How do I have more naked time with friends?

[Grey Shadow]

I enjoy social nudity. Usually on a nonsexual level. When I was younger it seemed to happen spontaneously. In middle age, not so much. I’d like more social nudity in my life but it’s tricky. I’ve already got a pretty full social calendar. Also I’m cautious about legal entanglements because I work with minors. Thoughts?

 

[jehoram]

I enjoy social nudity. Usually on a nonsexual level. When I was younger it seemed to happen spontaneously. In middle age, not so much. I’d like more social nudity in my life but it’s tricky. I’ve already got a pretty full social calendar. Also I’m cautious about legal entanglements because I work with minors. Thoughts?

Well, you're in California, so you're probably not too far from a nude beach or a resort. This web site might be helpful, although there are probably more than a few dead links.

http://www.naturistplace.com/nudeusa.htm

 

[Grey Shadow]

Well, you're in California, so you're probably not too far from a nude beach or a resort. This web site might be helpful, although there are probably more than a few dead links.

http://www.naturistplace.com/nudeusa.htm

Not so much dead links as pages that are over a decade old. I used to go to Blacks Beach but ever since they built a proper trail it has been taken over by fully clothed UCSD students. Its more of a hiking destination that happens have a beach as part of it. There were a few nudists when I went last but they were outnumbered by the textiles three to one at least. Haven't had the heart to go back.

 

[Grey Shadow]

I think what I'm really looking for with this question is how do I get my friends in situations where we can take our clothes off? After they way things were when I was younger it seems weird to me that I don't know what my fiends look like and they don't know what I look like. It feels like a lack of trust. I find it a little depressing. I don't think I'm the only one who feels that way either, but its hard to even bring up the subject. I'm looking for excuses that seem natural and not pervy.

 

[jehoram]

I think what I'm really looking for with this question is how do I get my friends in situations where we can take our clothes off? After they way things were when I was younger it seems weird to me that I don't know what my fiends look like and they don't know what I look like. It feels like a lack of trust. I find it a little depressing. I don't think I'm the only one who feels that way either, but its hard to even bring up the subject. I'm looking for excuses that seem natural and not pervy.

Check out the nudist resorts in your area, and if the vibe is right, invite them there. Or install a hot tub in your back yard, with suitable privacy provisions, and have a party where clothing is either optional or forbidden. (They can be pricy, but I hear that you can get inflatable ones for less than a grand that might do it for you.)

I've been to a few such parties, and nobody had any qualms about shucking it all off.

 

[SandyWhitlock]

It's probably a maturity thing or the need isn't there to be experimental with friends since they are older. I had a group of friends we would end up naked a lot together in my late teens to maybe mid twenties. Usually there would be drinking involved. One of our friends tried to get it going by jumping in the pool naked but it felt more awkward because no one wanted or didn't follow his lead. Also we all may have been drinking some but had it under control.


Also us internet strangers don't know your friends. We have no idea what their motivations would be.

I think what I'm really looking for with this question is how do I get my friends in situations where we can take our clothes off? After they way things were when I was younger it seems weird to me that I don't know what my fiends look like and they don't know what I look like. It feels like a lack of trust. I find it a little depressing. I don't think I'm the only one who feels that way either, but its hard to even bring up the subject. I'm looking for excuses that seem natural and not perv

 

[curioustxn]

I think what I'm really looking for with this question is how do I get my friends in situations where we can take our clothes off? After they way things were when I was younger it seems weird to me that I don't know what my fiends look like and they don't know what I look like. It feels like a lack of trust. I find it a little depressing. I don't think I'm the only one who feels that way either, but its hard to even bring up the subject. I'm looking for excuses that seem natural and not pervy.

A lot of people like nudity, and would enjoy it, but because of the social taboo of it, never reach out to anyone. If it were me, I would spend some time determining which of my friends I could trust, (implicitly), and when I felt I had indentified those who might enjoy nudity, (even in a non-sexual way), I might ask a question in the third person. At the right moment, I might mention that I had read an article about nudity that was interesting, then ask *their* opinion. Since you aren't asking them directly to be nude, (rather a hypothetical question), they should give their honest opinion.

If their answer is positive, (what you want to hear), then taking your time, you can take the conversation to a more personal level. Few things in life happen by accident. Almost always, you have to make them happen. It takes time, commitment, patience and perseverance. But if you want nudity with your friends, rather than with strangers, you can make it happen.

I have a friend who did this. After he determined which of his friend's he believed would be interested in nudity, (some were friends, some were family), he invited everyone over for a nude dinner one evening. Everyone showed up, prepared dinner, and set the table fully clothed. Then took off their clothes, and had dinner. The distraction of eating made it easier for everyone to be naked in front of others for the first time. After dinner, they sat around the living room chatting about the things they always talk about, and by the end of the evening, everyone was comfortable with being naked in front of each other.

We were born naked, and being naked is a natural state. It is society that has taught us that it is taboo. When you get used to being naked in front of your friends, (and family if you wish), it feels normal.

Incidentally, nudity within a family is not incest.

 

[Grey Shadow]

You all have given me a lot to think about. One thing I’m going to do is revisit Black’s Beach. I have one friend who is pretty regular there. She has found that, the north end is more generally nudist. She gets gawked at less. Traditionally it was the gay end of the beach but separation seems to have broken down.