How do I seduce my boyfriend?

[Needssome]

In response to the room bolting, not gonna happen. Despite the fact that my bf and I are both in our early 20s and about to graduate from university, locking ourselves in his room isn't acceptable at his house. If I spend the night, he has to sleep on the couch.

Asking my roommate to leave for an hour really wouldn't be an option. Except for maybe going out to class or to the clubs she belongs to, she never really goes out. She doesn't seem to have too many friends to hang out with, though she has been going out more often lately. I'm not sure she'd have any place to go.

As for my tongue...that's my little secret

 

[RoughPlay]

In response to the room bolting, not gonna happen.

Hey, throw me a bone here!

Wow, you are a difficult girl to please.

Hmmm, how about car sex. A little cramped maybe but at least you
have your own little room.

Is there anyone who would let you borrow their room for an hour or
so on a regular basis ?

Do you have your own separate bedroom with its own door or is your
bed in the same room as your room mates bed ?

I think you are right about buttons. Most sexual activities bore me
but there are just a few specific things that really make my eyes
light up. If a girl offers them to me then she immediately gets my
complete attention. Your posts to date imply he has not told you
what his buttons are. Oh well, maybe he doesn't know either. I have
been surprised at some of the things I liked when I saw/hear about
them for the first time.

Do you ever look through his "10 gigs of porn on his hd" together ?
If you ask to see his favourite video clips, pictures, stories, etc
then you may be able to spot some buttons which you can then volunteer
to push. You probably already know this but you should always show
complete acceptance and approval of his porn collection. He's probably
quite proud of it.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

When all else fails....

This is extreme advise and I am sure some will bash me for saying it but here it goes.

You must be prepared to let him go.... Just walk away. Like I said this is a last resort option.

Tell him some time other then when you are having sex that he will either have to give it up or he is history - You will leave him and mean it.

Then the next time he won't change his focus and give you the attention that you need / want. tell him you are going to call your Ex boy friend. Then do it - call him! Make sure you do it.

Then the second time your current boyfriend wont put out say to him" I am going over to my ex boyfriend so He can give me what I need!" if this dosen't get his attention then leave him. Do it!

The only way an untimatum works is if you are willing to go all the way and follow through.

I wish that I had the problem that you are having and that my wife was the one with the high sex drive.

I also wish that I had some real advise and how to push his buttons so you could get his attention.

Good luck

Holden

 

[watergirl]

You know, the more you tell us, the less I really think you have a problem. It sounds like he enjoys sex, doens't have hang ups about it - it's just the lack of opportunity and privacy holding you two back.

So, he's not willing to go at it when his uncle might walk in, because the family isn't ok with you two having sex under there roof. C'mon, is that really such a deal breaker for you?

I know it can be disappointing, and make you feel like if he really absolutely completely adored and desired you, he'd have sex with you whenever you wanted, but face it - that's not how most people are. And if you're not willing to be a hard ass and kick your roomie out, try starting something up when she is out - just leave the ol necktie on the doorknob, or "Fucking like mad weasels, do not disturb" written on the dry erase board that every college kid has on their door.

From the sounds of things, maybe you should just try giving his limits a bit more respect. Being pushy all the time doesn't turn a guy on, it just makes him feel cornered. How long have you been together again, a year or two? Sure, that first crazy hormonal madness has paled a bit... I think teasing but holding out is most likely to make him want you harder, or as was said, peruse his porn collection, and see what he's really really into.

Good luck.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

hmmmm, 10 gigibites of porn but doens't want sex???? Something's amiss. I had a bf once who only wanted sex several times a month. After we broke up I ran into several of his old gf and they said the same thing about him. We would sleep together, he would have a hard on - but always said 'no - maybe tomorrow' type thing to me. Some guys out there (is this true?) feel like they only have so many orgasms in them and they don't want to use them all up? Guys - ever heard of this?!?!!?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

hmmmm, 10 gigibites of porn but doens't want sex???? Something's amiss. I had a bf once who only wanted sex several times a month. After we broke up I ran into several of his old gf and they said the same thing about him. We would sleep together, he would have a hard on - but always said 'no - maybe tomorrow' type thing to me. Some guys out there (is this true?) feel like they only have so many orgasms in them and they don't want to use them all up? Guys - ever heard of this?!?!!?

