How did you start talking about a threesome with your wife or husband?

[Oniafox]

My ex very nearly talked me and my new girlfriend into a threesome. I eventually married the new girl - with hindsight it would not have been a good idea

 

[dr2brd]

For us it was quite simple. I was fucking my wife doggy-style and she said it would be great if she could suck my dick at the same time. I replied I have only one unfortunately but we could easily find some other guy with a suitable dick. Since then it's an open topic but till now I've had only a couple of FMF threesomes with my wife

 

[zoso682001]

For us it was quite simple. I was fucking my wife doggy-style and she said it would be great if she could suck my dick at the same time. I replied I have only one unfortunately but we could easily find some other guy with a suitable dick. Since then it's an open topic but till now I've had only a couple of FMF threesomes with my wife

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[dr2brd]

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[easyoff]

Mine was easy I walked in on my wife and a guy friend doing a 69.

 

[cubbies4vrs]

Mine was easy I walked in on my wife and a guy friend doing a 69.

Awesome making lemonade.

 

[RO33RT]

For those of you who one day, while in a long-term relationship, embarked on a threesome, how did the idea come about between you and your partner? Considering you were both newbies and had never talked about this before, who made the first move? What was the “request” or “initial idea” like? And what was your or your partner's reaction like?

I ask these questions here because I am very unsure about how to open this type of conversation with my wife. It would be interesting to know what each of yours experiences were like.

My wife and I sort of cheated. Or at least my fiancé did. Jan slept with our best friend (and best man) Gary before we were married. I was pissed of course. I wasn't pissed about the sex. I'd always thought that Jan and Gary would be good together. It was that we had all been tight for years and they left me outof something that important. I was already sharing Jan with Gary. I just didn't know it. It was easy to keep it going.


We are all straight and except for MFM and Jan liking light bondage we're pretty vanilla.


I know what we do isn't really “cucking,” Certainly it doesn't count as fetish cucking. I don’t wear Jan's panties or suck Gary's cock. Everyone's genitals are normal size and functional. There isn't any humiliation involved. I suppose Jan kicked us off by having sex with Gary. I usually “direct” our play sessions after Jan scripts them. But any dom-sub dynamic is weak if it's there at all.


I don't know if any of this helps you. My wife brought this about on her own and I just went along. I suppose my advice to guys would be to find the right horny girl, turn her loose, and do your best to keep up.

 

[magicalmoments]

My first wife and I started out as high school sweethearts, lost our cherries together, both discovered we loved sex with each other and were at it like rabbits. But, we never talked about it. Never shared fantasies. After we married I read penthouse forums, she read raunchy romance, "True Love" magazines. I found the biggest turn on for me was reading letters from couples who had started wife swapping. I never shared this fantasy with my wife although she'd get the benefit of my stiffy after i was turned on reading those letters. As with most marriages our sex lives had become routine, mundane, boring. What with kids, mortgages, work and career stresses we had started taking each other for granted and sex became something we'd fit in about once every 10 days or so. One day I found an adult contact magazine in the bookstore. This was pre-internet days when swingers met through personal adverts in specialist magazines. I never knew such a thing existed. I bought the magazine, took it home and started reading it.It was full of adverts from people, some in our city, looking to hook up for sex. It also had articles and letters from readers, abit like the penthouse forum. I showed it to my wife. She was interested but very much anti the idea, I remember her saying that "if you think we're going there then you have another thing coming!". However, that was the icebreaker. We started talking about the idea of swapping partners, we started sharing fantasies, role playing, talking about how it could work, what the risks were, what rules we would have, if we ever tried it for real. Our sex lives improved dramatically. we both noticed and commented on this and we both put it down to the sharing of fantasies about bringing others into our sex life. One day, probly a year or so after i purchased the swingers magazine I got home from work and my wife told me that she had sent a personal advert off to the magazine inviting other people to contact us to share erotic times. We never looked back.
The key for us was having the courage to talk honestly and without judgement about fantasies. For my wife especially, she needed to know that I was not going to judge her negatively for opening up about her deepest sexual fantasies, and you need to remember, these are just fantasies, it does not automatically follow that she will want to make them real.

 

[Biguy77578]

I've told this story in other threads,

Before we married the wife and I were watching porn and a scene with a mmf threesome showed one male sucking the other. She asked me if I would ever do that? I told her "I would and had done it". I then told her all about my bisexual life.

The next weekend when I showed up at her apartment she had me strip and blindfolded me then led me to the bedroom, laid me on the bed and began sucking me then suddenly stopped and began again but it felt different. I pulled the blindfold off and saw a man sucking me as she yelled "Happy Birthday"!

 

[whatahoot]

My husband brought it up when we were doing the whole open relationship thing. I guess like any man, he had a huge fantasy of being with two women at once and one of the women that he was fucking said that she was open to a threesome. The difficult part of course was finding another woman and so he asked me. I agreed but only if I got to enjoy a threesome with two guys. He was hesitant but ultimately agreed.

 

[Rip_isback]

I don't know. Not yet. But she usually talks about other people who are into an open relationship. Probably trying to see and understand my reaction. We'll see...

You've asked other people on how to bring up the subject and I've noted that a lot of the answers are extremely stimulating. However it seems as though your wife has already brought the subject up to you and based on your comment above, it sounds as though she may be trying to feel you out on the subject.

How about you respond with something like: "Honey, You've talked about open relationships before. I don't know why it affects me this way but when I think about it, I get so turned on thinking about you and I having a threesome with another man (or woman). The thought of a threesome with you is so overwhelming to my imagination that I just ponder on it for a long time. What are your thoughts on having a threesome?"

