How do guys act/look sexual?

[Da1337dude]

I mean, the girls have all the options!

Low cut shirts, cleavage, miniskirts, tight jeans,short shorts, see-through clothing, not wearing underwear, 1001 different flirt poses, a lot of different ways to accidentally-on-purpose give a guy a look...

What can guys do?! We don't have any equivalent to boobs, we don't have designatedly sexual clothing, and if a guy tried to visibly not wear underwear, he'd just look stupid, not hot. And some girls don't even find a penis hot to look at, they only like its function, unlike guys and pussy.

Sitting here pissed off looking through the pic forum, wishing I had something to contribute... thinking of all the hot things I'd pull if I had a female body...

 

[thesweetsweetness]

Reminded me of this...

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Although I'm more a fan of well fitting jeans and a white t shirt. Add a scruffy beard and I'm swooning. Don't forget about men in uniform also.

 

[emap]

Oooo oooo pirate Johnny Depp, pirate Johnny Depp.

OK, see women find the entire package hot or what is in the package hot. Captain Sparrow swoops in on me and I'm so doing one night stand as long as he can get it up. There's nothing else there however, just a delicious package. It's not so much what you wear as what you bring to the table under the skin.

We are mostly not visual, I say mostly because some do take the outside into the biggest bargain like a guy. For example, women can look at a guy wearing grunge clothes, either the predone crap or the actual grungy clothes and get wet. It's not what you wear so much as how you wear it.

Same thing for us girls, a gal in a barely there mini and daisy duke top isn't going to get action if she stands in the corner and scrunches down. I swear actually true, did an experiment, not me different gal, I got lucky on the coin toss.

Anyway, unless you got one of those trendy nightspots where people go to be seen, wear what you want. If you don't want a suit, don't wear it. Simply wear what you think looks good on you then believe it looks good on you. This is what makes a model a model, they probably hate most of what they wear, but they bring it so to speak and it works. Just put your head high, smile a little and get out there. Now if you are talking pictures in the pic forum well pick something and take pictures, with someone else please, and ask for outfits to wear the next time.

 

[SexyKitten1974]

I would normally have had nothin' for you, but just the other day I experienced something that changed my perspective.

I went to an event at my daughter's school. There was a dad there and he managed to make me feel wanted, sexy, and he came off as hot as hell. He did this using the simplest tools of all.

1. He made direct eye contact with me and smiled a very charming, confident smile
2. He purposely made eye contact with me a few times, seeking my eyes out through the crowd
3. When I smiled back he returned a very slight but very knowing grin

I would have melted for him had he asked. He made it clear he was interested, but did not come off as skeezy, and somehow made me feel sexy as hell at the same time.

*sigh*

Fantasies of this man now abound. You can bet I'll make sure to go to ALL the school events in future

 

[sunandshadow]

Personally I'm a fan of the following styles on men: long hair, an earring, sleeveless shirts, nicely-fitted jeans or cords, cowboy boots or clean sneakers in neon colors and/or black and white, a leather bracelet, a simple necklace (not a cross or skull, ew), and various goth and punk fashion. I'm not a big hat fan but a sharp fedora or something can be a nice touch.

And guys have just as many pose options as women. One of the sexiest poses I've ever seen a guy in is carrying something on one shoulder, with his arm on that side bracing the object. Totally showed off his shoulder and arm muscles. Leaning up against a wall is often a good one. Or thumbs hooked in belt loops. If you look at how women draw male characters, there are lots of poses they choose as attractive.

 

[desertslave]

The sexiest part of a man, for me, is a good sense of humor.

 

[Elaya]

There's lots men can do to be sexy. Ever notice how women seem to love the scruffy rock singer look? Pandora makes a mens thin leather bracelent that just says "rogue"... it's nice and devilish at the same time. I personally go nuts over guys with slightly shaggy hair, curly hair, and anything aproching neck length. Start paying attention to billboards and such with figures of guys. They always look alluring. And mostly it's just picutes of men being confident and relaxed.

Go to a music store.. and take a good look at all the men on various cd covers. Then go check out the movie store... and check out men on those covers.

Then there's slow deliberate movements. Something as simple as rubbing your stubbled jaw.. something about slow deliberate moves can be really intense.. a hint at a guy that might take his time an enjoy himself later.. Watch some flicks with brad pitt... study how he moves. Watch some girly flicks.. note what the guys set up to be the "desired object".. notice how they've been dressed for the set .. how they move, how they might have been told to stand. A man's walk can be sexy when it's confident. Not arrogant.. but sure.