I onl7y have so many orgasms in me...2-4 a day, usually, sometimes a few more. After that, I'm done. Granted, it is more intense if you wait a week inbetween orgasms, but frankly I can't see anyone caring about that so much that he would actually pass up daily sex. Masturbation would be the first thing to go, I would think.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I onl7y have so many orgasms in me...2-4 a day, usually, sometimes a few more. After that, I'm done. Granted, it is more intense if you wait a week inbetween orgasms, but frankly I can't see anyone caring about that so much that he would actually pass up daily sex. Masturbation would be the first thing to go, I would think.

Ah - a man after my own heart - 2 -4 times a day would be just about right! I wondered if 'counting your cums' was a well know affliction or not. He was the only guy I'd ever heard of.....

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Ah - a man after my own heart - 2 -4 times a day would be just about right! I wondered if 'counting your cums' was a well know affliction or not. He was the only guy I'd ever heard of.....

LOL, that is pretty odd...most men I know try for more times in a day, week, whatever, not less...what the fuck would you be saving up for? In my situation, I am saving orgasms for when I am actually with someone...

 

[James MacGregor]

I can't speak for your boyfriend? But as far as seducing? "Ya wanna?" usually works for Me.

 

[watergirl]

OOO -

Here's an idea. Expanding on the back of the car theory, why not expand the number of places on campus you can get laid?

Elevators, storage closets, use your imagination, dang it!

 

[crazybbwgirl]

LOL, that is pretty odd...most men I know try for more times in a day, week, whatever, not less...what the fuck would you be saving up for? In my situation, I am saving orgasms for when I am actually with someone...

hee hee! He was a weird one. Guess I'm making up for it nowadays. My current on-again - off-again lover can cum 3 times in an hour - and he's 50! (geesh - wish I would have met him when I was younger!)

 

[Needssome]

Okay, okay...seriously...I guess I made things worse than it sounds. A big part of the problem is the fact that he's busy and so am I. A lot of the time when we get together it has to be at his place because he needs to do some of his homework on HIS computer b/c he's a computing student and mine just isn't up to snuff which kind of cramps our style if we want to do any actual sex. Doesn't mean that no groping is involved (yes I can be quite a tease ) but it can't be anything really fantastic.

As for the roomie, sex isn't forbidden when she's around it's just really uncomfortable for both me and the boy. And I'm going to sound even harder to please, but as for car sex a) neither of us owns a car and b) I live in Canada and it was -17 degrees Celsius (without the windchill, -40 last night) so even if I did have a car, car sex is relegated to summer months. I've tried having car sex in the winter in the past and things just don't seem to work so well for the guy, and you literally freeze your ass off.

As for leaving him, I'm not willing to give him up without at least trying all I can. Except for the sex thing, he has pretty much all the qualities I've looked for in a guy. The question is do I leave the first guy I've been with that I could actually see myself being with for the rest of my life, or return to guys who really enjoy sex but who I knew I couldn't date for any period of time. I love him and I don't know if this is worth dumping him over. We would probably have more sex if we actually lived together because a great deal of those other barriers would be gone.

In case you're wondering, I did manage to talk him into a quickie before his good friend came over to hang out. Plus, it also meant I was over at his place to watch Trading Spaces! (I don't have cable).

