How did you start talking about a threesome with your wife or husband?

[aziegmann]

For those of you who one day, while in a long-term relationship, embarked on a threesome, how did the idea come about between you and your partner? Considering you were both newbies and had never talked about this before, who made the first move? What was the “request” or “initial idea” like? And what was your or your partner's reaction like?

I ask these questions here because I am very unsure about how to open this type of conversation with my wife. It would be interesting to know what each of yours experiences were like.

 

[CX726577]

For those of you who one day, while in a long-term relationship, embarked on a threesome, how did the idea come about between you and your partner? Considering you were both newbies and had never talked about this before, who made the first move? What was the “request” or “initial idea” like? And what was your or your partner's reaction like?

I ask these questions here because I am very unsure about how to open this type of conversation with my wife. It would be interesting to know what each of yours experiences were like.

I guess the first question, Is your wife keen on the idea?

 

[VDrago_1369]

For my wife and I, she had expressed some curiosity on the matter. Then when the opportunity came with a friend who was keen on the idea, we just let things happen the way they did

 

[aziegmann]

I guess the first question, Is your wife keen on the idea?

I don't know. Not yet. But she usually talks about other people who are into an open relationship. Probably trying to see and understand my reaction. We'll see...

 

[aziegmann]

For my wife and I, she had expressed some curiosity on the matter. Then when the opportunity came with a friend who was keen on the idea, we just let things happen the way they did

But how did you react when she came with the idea? What exactly did she say to you first? And how did you both discuss about limits, rules etc.?

 

[YourSecretDesires]

We just talk about it sometimes. We've asked a friend but she politely declined. There was another friend we realize now we should have asked but she is in a relationship now. Not against a guy either. Just waiting for the right person who will be cool and mature about it.

 

[Sappho_CGN]

I was seduced to sex with a woman and decided to confess that to my husband. That was the starting point for a deep and long discussion about our sexual wishes and sexual activities.

We were not total blank sheets before but had not explored some ideas and had then several years more or less no sex at all.

We checked what we both would like to try and FFM and MMF belonged to that. We agreed to do everything together and never alone, i. e. I will never have sex with a woman without my husband.

 

[VDrago_1369]

But how did you react when she came with the idea? What exactly did she say to you first? And how did you both discuss about limits, rules etc.?

My reaction was that I was down for it (first one was MFF for context). We didn't really set rules or anything. Many years later we did a MFM one because of how comfortable we are with one another we just had a good time and let things happen the way they did.

 

[magic_rat]

My first 3some was with my ex wife, we were in her early 20s. I'd known she'd had a not quite 3some before 9fucked two men consecutively but not together) at college, and sharing was a big fantasy of mine.

At the time I was working for her father in law. My closest colleague was his best friend, in his mid 40s.

We talked a lot, sometimes about sexual things, and he told he how once when he was decorating at FIL's house he walked in on my wife getting changed and caught a glimpse of her boobs. She was obviously (keepint to Lit rules) 18. He said they stood there for maybe 10 seconds and he swore she gave him a little smile before he walked back out again.

I was immensely excited by this and the next day took in a few polaroids I'd taken of her naked. He liked them of course and told me what he'd like to do to her.

That night in bed I dropped into conversation that Dave, my colleague, had told me he thought she was lovely and wondered what she was like in bed (I was freestyling, making shit up where necessary!).

She found that quite exciting and told me she'd had a crush on him for years, and related the flashing experience except in her version she'd heard him coming and made sure he got an eyeful.

That led to some amazing sex and I planted the idea of him fucking her in her head. At her suggestion, I showed him some of the polaroids (she chose the ones to show, just showing boobs and bum), niot telling her he'd seen the whole lot.

Long story short, that night after the kids were asleep I made a call and 30 minutes later he was balls deep in her.

 

[Jerryteroga]

For those of you who one day, while in a long-term relationship, embarked on a threesome, how did the idea come about between you and your partner? Considering you were both newbies and had never talked about this before, who made the first move? What was the “request” or “initial idea” like? And what was your or your partner's reaction like?

I ask these questions here because I am very unsure about how to open this type of conversation with my wife. It would be interesting to know what each of yours experiences were like.

My wife began it when she began admitting to me ahile ago that a guy she worked closely with at work, they were leaving work for the day and heading to the parking lot to leave and they were chatying for awhile and he randomly whipped his cock out and it was so huge her jaw dropped and she instantly reacted by grabbing his massive cock and began stroking it being mezmerized by the size of it. She explained to me ever since she has wanted his cock in her to feel him stretch her out, she always dreams of being fucked really good.
I was caught off gaurd and was completly shocked, a little dissapointed but she seen me get extremly erect as she told me. After a few days passed and i pondered on her confession, i replied if you liked it so much then call him and take his dick.
And that is how we begun

 

[aziegmann]

I was seduced to sex with a woman and decided to confess that to my husband. That was the starting point for a deep and long discussion about our sexual wishes and sexual activities.

