How Did a Threesome Affect Your Relationship withyour SO?

[nyctwo01]

My girlfriend and I are trying to make our threesome fantasy come true. We have been together a while and think we are both ready for the pressures this brings.

My question is, what have some of you (guys and girls) experienced after having a threesome with your partner? Did you experience jealousy? Did it deepen or weaken your relationship? Any advice on countering any of the negative aspects?

Thanks!

 

[nylondad]

How Did aThreesome Affect Your Relationship With your SO?

First of all we were in sync. We arrived at the same time and place regarding the subject. The first time was just off the charts excitement wise. We then took a step back and discussed it and then just dropped it for several months. We would tease each other about it on occasion but we did not let it take over our lives.

When it happened again it was again exciting and we became more adventuresome. We did this many times in different combinations with another woman and another man. We decided that another man worked for both of us. We have tempered ourselves the last few years becasue we have kids and our lives are full but the possiblity always is in the backround.

The bottom line for us is that it did not affect our relationship negatively because we are who we were before anything happened. We treated the subject with respect and still do.

 

[lindahotstuff]

Like you, hubby and I moved from fantasy to reality many years ago, and we have never looked back. I have said before on Lit that you don't wan to go down this track if your relationship isn't already strong. You both have to want to play - equally - not one following the other. And it has to be focused on fun and sex, not on a competing relationship with your SO. If you both go into it for sex and sex alone, and keep it as a 3/4some, there should be no difficulties. But don't go into different rooms unless you are really really really confident about your SO.

 

[Programmer Cat]

My question is, what have some of you (guys and girls) experienced after having a threesome with your partner?

If I felt jealousy after my first threesome with my wife (it was a MFM with a gay friend of hers who wanted to try it with women), I didn't notice. I was too busy thinking, "I can't believe I sucked his cock in front my wife. I can't believe I liked it. What will she think?"

Luckily, she loved it, as it made her more comfortable with expressing her bisexuality around me. We're both bi swingers now.

 

[LTSPLAY]

I have to say no jealousy issues at all. I agree that you have to have a strong relationship and trust your partner.

 

[Nekid62]

I'd say the 3some experiences have improved our relationship. We both talk about everything = opinions, feelings, thoughts, etc. We don't hide anything from each other. So we always discuss everything prior to and afterwards about what happened and what we liked or disliked about it all.

We both enjoy the 3somes we have had so far. And we like 4somes too. Both of us also like watching the other enjoying themselves with our friends.

You must be honest with each other and open to. NO what is ok with your partner and not ok. and don't try to pull on over on each other thinking they'll just go with it cause that doesn't always work out.