 

[Needssome]

Oh yeah...I forgot in my previous novel to mention about his porn. I'm sorry but be very accepting of his porn? Hell if I had a bigger hd I'd probably have just as much. He knows I like to watch it, and we've watched some of it together. The fact of the matter is, when it comes to sex in general there are very few things I will draw the line at not even attempting once. I won't do golden showers or (ahem) the browner variety. I also don't go in for erotic asphyxiation. Beyond that, I'm open and I've made him very aware of the fact that he should feel comfortable doing or asking for whatever he likes.

I know that if I'm actually in the room with him, if all else fails, a bj turns him. Unfortunately that doesn't help me when I'm at my place all alone, he's at his and I want him to come over (or cum over as the case may be). So the question remains, how do I seduce him?

 

[RoughPlay]

So the question remains, how do I seduce him?

Move into a flat together with no other room mates. Minimise
external pressures like work and school. Ease back on your
sexual pressure and allow things to proceed at your boyfriends
pace. Get him to show you his favourite porn clips as opposed
to the average stuff then do what the women do in them. Find
porn (videos, pictures, stories) including activities he has
not seen or heard of before and show them to him. Discuss which
bits if any he really likes. Experiment in real life and keep
watching out for his buttons.

I realise this is not the answer you want to hear but I doubt
anything else will help much. If you try staving him of sex then
he will probably just masturbate.

 

[Needssome]

Staving off sex will probably never be a possibility...I really have a VERY hard time saying no if asked (verbally or by other methods ). Moving in together will not be a possibility for another year and in that time my school pressures will probably increase....But really, I'm not going to complain. He skipped class yesterday to drive me to an interview for grad school that was 45 minutes away and then he sat around by himself for 2 hours while he waited for me to be done and didn't complain at all. Only problem is his sweetness turned me on even more...oh well...he's worth it.

 

[RoughPlay]

Hi Needssome

Some more thoughts, I just can't resist your thread.

As regards your roomie I would say that your need to have enjoyable
sex is far more important than her feeling uncomfortable and presumably
making you feel uncomfortable in turn. You only live once and if you
don't enjoy it now that's it, game over.

Personally I would feel very guilty and uncomfortable if I felt I was
inhibiting someone else's sex life and spoiling their fun. Have you
spoken with her about ? What does she really think ?

As regards the noise would a gag that absorbs all the sound help ?


Your boyfriend will only be able to sustain a certain number of orgasms
per week. If this is exceeded he will lose interest and not get hard
until he has had time to recover. It doesn't matter how much you pressure
him all he can do is push you away.

However there is no particular limit to the number of times he can
masturbate you. For most men giving a woman an orgasm(s) is a very
satisfying experience, a real achievement. It doesn't matter how its
done. He won't come running to your place to use his cock if his sex
urge is already exhausted but he might like to come running if he can
use his fingers/thumb.

Have you seen the 'Try This & Report' thread on the 'How To...' board?
I think it looks quite interesting.

 

[Needssome]

Glad you're enjoying my thread! As for my roommate, let's just say I've never even considered discussing sex with her. I don't know...she seems a little immature...doesn't really care about sex that much. She's a little odd, talks to herself (like entire conversations where you'd think there was somebody else in the room) and has a hard time speaking clearly, especially when she's really excited or upset about something. On the whole, she's quiet, neat, and easy to get along with since we barely talk to one another. The thought of telling her to get lost so I can get it on with my bf is kind of out of the question. On the plus side we're only going to be living together for 2 more months and then I'll be moving somewhere. Unfortunately I haven't figured out where exactly that will be.

I have offers from several grad schools and depending on which I choose it will determine where the next 5-8 years of my life will be. I could stay in the same area where my bf lives which means just moving myself to the university down the street from the one I currently attend or worse case scenario moving to the other side of Canada (which will mean it will be a VERY long distance relationship). So, I'm not really prepared to ruffle my roommate's feathers when there's less than 2 months to go. But thanks for the suggestion anyways!

 

[RoughPlay]

Your roommate holds entire conversations with herself!
Oh my god, boy do I feel for you. Still for two more months I agree its not
worth rocking the boat. Who knows what the voices in her head would
tell her to do.

