How did you start?

[Dontgiveup]

How were you introduced to the world of BDSM? What were your first experiences like?

 

[FurryFury]

My first experiences were tied up with online role play of a non-sexual variety that went into power exchange of a non sexual variety, which lit a fire under me that felt like it might consume me. This shocked the shit out of me, lead to research, real life explorations as far as I could arrange it and a much more comfortable understanding of who and what I am!

*sighs remembering*

 

[ecstaticsub]

I was indroduced through my own fantasies, movies, and books. And then I made the jump into real life when I found a Dom I could totally trust (which happened by chance, I wasn't looking for a Dom when I first met him)

 

[Etoile]

I had done some of the light style silk scarf type stuff, but it didn't become serious until I co-starred in a performance piece called "hot dogs and bondage."

 

[WriterDom]

Spanked a nurse in '96. Then I decided to look for someone else who wanted to be spanked. It wasn't hard to find one. Later that year I found bdsm on a web site somewhere.

 

[Recidiva]

Online. Met some heavily into it folks who were very convincing. It was online roleplay, so it appealed to my sense of drama and creative writing.

 

[SubKekiLee]

How were you introduced to the world of BDSM? What were your first experiences like?

I was about 14 years old and I heard a friend of my mom's and her husband in the guest room spanking and moaning, I was old enough to ask about it and she sat me down and told me that it was BDSM. Made me start to think and at about 19 years old I started looking for someone who could make me do it, The first guy I met was at aout 22 years old he was prolly 20 years older than me... and he started with pulling my hair and pulling on my nipples and biting them, it gave me sensations Id never had in my life and it just grew from there.. NOW I am someones property

 

[Daddyslilpet]

First time I recall being tied up by Daddy was in 1991, but that was before we really knew much of anything about BDSM. Guess we've been kinky for quite a while.

 

[Dontgiveup]

My first experiences were tied up with online role play of a non-sexual variety that went into power exchange of a non sexual variety, which lit a fire under me that felt like it might consume me.

I totally get this. The same goes for me.

 

[EmpressFi]

The first was a dabbling with a friend/lover I met on AOL with some light bondage during a visit with him.

Then I met my husband and got more into the bondage and nipple play and spanking and found I really liked it and the more I thought about it the more it turned me on. But we only included ourselves for years. Then sometime in the past 2-3 years we started toying with the idea of becoming polyamorous and decided THAT was something we wanted to try. I met Master online and he said I triggered his dom-dar and we agreed to meet. My husband is more submissive than dominate and as such has found his dominant in one of his lovers. I was collared by my Master on June 16th of this year

 

[Netzach]

I saw a photo of a Dominatrix with a guy on a leash in a punk/goth clothing store called Trash and Vaudeville when I was 15. I immediately wanted to do that when I grew up, but knew that telling anyone was probably a bad idea.

 

[intothewoods]

I met this guy in a chat room here at lit. He was smart and manipulative and pushed my buttons, and it got me all hot and bothered like nothing else ever had. He turned out to be a complete fraud, but it prompted me to investigate dominance and submission, and figure out what I was so drawn to.

 

[rthnck]

Tiny baby steps. It's all in my story "Submissive Heights"

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=239674

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Wow... this is an odd story...

I had some odd fantasies all my life, but never really had much of a thought about it...

I made a friend on-line years ago who was a submissive, and I knew nothing about this lifestyle. And we were talking one day and she told me that she thought that I would make a good Dominant... I was like WTF???? we stayed close for a while, and then we lost touch...

A few years later, I started exploring the idea of the lifestyle and met my first sub, who is really a switch... we didn't make it as a relationship but she is one of mine & rose's best friends to this day... she has been a mentor to both of us.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i think i've told this story before but i'll do it again for the ones who weren't around then *smiles* i was on AOL, in a chatroom with some friends. one of those friends invited a friend of hers in the room. that 'friend' of hers was MP i'll make a long story short, or atleast try to....it ended up that night that me and Him were left alone in the chatroom. we started talking, getting to know each other, etc...we became friends, in a later conversation he told me He was a writer and sent me one of His stories. He told me it was a BDSM story, now i had heard about BDSM but well i didn't have the best image of it in my mind.

i read His story, and we talked about it ALOT. He gave me some websites to read about this lifestyle and as i was reading them, i started nodding my head, and things started clicking. the way i've felt my whole life. so again we talked about it, and He said He would be willing to be my mentor/teacher He would not let me make my decision until i had done ALOT more research...i told Him i wanted to learn more....so there ya have it..that's how i got started. we eventually decided Mentor/student was not the relationship we wanted and we started our journey as D/s..then to M/s and now..well now we are in a transition again focused alot more now days on our Daddy/babygirl dynamic....sorry, i tried to make the long story short, it didn't work so well and i know i left ALOT out..LOL..ah well....

