is NOT a good idea IMO if the two people involved have not discussed what they each want and can do together.

Fury

completely agreed.

without thorough and mutually clear communication, anyone trying to start a D/s relationship proper is giong to find it more tedious than fulfilling in the vast majority of cases.

 

[nymphee]

A really good way, I have discovered of going through what you like and dislike when you're new to BDSM is going to a sex toy website with a large BDSM section and each picking out the five things you would most like to try, then comparing lists and talking over the things you do or don't agree on, it makes it easier than just blurting out "I want you to spank me with a paddle" Or something equally as likely to make you blush.

 

[MichelAngel0]

newbies r us

Very helpful suggestions... I have a small twist to the original question. I met this girl through one of the threads here at literotica, and both of us are newbies. She is very interested in trying the submissive side, but she is nervous about it. I suggested that we first meet somewhere out in the public, exchange ideas, and see how compatible we are. It would also be a way for her to assess whether or not she could trust me.
Is there anything that you can suggest that would make it easier for both of us to get started?