how do i make my wife slutty??

[rimpuchi]

i have a very passionate but very shy wife.. she is sexy as hell, and when she is hot -- also horny as hell...

Only thing is she is very shy... she tells me she loves evrything ... but when it comes down to the real thing.. then she backs off..

after 10 years of marriage, we have finally proceeded to food sex, and that i can really finger-fuck her hard and then suck her dripping cunt-honey..

what i would really love is that she would love it and be really dirty.. i want to try bondage (both ways)... to go down on her and have her spurt over my face.. to suck her after i have cumm in her pussy.. to have her piss on me.... have sex in the kitchen, bath, hell - anywhere else than a bed for a change...

any hints from the ladies???

 

[iioopp]

The only person who can help you here is your wife, you need to talk to her about certain things. Don't just say I want you to do this... say that you want to increase your sexual adventures and try new things. You can't make her change but only ask her.

Also that is not really slutty, don't really refer to it as that, you want her to be more adventurous.

 

[Glistening Girl]

Just curious if she reads this board at all? I used to be rather shy about doing things until I started spending time here and a couple of other sex boards. Now my hubby looks at me and wonders what has happened to his wife that wouldn't have anything to do with certain things and now is the one to bring them up.

I agree with iioopp in that slutty isn't the right word. You want your wife to explore her sexuality and open up to new ideas. Right?

 

[BigDogCST]

Just curious if she reads this board at all? I used to be rather shy about doing things until I started spending time here and a couple of other sex boards. Now my hubby looks at me and wonders what has happened to his wife that wouldn't have anything to do with certain things and now is the one to bring them up.

I agree with iioopp in that slutty isn't the right word. You want your wife to explore her sexuality and open up to new ideas. Right?

i would like my wife to be the same, i'm actually trying to get on to read this site, any suggestions

 

[FinePhilly]

Definitely have her read this site if possible.

But she may never agree to piss on you. You say slutty...some say weird.

By the way, I wouldn't use the term "slutty" either! That might just get you slapped....and not in the way you're hoping.

 

[BigDogCST]

o i wouldn't use the word slutty but i actually was talking about her getting more active and doing MORE in the love making

 

[onebadkitty]

Start off slow, I also don't think she is going to pee on you any time soon - maybe never. With that said, maybe get some soft porn to start off with and see if she'll watch it with you and maybe make a game out of imitating some of the stuff you see on-screen. Buy her something sexy - make her feel sexy... that is the best way to get her to warm up to new things, in my opinion.

Good Luck from a "slutty" wife!

 

[tigerjen]

Communication w/ your wife is going to be key in this.

Take things slow....maybe try one different thing one
night when you both know that you'll have oodles of
free time w/out any interruptions!

I agree w/ others here....."Slutty" is not really the
right word......definitely sexually adventurous is more
like it.

Good luck!

 

[rimpuchi]

thanks for the support

hi everyone

thanks a lot for your support and ideas.... it does seem that we are then on the right way...

we have started reading sex-books and erotic stories..

i humbly apologise for using the word "slutty" - could i blame the endless porn stories that i read?? on i think i should blame my masculine arrogance, and i wish to apologise if i have uspet anyone...

i do love my wife al ot, and the last thing i would do is hurt her..

imagine, we are married over 10 years, and she only needs to cuddle me and i have a raging hard-on...

i think i am really lucky, and i know to value it...

hope to introduce her to literotica friends soon...

any tips on good sex-films to start with... not any anal sex... or bdsm (may be later?? ), but good old couple sex, oral, maybe light bondage....
strange as it seems- it is really difficult to find such films...nowadays..

 

[Vixandra]

Well, if you can watch it without laughing, Hentai may be a good porn media. Can find everything from soft-core innocent sex to raging BDSM-tenical demon mayhem.

And I'd avoid the word "Slutty" too. Try for adventerous, bold, becoming the temptress that she truely is.
Much more flattering and without the social stigmata attatched to "slutty."

 

[vargas111]

Classic!

We never seem to get these plaintive pleas from women who can't get their husbands to try new things. <sigh>

Women who like sex have it easy; men who like sex have it tough.

