justdoingit
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Hey guys military guy here wondering what kinda signs if there are any if a guy is wanting more then he lets on. Would love to hook up with a guy from work just dont know what to look for?
How can you tell?
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justdoingit
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Bump what no help? 
gaymm
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Well seeing as my gaydar is somewhat flaky...
Eye contact does it for me. Holding eye contact, and a nice smile to acknowledge it. Ask him out for a coffee...very innocent. If the conversation flows and you get good feelings, ask him on a date at a later time. If he is perceptive (and interested), he will ask you if it is a date, or if he is into you, he will accept. If not, hopefully he will politely decline, or tell you upfront he is not into guys. Only you will know how the situation will go by first talking to him.
As a side note though, do you really want to get involved with someone from work?
chris
PS If I get good vibes from a guy (that he wont be offended), I will outright tell him something like: "Listen, I am gay, and I find you attractive (interesting - insert what you like here), would you permit me to take you to dinner?" I have never had a problem with that line and while I get turned down, I does work too
Eye contact does it for me. Holding eye contact, and a nice smile to acknowledge it. Ask him out for a coffee...very innocent. If the conversation flows and you get good feelings, ask him on a date at a later time. If he is perceptive (and interested), he will ask you if it is a date, or if he is into you, he will accept. If not, hopefully he will politely decline, or tell you upfront he is not into guys. Only you will know how the situation will go by first talking to him.
As a side note though, do you really want to get involved with someone from work?
chris
PS If I get good vibes from a guy (that he wont be offended), I will outright tell him something like: "Listen, I am gay, and I find you attractive (interesting - insert what you like here), would you permit me to take you to dinner?" I have never had a problem with that line and while I get turned down, I does work too
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SweetErika
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Apart from him telling you, there's no way to tell for sure.
Given your particular profession (it's not like the military will just forget allegations of sexual harassment, unprofessional conduct or knowledge of homosexual activities) and the fact that it's always very risky to get involved with someone from work, your best bet is to quietly target guys who are undoubtedly interested in other guys via personal ads and GLBT hangouts/events (groups, bars, parties, etc.) and leave the guy(s) at work alone. After all, is trying to hook up with this guy really worth losing your career and reputation over?
Take care!
Given your particular profession (it's not like the military will just forget allegations of sexual harassment, unprofessional conduct or knowledge of homosexual activities) and the fact that it's always very risky to get involved with someone from work, your best bet is to quietly target guys who are undoubtedly interested in other guys via personal ads and GLBT hangouts/events (groups, bars, parties, etc.) and leave the guy(s) at work alone. After all, is trying to hook up with this guy really worth losing your career and reputation over?
Take care!