 

[Softouch911]

I'd read and imagined and wrote and in 1993 or 94 I gave a story I thought was well-cloaked to a friend. We had an awkward conversation and he gave me a novel to read. It was "O" (of course, lol). I said "I've read it." We talked some more. He invited me to his house for dinner -- he and his wife were both friends -- they were also into heavy SM and M/s -- turns out he was/is old guard, in fact, by protocol and training. He served as my mentor for nearly 10 years. Now my mentor is a high femme domme in a lesbian relationship who is completely comfortable with my het preferences. Sort of nice. I've been very fortunate.

Respectfully,
ST

 

[lettinggo]

I started off light, although I had no idea how light it was at the time; just the occasional light bondage and a love to follow commands or to get sammy and be punished by pleasurable means. That was about 15 years ago.

Fast forward about 10 years. When my physical needs weren't being met, my fantasies got bigger and more elaborate. I'd gotten subtle hints from someone at work that he shared my fantasies, so eventually I expressed interest to him.

Our first time together outside of work was the day he took me to the edge of a swamp under a highway overpass, cut my clothes off with a 10" knife, and introduced me to heavy bondage, flogging, and clamps. That was the day I realized I'd hardly begun to dabble in BDSM. He showed me some amazing things in the several months that followed and pushed me past limits that I never imagined I'd have the courage to approach, much less enjoy.

 

[myinnerslut]

when i was in early elementary i got a book that told a story in which a boy was caned for misbehavior in a school. my masochistic behavior bagan that very afternoon as i struck the palm of my hand as hard as i could with the hard plastic recorder i had. my earliest fantasies involved being tied up and auctioned off to a bunch of men. (no blatant sexuality, just the auction and being examined by them men or being put in the stocks for punishment). when i was 15 i saw a CSI episode in which a fetish worker is killed and to solve the murder they had to visit a fetish house. it was there i saw my first images of BDSM. everythig just clicked for me hen. i had felt submissive since about 11 but never knew the sexuality part of it before then. the first time i engaged in any BDSM with another person was in the beggining of my relationship with A.

i think that is the most detailed explination of the beginign of my intrest that i have evr given on lit.

 

[wouldloveto]

My ex and I engaged in very soft bondage, and at time she liked it rough...
but, it was a woman I met on eharmony that really opened things up for me.

She is a pain slut and I could not give her what she ultimately needed, but we are still friends and she really got me going in this area.

 

[Puman]

I (somehow) managed to stay 100% vanilla through having parents who secretly practiced BDSM and having a few friends who were openly involved in it. The pennies just never dropped until, at the age of 31, I got my first tattoo... I'd never been to turned on in my life... I'm still on the journey though... I wouldn't exactly call myself a "full-on-BDSMer".... baby steps.

 

[stageleft]

first influence

was greatly influenced by first experience.never looked back.
during the school holidays we played cowboys/indians.we had one girl with us who let us tie her to a tree.hands bound around & behind the tree trunk.we danced around her like indians.afterwards my best friend stood in front of her & playfully felt her tits over her blouse.she giggled & asked to be untied.encouraged by her giggling he kept feeling her tits.she didnt seem to mind at all & wasnt worried.
then to my astonishment he began to undo her blouse.she laughed & playfully asked what he was doing.my heart hammered as he undid all the buttons.then to all our delight he opened her blouse to reveal her bare tits.
affected by it ever since.
im pleased she genuinly enjoyed it as much as we all did.

 

[sexycaz22]

Signed up with a vanilla dating site, a few years ago, played with a guy online with webcam in a Dom/Master/sub/slave roleplay...always felt something were missing. Put it in back of my mind...until a few months ago, where I joined a chat program (left it now) and chatted with one friend, where I observed the conversation between him and his sub, and realised that it was what I were missing, the interactions between him and his sub. Since then, looked on the website, signed up with a couple of BDSM dating/personal ad sites, went to a munch and is having my first ever spanking session this Friday!

Can't wait!

 

[nickollette]

the subject alone fascinates me and ive always had an interest in it but have never really touched in this area in real life, im not sure what is holding me back exactly..possibly bc im scared of what can of worms will be opened by doing so, who knows. in general it fascinates me and turns me on, maybe i just havent found someone im willing to entrust everything to try it out.

 

[Teenage_Head]

I have always been submissive during sex, I got into BDSM proper when I was brought to a fetish club by a friend. The sights I witnessed intrigued me. It's been all downhill from there...

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I have always been submissive during sex, I got into BDSM proper when I was brought to a fetish club by a friend. The sights I witnessed intrigued me. It's been all downhill from there...

"Downhill?" As in coasting down, gathering speed all the way, or heading for the bottom of ... ?