I agree with what was said above... making direct, open, slightly lengthy eye contact, just enough to know it's deliberate, from a few feet away, perhaps a time or two, is a nice invite. Especially when there's confidence added on. Lots of women find a man willing / interseted in dancing pretty intersting and attractive... go take some swing dance lessons. Where's there lessons, there's dances. And often never enough men to go around. Try out wahtever you can find in your area.. country, salsa, contra, swing.. I pretty much promise you'll find single women at the dances.

 

[sereneone4u]

I do love a man in a suit

however

a man in a pair of jeans and t-shirt

so hot!

First thing I usually notice is a man's eyes and his smile, then is jawline and collarbone. I then usually move down to his hands and forearms.

Since you are not asking about non-physical characteristics, I won't list those.

 

[jamac1024]

i agree with the suggestion on looking at how male models look and pose on billboards or how an actor moves and looks and dresses in a movie where he's the romantic interest...all of these will point to one thing and it is confidence...NOT arrogance but being comfortable and secure in how you look and act....of course physical fitness helps (guys are not the only ones who like to look at sexy bodies)...if you wanna submit pics of yourself naked then you have to be comfortable with your body and not be conscious of what the "audience" thinks of you...and do not "over-pose"...be natural and, again, be confident...it will come across the picture and is sexy to see

 

[LadyVer]

The first things I notice about a man are his arms and hands. There's just something sexy about a man's arms. And the arms don't have to be muscular, although muscular is nice. I like big hands as well.

 

[shiny5437]

Edited as not appropriate

 

[LordMorningwood]

I'm a punk rock guy from way back, but I've really had the most shameless, thigh-grabbing approaches from women when I've been wearing a formal suit and tie look.

 

[jamac1024]

I'm a punk rock guy from way back, but I've really had the most shameless, thigh-grabbing approaches from women when I've been wearing a formal suit and tie look.

might be coz you look like james bond

 

[Da1337dude]

I've got nothing for muscles; I'm slim and short. Not freakishly, but quite noticeably. For myself I don't much mind, but is that unattractive to girls? Should I work out a bit more?

 

[sunandshadow]

I've got nothing for muscles; I'm slim and short. Not freakishly, but quite noticeably. For myself I don't much mind, but is that unattractive to girls? Should I work out a bit more?

Different women have different tastes. Height is usually prized by women who are looking for a dominant and/or traditionally masculine guy. Shorter guys are appreciated by women who are looking for a less intimidating, more pretty/graceful/cute guy. IMHO both men and women get the best results by figuring out what "look" they are naturally suited for and then choosing hairstyle, clothing, etc. to develop that look. Me for example, I'm a BBW with brown hair and eyes, and a mild, nurturing personality. That fits pretty well with the archetype "earth mother", so I've asked myself how I can make a stronger and clearer impression with my appearance, and chosen a hairstyle and clothing to match. You don't have to be the same thing every day, either; I am also a geek girl, so I have some t-shirts advertising that I like geek interests and humor. I really like a goth look on men, so I have a few goth outfits myself if I want to present myself as compatible to goth guys.

Think of your appearance as being like the cover of a book (and your self is the contents of the book). Who do you want to sell your book to? If you identify your target audience, and look at what they like, that's a good clue how you can present yourself as likable to them.

 

[subwannabe]

For the most part I think this is one of those Mars/Venus things. Even though some women can sometimes be very turned on by a hunky man, most women are turned on by things which aren't physical such as eye contact, demeanor, sense of humor, personality, etc. Since most guys aren't Fabio or whoever it's probably a mistake trying to make yourself look like a hunk. Most women want real, not fake.

 

[bailadora]

Lots of women find a man willing / interseted in dancing pretty intersting and attractive... go take some swing dance lessons. Where's there lessons, there's dances. And often never enough men to go around. Try out wahtever you can find in your area.. country, salsa, contra, swing.. I pretty much promise you'll find single women at the dances.

A man who can dance well will ALWAYS catch my attention.

 

[NippleMuncher]

A man who can dance well will ALWAYS catch my attention.

I recently was invited on a dinner cruise. A girlfriend of mine had won dinner for 4 on a local party boat and I was invited. It was fun to watch as the alcohol flowed and the evening progressed. Basically, all of the women on the boat were dancing with each other and only the occasional man (most notably the captain ) would venture out onto the dance floor. It was then that I realized a major difference between men and women. Women don't really care what they look like when they dance, they just want to move to the music and have fun. Guys are too worried that they will look like the club footed oafs that they are and refuse to join their more adventurous partners on the dance floor, me included.