5-8 years sounds like a long time. What sort of grad course will you
be taking? Will the local University be as good as more distant ones
as regards course quality and being suitable for you ?

My sister selected a particular University partly because it was nearby
and allowed her schoolhood boyfriend to continue seeing her. They got
married after she graduated and then had a very bitter break-up several
years later.

I'm very impressed you have your own porn collection. Most of my online
conversations have been with women from mainstream penfriend websites.
If you mention things like sex its like you're a total pervert who needs
to strung up by the testicles. When I came to the Literotica site it was
like entering an alternative universe in which the women actually like sex.
Very refreshing.

I would be interested to know what you have in your porn collection, or is
that another one of your little secrets ?

Incidentally what does being a Super Sleuth involve ?

 

[Needssome]

Good heavens you're full of questions! As for 5-8 years of school, I want to get my Ph.D. but I have to get my M.A. first as well. As for schools, according to the profs I work with the one in the same city is actually the best in all of Canada for what I want to do and is really difficult to get into (but I got in!!!!!). Only problem is it also happens to be the same university the two of them attended for their graduate work so it's hard to tell if that's what really is the best. I certainly wouldn't stay here just for my bf, I love him but my education is most important. However, he has talked about looking for a job where ever it is I choose. Fortunately it looks like what the profs' 2nd choice is as for best in Canada also happens to be only an hour and a bit away from where I am now...and an hour and a bit closer to home home as well. My other choice in my top 3 is also an hour and a bit in the opposite direction from where I am now. The profs' I work with aren't overly thrilled with it (not that it's a bad school, still one of best in Canada overall) but a prof there who has agreed to work with me also happens to be the top in her field of research and is very well known. What can I say it's a very hard decision. Too many people want me!

Yes, I have a porn collection. Unfortunately, I don't have a big hd so I download what I can, watch it, and then delete it once I've watched it enough so that I get bored.

And finally....The super sleuth thing is left over from my avatar starring Nancy Drew. Unfortunately, I haven't gotten to solve any mysteries myself. But hopefully the research I'm doing for my thesis will shed some light on the mysteries of the mind!!!!

By the way, how exactly will all this help me seduce my bf? Of course if you can also show me how to get him to buy me flowers as a surprise I'd be much appreciative of it! Telling him to buy me flowers just isn't that romantic!

 

[RoughPlay]

I hope you're full of answers, I can keep going for ages.

What are you graduating in? Is this what your M.A. and Ph.D. will be
in too? I would like to know more about what you study its obviously
very important to you. You can PM if you like. All three graduate
placement options sound good to me, its nice to be wanted isn't it.

You're the first person I've spoken to online who is intending
to do a Ph.D. I was wondering where the intelligent women were
hiding. I love this Literotica site.

Nancy Drew sounds vaguely familiar but I don't think she's that well
known in the UK. We have Agatha Christie's Miss Marple. A sixty something
spinster who is very good at solving murders but is somewhat asexual.
Having looked up Nancy Drew on the internet I wouldn't mind doing a swap
though perhaps Miss Drew is a bit too young.

As regards seducing your boyfriend I've said all the useful things I
can think of for now however the title of your thread wasn't the only
thing that interested me.

If you want your boyfriend to buy you surprise flowers I would suggest
you buy him one of the numerous books that describes the differences
between men and women and how to improve relationships. Perhaps doing
this would be indirect enough for you. I think many men would be happy
to do more for their women if they only knew what they ought to doing.

Ideally you might get the BDSM version of such a book which in addition
to flowers would also have the man tying the woman up before spanking
and ravishing her. Unfortunately I don't think its been published yet.

My wife really likes massages. Hour long backrubs are fairly rare but
I massage her calf's and belly every night. She's been asking me to do
her feet more often recently.

In addition to your boyfriend what sort of a response did you get from
Adult Friend Finder? What made you pick your boyfriend?