 

[Short On Luck]

There lies my Dilema...I guess sombody has to out of the norm or they wouldn't know what the norm is....I grew up intensely submerged in the porn industry...not doing but behind the scenes stuff...and after that I thought there really is nothing exciting it was all old nothing to discover. So after awhile I had no drive to do anthing different, just ok do it, feels great, done!
And having an S/O more sheltered he was insatiable, we had issues of course and now I have grown un-believably comfortable and adventurous, and if I can say so insatiable, but I must now chase my S/O down. It's stupid want, want, want, then nothing???????

 

[herecomestherain]

"Relationships; I thought, finally! A man who can make a woman feel like a girl. And who can make that girl feel like a slut. And who can make that slut feel like a woman."

Megan Mullally
Will & Grace

As an aside, that quote turned me onto the word slut. I guess we want to be loved for all our facets.

Sometimes we don't want to reveal all our secrets for fear that the men in our lives may just be too shocked at the extent of our desires and the wildness of our imaginations.

Your wife sounds lovely and slowly willing to share more of herself with you, be as encouraging as you can. Take little steps. You want to try bondage, hold her arms above her head on the bed, hold her thighs apart with yours, put your hand across her eyes when you kiss her, go gently. Even after ten years of marriage there are always new things to discover. We're heading on to 16 years together and having a great time exploring, it's never been better.

On the finding adult films question I can recommend freddyandeddy.com for reviews written by a couple, a very cool couple at that.

A really mild but fun film we bought at that site was Sexual Secrets from the Alexander Institute. The reason I mention it is that it's very much about communicating. It sort of eductional without being instructional if that makes any sense. The couples talk about what they like and what they do including a little sub dom play, a husband whose handplay techniques lead to his wife ejaculating, sex in the shower, a woman who fantises about making love with two men etc. It's well made, has good looking people including the adult film star Charlie and her very gorgeous husband Jonothon. It might be a nice way to bring up some of the things you might like to try. We found it good for that. Even just watching and being able to say "wow that looks so hot'" can start you talking .

Good luck.


http://www.freddyandeddy.com/videoreviews/lovingsex/sexualsecretsdvdreview.htm

 

[Sappholovers]

Recommendations for an erotic movie

" what i would really love is that she would love it and be really dirty.. i want to try bondage (both ways)... to go down on her and have her spurt over my face.. to suck her after i have cumm in her pussy.. to have her piss on me.... have sex in the kitchen, bath, hell - anywhere else than a bed for a change..."


Women, please correct me if I am wrong, but my own sense is that if you want a woman to get "dirty" with you, "dirty" language does not work, at least not at the beginning...or not until more in the midst of things....

Honesty can be a very powerful aphrodisiac, and one can be very honest about what one wants--even "dirty" stuff--without getting vulgar or dirty. Drop the voice down an octave and just offer the confession, in a passionate way: "I would love to make love to you tonight in the kitchen, with you bent over the table."

Better yet, cook the dinner, clear the table, and then after doing the dishes, perhaps with your wife's assistance, kiss her beautifully, passionately, and then whisper that to her how speical she is to you and then confess, without whining or begging, that you would love to take her right there, in the kitchen.

Also try getting for dinner her very favorite dessert....

OK: About erotic movies. For couples and for women, I highly recommend Candida Royalle's "Urban Heart." It is a series of erotic love vignettes, with attractive actors and actresses, nice photography, and the scenes feature passion and alluring erotic play, not just pumping and grinding. There's also a scene in an elevator where the woman has compellingly real orgasms.... the first real orgasms by a woman (played by Chelsea Blake, an older actress) I ever saw in a x-rated commercial movie. I think I wore out my VCR rewinding to that scene. This scene also has an erotic fruit eating scene at the end. Watch this movie with your wife and then have some fruit in the kitchen.... you might get lucky.

 

[Ladyinred59]

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[Winemaster]

agreed

I get very turned on when we start talking sex in public out of the blue....when she says what she liked and turned her on...that is the time to mention what you would like to try.....

 

[bob159487]

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[Ladyinred59]

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