With enough alcohol guys tend to stop caring what they look like and get out there and give their best Saturday Night Fever performance to all the girls delight. It is at this point that I am told by my friend that seeing a guy on the dance floor is like foreplay, it gets them going big time!

There is a reason they say that "white guys can't dance", in fact I'm the poster boy for the cause. Given my new knowledge, however, I plan to drink heavier so as to lose my inhibitions and get my funky epileptic seizure out there on the dance floor sooner! Anything that will get me laid I'm all for!

 

[bailadora]

It is at this point that I am told by my friend that seeing a guy on the dance floor is like foreplay, it gets them going big time!

Pretty much. That reminds me of a line from Take The Lead: "I'd kill to dance like that. It's like sex on hardwood!"

There is a reason they say that "white guys can't dance",

I don' know 'bout that. One of the best salsa dance partners I ever had was a white lad who hailed from England. That boy could dance his ass off and he knew ALL 'bout rhythm. Then again...he was also a drummer, so maybe that helped.

 

[danigrl84]

Its all about one thing and one thing only, confidence

 

[waaitg]

In a previous lifetime, I like to think I managed to learn a thing or two. Having said that:

1. Confidence is a big one in my experience. That doesn't mean be arrogant or cocky, but being secure in who you are and your abilities. Don't let others faze or intimidate you, and admit when you are wrong with graciousness.

2. Share what you know, and share credit. People who fight for credit may get ahead in cutthroat industries, but dating is not an industry.

3. Pay attention and listen. That does not mean to be able to recite word for word what the other person said but demonstrate that you have thought about your words before you speak them.

4. When all else fails, put a potato in your pants.*

W~

* PS Make sure the potato is in the front of your pants and not the back. Don't ask me how I know but trust me, it's really REALLY important!

 

[toxic_pancake]

Confidence that stops just before arrogance... It makes me want to know why

Sense of humour - cliche, but there have been a few guys who have won me over purely based on their banter.

Stubble... I can't resist!!

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I would normally have had nothin' for you, but just the other day I experienced something that changed my perspective.

I went to an event at my daughter's school. There was a dad there and he managed to make me feel wanted, sexy, and he came off as hot as hell. He did this using the simplest tools of all.

1. He made direct eye contact with me and smiled a very charming, confident smile
2. He purposely made eye contact with me a few times, seeking my eyes out through the crowd
3. When I smiled back he returned a very slight but very knowing grin

I would have melted for him had he asked. He made it clear he was interested, but did not come off as skeezy, and somehow made me feel sexy as hell at the same time.

*sigh*

Fantasies of this man now abound. You can bet I'll make sure to go to ALL the school events in future

Yes, that's how you do it. Whatever you're wearing.

 

[blulilacgrl]

There is a reason they say that "white guys can't dance", in fact I'm the poster boy for the cause. Given my new knowledge, however, I plan to drink heavier so as to lose my inhibitions and get my funky epileptic seizure out there on the dance floor sooner! Anything that will get me laid I'm all for!

Oh no, honey! What you do is say "Man I really would love to dance, but I just don't know how." Then you let her pull you onto the dance floor to teach you.

We women looooove to teach men to dance, we love to get you out on the dance floor and loosen you up. Plus for you-- you come off as a little vulnerable or at the very least open to be taught something new.

See? She dances, you dance, and you will probably get laid!

win win win!!!

Sorry couldn't resist.

 

[NippleMuncher]

We women looooove to teach men to dance, we love to get you out on the dance floor and loosen you up. Plus for you-- you come off as a little vulnerable or at the very least open to be taught something new.

See? She dances, you dance, and you will probably get laid!

win win win!!!

Sorry couldn't resist.

Oh, I'm all about the win!

I've always had a sense of how I carry myself and what I look like from the perspective of others. Here's an analogy. If you look at a professional runner, they carry themselves very VERY differently than someone who is not athletic in the slightest.

So, in the back of my mind I am conscious of how I am perceived in general, let alone on the dance floor, and let me tell you me an rhythm have nothing in common! I'm not quite as bad as Elaine from Seinfeld, but pretty darned close. It really helps if I've got a partner who can dance because I draw off of what I'm seeing in front of me. Left to my own devices I suddenly find myself surrounded by people trying to put things in my mouth to stop me from swallowing my tongue.