How can I make him cum??

[Guest]

I never really have gone down on a guy before and well finally I did it to my boyfriend which I hardly see because he doesnt live in the same state as I. After giving him head about twice to three times he still did not come. Is there something I could have been doing wrong? Is there a wrong way..I didnt think so? Any tips for next time around??

Truly
Curious

 

[flawed_ethics]

Well, as a virgin, my advice may be petty at best. As a male I must throw in, from my perspective, that it shouldn't be too hard - as your post suggested. Of course, the deeper down your throat you can get it, the better. Moan and purr like you enjoy it, and try to get that expression on your face and body movements if you can. (If that sounds unclear, rent a Max Hardcore porno and watch. Sure, they sound like they're enjoying it, but their faces petray them.)

The rest should cum naturally. If he jacked off earlier, it will take more work, but he should still come. Now, acheiving orgasm? That requires stimulating every ounce of presence and iota of his being to acheive. Maybe that's what you're asking about, but your question mentions cumming, and I'll leave it at that for the moment.

 

[nomdeplume]

BJ

Try to incorporate it into your love-making. At this stage don't try to bring him off. That way you get to learn what arouses him, but the end result is gratification for you both. At the moment you are putting too much emphasis on getting it right. Its like when people really want to have a baby, they try and try for months, when they are beginning to think that nothing is going to happen and they relax a bit, BINGO.
Don't be affraid to ask him what he likes. It took my wife probably three months to get things exactly right. I'd had loads of blow-jobs before then and thought that some of them could not be bettered, I was wrong...my wife is the best. Deep-throating is great but takes a lot of practise. You've also got to consider what to do when he cums, the last thing you want to do is end up gagging or spitting it out everywhere. So why not start with a blow job, and end up wanking him onto your face, I'm sure he'll like that.
Good luck

 

[Mystical]

Ok since you had two men reply and really didn't sound to me like they answered your how question lets take it from a ladies point of view and see where that can get us. And men if you disagree please step in and let me know. The men are right about asking his wants and what he likes. I agree with them about acting like you love it even if you don't, weather to spit or swallow. These are things to worry abotu also. But have fun relax and enjoy it.


OK first off I don't start lovemaking with a BJ. I start the lovemaking either on his back or chest then work my way either down or around to his penis.

This is what I do.
I kiss my was down his chest and not missing any of his flesh. I suckle his nipples run my tongue over and around them till they are nice and hard.
Moveing down to his upper thigh I lick and kiss the curve on each side till he is almost jumping (now a lot of men are sensitive in this area so watch his reactions). I then run my Tongue through his Pubic hair without touching him still at this point. I Blow hot breaths of air onto his mushroom top and move down his body rubbing my chest over his pole to add feelings to what I am already doing to him. Bending on my knees I run my hair over him up and down till he is twiitching. I run my tongue over his scrotum up and down all around kssing and licking them they are just as much part of it as the shaft. After spending some time on them I move up to the head and flick my tongue ever so gently across it. I tend to trace his entire lengh swirling my tongue around and round till he is all wet. Then placing one hand around his base I insert him into my mouth. I lick back and forth on his head as I start to pump my hand up and down then I start to take more of him into my mouth stil keeping the pumping going. Now I start the up and down motion with my sucktion sucking on him on the up stroke and the releasing and licking on the way down. Now that is one way. I have also when just making love to it will deep throat it and humm or use one of my vibrators on my cheek as I go up and down I never really stop my play with his scrotum or any of the licking either one way or the other he will cum. I Haven't had any commplaints yet. I hope this helped you some.
If you want to tease him some more touch him with your hand and figertips and light nails. All over his penis. Just tease, play, with him and lick, suck, and carress him. And deffinately last but not least is practice, practice, practice.

And men as I said if you disagree please post and let us know.

 

[Phil333]

I know this might sound weird but a couple of my friends and I were just sitting around talking bout sex, head, whatever and one of them said that he has a friend that loves getting head but can't cum. like his gf will give him head but he just cant come so if she or he jerks him off for the last few seconds he will come.

this is very rare and probably not the problem you two are having but food for thought.

 

[gbd]

Ask him

Confused/Curious - Ask him! Just as I found that no 2 woman can cum from the exact stimulation, no 2 guys can also. As you are combining your oral stimulation and stroking of his cock with your hand, every once in a while take a breather, look him in the eye and ask "Does that feel good?" "Where else would you like me to lick or suck?" Play with his balls more or stimulate his anus with a finger, vibrator or tongue. Many times, just the oral stimulation on me will not do the trick. A combination of many different stimualtions do work. Mystical has her own technique (Of course she can try it on me) that works and you will develop your own too.

 

[Eroticus]

It is usually harder for me to cum from a blow job than from doing it the old fashion way. The trick, for me anyway, is for my partner to really show me she loves what she is doing. Attack aggressively with your mouth and tongue. Look up at him while you're doing it. Play with yourself. Sometimes talking dirty helps. I can tell you there is nothing like looking down at a woman with my cock planted between her lips while she is looking up at me with lust in her eyes and squirming on her own fingers between her legs.

Wow - that just got me turned on thinking about it. Anyway, hope the advice was useful.

 

[schatz]

The suggestions have been quite good so far. There should be stimulation leading up to the main act (if you will). Heavy petting kissing etc. When it comes to the act, if you are not able to DT, use a hand near the base of his penis and keep it wet with saliva. The other hand can play with his scrotum, perenium and anus. If you are daring, you could try inserting a finger in his anus to stimulate his prostate if he doesn't object.

 

[Brian4ever]

Mystical-I sure can't dissagree with what you are
saying...

If a women sucks/plays with my balls it will drive me
nuts.lol

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Nobody has said this

So I will. If you want your BF to cum then Ask him to. Say to him "I want you to cum....." on me / in my mouth / for me / on my face tits or what ever. Make sure that you say this with conviction! Make sure that he knows that you are enjoying giving him head and not just because he want you too.

The other tip that I can give you is to ask your bf to masturbate for you. When he does study him and make note of his pace and breathing. Then use these as guides for whenyou give him head next.

Good luck
Holden

 

[Guest]

Good tip

Holden GOOD ADVICE ...I am surely goin to use the masturbation part on him..and sticking the finger in the ass sounds like fun too.
I just cant wait to see him so I can go wild on him, look him in the eye and tell him I want you to cum on me..and as deep as i can take it..I will take it in..I also heard sucking just on the tips helps...true???