How do I Let Him Know

[Allana4]

How do I Let Him Know I would like to play

I need some help from gay guys or bi guys on Lit

I have a work colleague who is openly effeminite and gay

I love to crossdress but not openly and I would like to show him that I am interested in him to satisfy my desire to have mutual masturbation or even better swallow his cock

How do I broach the subject and let him know that although I appear straight I am more than curious to satisfy my fantasy of being with another man

Hope someone out there can help me break my drought

Allana Heels

 

[Sturm]

Would like to see how this goes, being in a straight-by-default situation myself.


But my advice, don't push him.

 

[Hitchiker69]

I'd ask him out for lunch, or, even better, for a drink after work. Make a lot of eye contact while you talk. Sit close to him. Compliment his clothes. Drop some hints like commenting on hot looking guys in the bar. Touch his arm or hand once or twice while you talk. Tell him you have gay friends, neighbors or cousins. If he doesn't respond to this, drop it. He's not interested. If he does respond well invite him back top your place for more drinks, and it should all progress nicely from there.
Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

 

[SilkyDave]

ask him out for drinks, like said, make it very casual, start a conversation about yourself after a few drinks then see if he take the bait, open up some more then tell him you want him, make sure he understands it is confidential, be sure you can trust him, good luck

 

[Chrissi]

What Hitch and Silky said, good advice.

Talk to him, engage him, go out for a coffee at lunch, don't be too eager. Friends are nice to have also. If you think he has nice clothes, eyes, smile, shoes...(whatever)...compliment him on that. But take care not to make the compliment over the top, some guys are put off by that. A casual mention..."Hey, those are great shoes, where did you get them. (or I have a pair just like them)" or "You know, you have a nice smile..."

That is always a nice way to start a conversation.

good luck
Topher

 

[Experiencedguy]

Look, I have said this at least 100 times at this site:

DON'T FUCK WHERE YOU WORK

One or both of you is subject to getting fired. I don't care the company or the policies. I had a job at the largest employer in the state, and was offered the choice of resigning or letting the other person get fired. It will usually get one or both of you in serious trouble.

Take my advice and save yourself the headache and heartbreak. Of course, there is nothing wrong with the two of you becoming friends, sharing meals, and even having a few drinks. But, sure enough, if you fuck each other, sooner or later it will come out.

 

[reachedme]

sadly, as above, if you want to remain straight to your work colleagues then stay away if you want to be out and proud ask him out and maybe have the time of your life