How was your approach when you ask your husband to start this conversation? Did you feel insecure or vulnerable of not knowing his reaction or everything was fine and he was ok with that?

We checked what we both would like to try and FFM and MMF belonged to that. We agreed to do everything together and never alone, i. e. I will never have sex with a woman without my husband.

About your first experience (FFM or MMF), everything was ok in the day after? What kind of limits and sex activities you discussed together before you take the fantasy into reality? Any moment of stress?

 

[Wolset]

Hi,
in our case, as strange as it may seem, I neved had any threesome/more fantasies with any of my girlfriend until HER. At that time we were only friends (she was with someone else), but to make a long story short, I think I did my best not to have feelings for her, but well, life. At first it was really platonic, but one day I realized that she also had a terrific body and from then on, all kinds of naughty thoughts came to my mind. And I had that insane dream one night of me and her visiting my ex and her boyfriend and having a foursome with them. A dream that ended with the boyfriend and I dping my girlfriend.
And when we finally ended together, I told her about that dream and she was ... surprisingly receptive. Turns out she had already fantasized about being with two men

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

I was already bisexual when I met my husband, confessed my desires to occasionally have sex with other women. My previous partner was possessive and did not understand how a woman could be attracted to another woman and that became the catalyst for our breakup and I decided to be upfront about my bisexuality. Thankfully my soon to be husband was understanding and within six months he experienced his first ever FMF with myself and a girlfriend of mine.

As far as enjoying a second man in bed with us, it started while we were watching porn. My husband was doing me from behind while we were watching a woman on screen being double penetrated. He noticed I was watching intently, moaning out to the men "give it to that bitch". Jon leaned over and asked me if I would ever want two men. He began to rub my back door with his thumb and it was all it took to coax a "yesssssss" out of me.

Later after our sex had subsided we lay there and discussed the possibility. He admitted it was something he had been thinking about and we slowly but surely began about a year long process of carefully selecting a second willing male to join us. I was probably the more nervous of the three the first time I ever disrobed in front of not one but two men, but once they had me on the bed doing the most delicious things to me, my apprehensions quickly disappeared.

 

[Mike130]

She told me after we were married that she had a threesome with 2 other guys when we were dating. Hot story, they fucked her twice that night. Now, during our lovemaking she often says it would be nice to have another cock to suck while we’re fucking.

Would love to turn the fantasy to reality, but she seems content to keep it a fantasy. Told her to contact an old boyfriend for a threesome but she’s not interested.

 

[FreckledSprite]

We touch base about it every now and then. His idea was to bring someone in so I could experience DP but it would not be someone I kept contact with in between sessions. That doesn’t fit how I would do things (I have no desire to have sex with a stranger. I need a connection to be willing to have sex with someone). So we haven’t pursued it.

 

[MileHighBlackDiamond]

For those of you who one day, while in a long-term relationship, embarked on a threesome, how did the idea come about between you and your partner? Considering you were both newbies and had never talked about this before, who made the first move? What was the “request” or “initial idea” like? And what was your or your partner's reaction like?

I ask these questions here because I am very unsure about how to open this type of conversation with my wife. It would be interesting to know what each of yours experiences were like.

I don't know. Not yet. But she usually talks about other people who are into an open relationship. Probably trying to see and understand my reaction. We'll see...

There is not a single way to start the discussion, your past and knowing her comes into play.

You said she has mentioned others that have open relationships, I would start there. At an appropriate time, maybe after sexual play, you could say she has mentioned others in open relationships, what does she think about that type of relationship, is it something she would like to talk about or ever consider, and if so, what would that look like to her, for the two of you.

If she says No, you have your answer. If she says maybe, she doesn't no, or maybe even a yes, this is the start to conversations.

Talk about how you you may or may not want this to work for the two of you. Is that ENM, separately? Serious relationships like real dating, feelings, love, leaning towards poly? Or do you play together only, no external relationships on your own, whether that is with women, men or couples.

Once you start the conversations, you may take days, weeks, months, years to actually act on it, do something, but know it is a possibility, never a guarantee.

 

[OldnCurious]

The subject always came up over pillow talk. I will make suggestions to my wife prior and during sex about added another person to our lovemaking. I will even let her chose who she would like join us. It makes for great sex and she play along with me, but once we are done it never materialized.

 

[PFWilly]

The subject always came up over pillow talk. I will make suggestions to my wife prior and during sex about added another person to our lovemaking. I will even let her chose who she would like join us. It makes for great sex and she play along with me, but once we are done it never materialized.

