How did it start

[Hisbabydoll26]

Okay so I am curious...For you how did you know that you wanted this particular lifestyle and how did you progress to where you are now?

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

Looks like I get to see how it ends...lol sigh...

 

[FurryFury]

Most of us have said how we got started many times.

For me it could have started with my childhood.

Or it could have started with being raped and marrying that man.

But in my estimation the conscious pursuit started when a vampire character I was role playing got me physically turned on in a scene that was about power play and not sex.

She pulled me along into sexual power play. I did what I also do about things that interest me research. began to realize that my fantasies that I have had as far back as I can remember were very BDSM fantasies but I had only just learned that term. It also lead me to Lit.

All that happened in November 2005. Makes me so wish I had figured all this out MUCH sooner.

Fury

 

[JupitersGirl]

Okay so I am curious...For you how did you know that you wanted this particular lifestyle and how did you progress to where you are now?

For me, it isn't really a matter of choosing this lifestyle versus another, but the realization that this lifestyle is the "it" factor that has been missing from most of my life.

The progression began here ... and continues ...

 

[Zmey]

It sort of grew onto me. Starting with one fetish then it expanded until I realized I was a switch and not vanilla anymore...

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Okay so I am curious...For you how did you know that you wanted this particular lifestyle and how did you progress to where you are now?

smiles .......a superb starting point for me is that I am predominantly attracted to men with a Dominant 'charisma/character' .So at the age of 19 I found myself living with eventually and in the service of Lord Jackson. A Dominant 12 years my senior and experienced. Strangely even looking back at old photos of us or recalling the distinctive memories of our day in and day out lives its rather sweet that he guided me, my education and our life together so well. In the three years I was in service to him (and in love with , loved by) the one thing that was distinctly missing was any direct formal discussion of D/s and BDSM in the sense that we have forumn, groups,online information etc now. We were purely existing almost in a classic sense remote of such comraderie.
Those years were both blissful and at times tumultous , ending all to soon when he sucumbed to drug addiction .Sadly not so uncommen 20 years ago amoungst the Community we socialised in being mainly Artists , Musicians, Academics ,Poets , Writers the like ( he so fondly termed them 'the New Bohemians' ) It was an amazing time. Fortunate for me to have been exactly where I belonged and so young.
Twenty years have passed since then I have remained true to myself and the knowledge that I am a submissive. I know its irresponsible for me to consider relationships outside of D/s. There have been some fine opportunites and I have been very tempted but I know its a wreckless endeavour that will only end in futility. I have been extremely fortunate and have served several distinctive Dominants/Masters over the years. Even the ones that failed me have left me with great knowledge of myself and brought a finer line of clarity in my mind as to that which I know is best for me before I submit to another. I consider myself quite blessed I know the freedom, comfort and potential of an mutually forfilling D/s relationship and have the knowledge and confidence to embrace that. I wish you well with your journey........

 

[Hisbabydoll26]

smiles .......a superb starting point for me is that I am predominantly attracted to men with a Dominant 'charisma/character' .So at the age of 19 I found myself living with eventually and in the service of Lord Jackson. A Dominant 12 years my senior and experienced. Strangely even looking back at old photos of us or recalling the distinctive memories of our day in and day out lives its rather sweet that he guided me, my education and our life together so well. In the three years I was in service to him (and in love with , loved by) the one thing that was distinctly missing was any direct formal discussion of D/s and BDSM in the sense that we have forumn, groups,online information etc now. We were purely existing almost in a classic sense remote of such comraderie.
Those years were both blissful and at times tumultous , ending all to soon when he sucumbed to drug addiction .Sadly not so uncommen 20 years ago amoungst the Community we socialised in being mainly Artists , Musicians, Academics ,Poets , Writers the like ( he so fondly termed them 'the New Bohemians' ) It was an amazing time. Fortunate for me to have been exactly where I belonged and so young.
Twenty years have passed since then I have remained true to myself and the knowledge that I am a submissive. I know its irresponsible for me to consider relationships outside of D/s. There have been some fine opportunites and I have been very tempted but I know its a wreckless endeavour that will only end in futility. I have been extremely fortunate and have served several distinctive Dominants/Masters over the years. Even the ones that failed me have left me with great knowledge of myself and brought a finer line of clarity in my mind as to that which I know is best for me before I submit to another. I consider myself quite blessed I know the freedom, comfort and potential of an mutually forfilling D/s relationship and have the knowledge and confidence to embrace that. I wish you well with your journey........

Thank you for sharing I really appreicate the time it took you to post and your story.

 

[FurryFury]

Yeah and Rebecca, I'm totally jealous!

Good for you!

Fury

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Thank you for sharing I really appreicate the time it took you to post and your story.

awww thank you babydoll it was my pleasure to share

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Yeah and Rebecca, I'm totally jealous!

Good for you!

Fury

Laughs ohh Fury one day if I can bring myself to be more specific about 'failings' and not feel as if I am in fact breaching a trust of sorts oh my suspect you might feel a little less envy ...still laughing with an affectionate undertow and thank you

 

[FurryFury]

Laughs ohh Fury one day if I can bring myself to be more specific about 'failings' and not feel as if I am in fact breaching a trust of sorts oh my suspect you might feel a little less envy ...still laughing with an affectionate undertow and thank you

I feel like I've wasted soooo much time and that is where my envy originates but I'm happy for you too!

I LOVE roses.

Fury