how do i know if she cums ?

[guest]

me and my girlfriend have sex all the time but she never "squirts" so its very hard for me to know if she cums or not

she screams and all during sex but im not sure how far away she is or if she cums

any way to know if she does or not ?

thanks

 

[Natalie Nessus]

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[Rambling Rose]

generally when a woman achieves orgasm her vaginal walls contract strongly several times and you should feel the grip. Also her nipples will become very stiff and sometimes you will see a rosy flush on her skin.

 

[Julian]

Just ask, but don't be a falling brick to the head, smartie. Be gentle, caress her body & whisper, "Did you enjoy that as much as I did?"

If she smiles & kisses you, then there's no problem. If not, or she adds, "Yes, but...", then you're in trouble. Ask her what she likes and dislikes.

You'll be fine.

Adios!



Julian

 

[Azwed]

You can look at the pupils of the eyes too. If I remember correctly the pupils will dialate(sp) after orgasam. I mean you should be looking deeply into her eyes anyway right?

 

[SexyChele]

Why not try asking her? It's the easiest way to know~

 

[Young Knave]

Why not try asking her? It's the easiest way to know~

But then you're depending on a woman to tell the truth...

 

[lilminx]

But then you're depending on a woman to tell the truth...

If she wants to orgasm, then she will tell the truth...

 

[guest]

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she says that she is enjoying it and everything and that sometimes she can fell it in her stomach and starts moaning

but i dont know if she is just being nice and doesnt wanna make me feel bad by telling me it doesnt do much for her

i dont know maybe i just need more self confidence

 

[letsallgetlaid]

after sex

After sex does she roll away from you with a bored or angry look? If so you've messed up. Does she lie there immobile? You've done very well.
But mostly be honest and tell her you want total honesty from her.

 

[AnotherSmartAss]

Tough question

I would tend to agree with Lilminx. If she ever wants to cum again she'll be honest. I went ahead and asked my wife outright. One good tip - wait til the moment is over - talk to her the next time you are alone. It's just to desperate and sad to ask right after sex. My wife says she would never lie - cause if she did I would keep doing it wrong! No one wants to see that happen. If she loves you - and plans to have sex with you in the future - she's probably telling the truth. You may want to work on your self esteem. If she says it's good - and she says she came - she very likely did.

Last thing - keep asking questions. I have been having sex with my wife for over eleven years, and I often ask her how many orgasms she had. I keep track in my head, and if the numbers match up - then I have a real damn good idea just what noises she makes when she cums.

 

[cyndiesweet]

The truth

There are many reasons why women lie about this particular subject. The main thing you need to ask yourself is "is your relationship a safe place where she feels that she can be honest with you?" Can she trust you enough to be honest? If there is no safety within your relationship - she might lie to you. Create a relationship of safety and trust where she can be open with you (without feeling that she might bruise your ego), and you can be relatively sure that all of your communication is based on honesty.

 

[able]

ok quite simple this one, a woman will usually shake with tension just before orgasm that is one way to tell however not everybody is the same(be a bit boring if we were),i suggest that you try oral sex, then you can just concentrate on her and not have to worry about yourself,if you do it right you should be able not only to smell,feel and taste her orgasm(which is great),but generally there will be some abdominal muscle movement and probably thrusts but dont expect it all to happen at once, build trust between yourselves when she feels emotionally secure with you then it will happen, a quick word about the cunnilingus, dont just dive on to her clit, play with everything think of her whole body as one big erotic zone only touch her pussey with your tongue when it is visibly wet and then only slowly and very gently tease is the name of the game i am sure you will figure the rest out yourself. if you are succesful you will learn the exact sounds etc that she makes then you will know but as everyone says you could just try asking her, eventually she may relax enough to squirt and that is a really erotic and satisfying experience but not all women do so it might just be the way she is how about you stop worrying relax and enjoy your time together life is too short for hangups

 

[Trinka]

What about

getting some instructional sex books? <really> You don't have to show them to her if you feel uncomfortable, but just take one or two new things and try them. We have been married for 7 years now and do that from time to time. We'll go through a book together and pick out something new or a variation on something we've done.

The first time anyone tries anything, it will take a little practice and we all like different things. So, take your time, you'll know when she likes it. My hubby likes to touch me and watch my reactions. We joke that he is doing his "experiments." (This is even more of a turn on because I know he is wanting to please me!)

If you don't show her the book when you buy it, chances are she might ask where you learned whatever you did to her. Show her the book and tell her you bought it to please her. Ask her to pick out a few things she would like you to do.

Have fun

 

[Trinka]

squirting

I wouldn't use "squirting" as a sign of orgasm. I am multi-multi-orgasmic and I have never squirted. I understand this is something a very small percentage of women do. The part about "lying there immobile" is definately true . Something with all those body chemicals and orgasms just makes me feel like mush and kinda paralyzed at the end.