Ditto! It can be a little frustrating, but at least we have a very good time talking about it. She knows I’ve had some encounters with other guys. And she’s had a couple of special relationships of her own with two other men. But she just won’t go there in real life.

Oh well….

 

[Tom_Brown]

Before we were married, my then-girlfriend & I stayed in an hotel room with another couple. The other couple had the bedroom and we slept in the living room. My girlfriend went to change in the bathroom (that was in the bedroom). After a while, her friend came out and told me that my girl had decided to spend a little time with the other guy.

Nothing happened between her friend and I but I was told that my girlfriend gave the other guy a blowjob.

Afterwards, my girlfriend and I would talk about it while having sex, but she would always say that it would never happen again.

After getting married, I asked her for over 15 years to fuck another guy, before she finally agreed. A couple thing’s happened that convinced her to at least think about it, including:

1) A man who lived 3,000 miles away from us began sending her sexually explicit emails. They had somewhat of an online affair that ended when she felt guilty for having this type of relationship with another man behind my back. She felt like she was “cheating” although they never actually met in person. I know that he sent her dick pics and she sent him pics of her in shorts and tank top, but never nude.
2) A friend of ours propositioned her when I left them anlone in an hot tub and he rose to show her that he was naked, exposing his large bare cock to her. She told me later that night (while we were making love) and said that his cock was huge and fully erect. She was extremely horny that night and fucked me with more intensity than our previous love making sessions.

Afterwards, I told her that I could tell that the thought of him and seeing his bare cock made her extremely horny. She admitted that it did and so I told her that since it did and since she had that online affair, she should now consider meeting another man, to see if she’s interested in at least fooling around with him.

She agreed to go online and check out our options, but said she may fool around but would not fuck him. We met a guy that was perfect and she ended up fucking him on two occasions, where I finally watched her experiencing a stranger’s cock.

Afterwards, guilt set in and she refused to do it again.

The whole story is here:
https://www.literotica.com/series/se/my-lifestyle-experiences

 

[aziegmann]

Never talked about it until after it happened unexpectedly and unplanned.

And how it happened? Tell us more.

 

[aziegmann]

My husband wanted to show me off topless with my fairly new 34DD fake boobs. That was the entire plan. We ended up completely naked on a bed with my husband lying on his back and me on my knees sucking him. The next thing I know he's grabbing a condom from a bowl next to the bed and handing it to someone standing behind me. My husband held my head to keep sucking him while I felt someone get behind me. I felt a hand on my hip then I felt a dick going into me. After the first few strokes my husband moved his hand from my head and I looked back over my shoulder to see an old white guy at least in his 60s fucking me. I was in my 20s. I looked back at my husband like WTF and he moved my head back to sucking him. It was surreal. My head was spinning. I couldn't believe it was happening. I was not only hooked on being shared after that night but also realized I had an old man fetish I never expected.
https://ibb.co/7txZbTB

But how was your reaction when he propposed to show you off topless? What was the turning point until the moment you said “yes”? And once you agreed to being topless, did you imagine from the beginning that a threesome might happen?

 

[hulmule]

Cant even talk sex with my wife, so that conversation isnt going to happen. But i would like to discuss my hall pass being in a sexless marriage. But again things she wont even discuss

 

[hulmule]

My husband wanted to show me off topless with my fairly new 34DD fake boobs. That was the entire plan. We ended up completely naked on a bed with my husband lying on his back and me on my knees sucking him. The next thing I know he's grabbing a condom from a bowl next to the bed and handing it to someone standing behind me. My husband held my head to keep sucking him while I felt someone get behind me. I felt a hand on my hip then I felt a dick going into me. After the first few strokes my husband moved his hand from my head and I looked back over my shoulder to see an old white guy at least in his 60s fucking me. I was in my 20s. I looked back at my husband like WTF and he moved my head back to sucking him. It was surreal. My head was spinning. I couldn't believe it was happening. I was not only hooked on being shared after that night but also realized I had an old man fetish I never expected.
https://ibb.co/7txZbTB

Well im old and in my 60's, can we reenact that situation?

 

[bethany_s]

I don't know. Not yet. But she usually talks about other people who are into an open relationship. Probably trying to see and understand my reaction. We'll see...

Sounds like it’s been in her mind, and maybe she was gauging your reaction. Have you discussed fantasies in general before? Maybe you ask her if she has fantasies she hasn’t told you about, or ask if she has ever thought of a threesome fantasy. Don’t ask her at first “can you see us having a threesome”. Ask her general thoughts first before you make an assumption of the details. She might share more than you expect. And that can open conversation to go deeper.

 

[aziegmann]

It all started a year ago when we started role playing

Tell us more about it. How did it happen.