 

[conquen]

I was plying my wife for more of her past encounters and or current fantasies when she got pissed and asked in a not so open way “what are your fantasies” so I told her I often fantasized about watching her have sex.

 

[desire30]

We just talk about it sometimes. We've asked a friend but she politely declined. There was another friend we realize now we should have asked but she is in a relationship now. Not against a guy either. Just waiting for the right person who will be cool and mature about it.

Husband and our best man at our wedding kidding and flirted for a few yrs.. He ended up a topic of our bedroom sex talk. New Years we were at his and his wife's house and She went to bed and told me privately,,, Please enjoy with my approval If I wanted.

 

[cubbies4vrs]

Husband and our best man at our wedding kidding and flirted for a few yrs.. He ended up a topic of our bedroom sex talk. New Years we were at his and his wife's house and She went to bed and told me privately,,, Please enjoy with my approval If I wanted.

Hope you did.

 

[JR284]

I brought up the idea of a threesome to my wife pretty soon after we entered the lifestyle, but she had zero interest in one for a few different reasons. I've never been one to push her on anything so I didn't really bring it up after that. That is until she ended up having an impromptu threesome (well, more like a gangbang) and she admitted to loving the feeling of being with multiple men at once. At that point, it seemed like only a matter of time but the opportunity continued to evade us. So I finally made it happen on our wedding night with a little surprise from me to her.

 

[old_hippy_46]

For those of you who one day, while in a long-term relationship, embarked on a threesome, how did the idea come about between you and your partner? Considering you were both newbies and had never talked about this before, who made the first move? What was the “request” or “initial idea” like? And what was your or your partner's reaction like?

I ask these questions here because I am very unsure about how to open this type of conversation with my wife. It would be interesting to know what each of yours experiences were like.

This happened when I was very young and inexperienced, and so was she. I had no sexual skills, and I came very quickly. I asked her if she climaxed, her answer was,
I don't think so
As time continues things did not change much, I was as unskilled as ever in satisfying my girlfriend. One day after a mediocre sexual performance I said'
I wish I had a brother or friend that could help making you cum. You know someone who could fuck you as well, I'm serious.
Well, it turns out someone at work has been hitting on her. He was twice her age. She dated him and had the prowess to bring her to climax. He was capable of lasting longer than three minutes, and also had a big hard cock, twice the size of my five inches. I didn't know cocks were that big. After a couple of months of her getting fucked properly. He taught both of us a lot. It was so successful all future relationships involved a second guy.

 

[peruchica]

My husband was aware that I had experience with threesomes in the past and that I enjoyed them. He was very curious about trying it and asked if I would be open to having one with him and his friend. I was surprised that he wanted to do it with a friend rather than a stranger, but he said he would be more comfortable with someone he trusts. I of course wasn't going to turn down a threesome, and we went for it. We had such a great time that it became an ongoing thing for a few months and eventually led to my husband allowing me to branch out to strangers as well.

 

[lazytrain]

My wife just had her first different cock with my blessing. She pretty much wants it all as we talked about different scenarios. She wants a MMF and a FFM. It started with our annual dirty Santa gifts and it spurred conversation and new sex toys for us.

Still figuring it out but having fun too.

 

[Travler99921]

My wife brought it up, but in a negative sense. She knew I was having sex with men, but did not want to be involved. Whie she was OK with me having sex with men but not with other women. That precuded conventional threesomes

I asked her what she thought of me having sex with two other men. She said what I wanted to do with men was up to me. I really had no interest in doing that.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

Told her I wanted to eat her as she is having sex

 

[desire30]

Hope you did.

I did and it was mind blowing. Two great men with such differences in their sexual treatment given to me. With his wife's approval made it even more special. Sadly she is very obese with other issues .

 

[Uncut1969]

My wife and I sort of cheated. Or at least my fiancé did. Jan slept with our best friend (and best man) Gary before we were married. I was pissed of course. I wasn't pissed about the sex. I'd always thought that Jan and Gary would be good together. It was that we had all been tight for years and they left me outof something that important. I was already sharing Jan with Gary. I just didn't know it. It was easy to keep it going.


We are all straight and except for MFM and Jan liking light bondage we're pretty vanilla.


I know what we do isn't really “cucking,” Certainly it doesn't count as fetish cucking. I don’t wear Jan's panties or suck Gary's cock. Everyone's genitals are normal size and functional. There isn't any humiliation involved. I suppose Jan kicked us off by having sex with Gary. I usually “direct” our play sessions after Jan scripts them. But any dom-sub dynamic is weak if it's there at all.


I don't know if any of this helps you. My wife brought this about on her own and I just went along. I suppose my advice to guys would be to find the right horny girl, turn her loose, and do your best to keep up.

Wow hot thanks for sharing sounds like a great friendship

 

[Uncut1969]

Told her I wanted to eat her as she is having sex

My dream fucklicking

 

[Uncut1969]

My husband was aware that I had experience with threesomes in the past and that I enjoyed them. He was very curious about trying it and asked if I would be open to having one with him and his friend. I was surprised that he wanted to do it with a friend rather than a stranger, but he said he would be more comfortable with someone he trusts. I of course wasn't going to turn down a threesome, and we went for it. We had such a great time that it became an ongoing thing for a few months and eventually led to my husband allowing me to branch out to strangers as well.

Wow very and lucky to have a great partner like that I am jealous

 

[Uncut1969]

i have talked to my wife a few times about having a threesome with another guy, up to now she has said no way

Mine also very vanilla not willing to try a lot of things unfortunately! Love reading about your willing partners makes me so jealous