How can I break the cycle

[Suzins]

Previously I had posted for some advice concerning myself and a friend I thought that maybe we could have taken further. Recently I asked for a reality check on what was going on between the two of us. And then I get the same answer that always seems to come my way. You are one of my best friends. This is really getting old. I'm not joking when I say that this has been an ongoing problem for me since my teenage years.

Isn't the idea that when looking for a good solid relationship you should start as friends. This seems to backfire on me everytime.

I get told good things come to those who wait.
Things happen for a reason.
I don't want to hurt you.

With everybody not wanting to break my heart because I'm such a "Great Friend", it has left me really lonely. I agree that friends are more important than a boyfriends/girlfriends. But at the same time they don't fill all the roles that a SO would fill. I'm not just talking about sex either. Although that would be okay too LOL

I honestly feel like i'm starved for human contact LOL Over 8 years is too long for anybody to go without some sort of physical contact.

Sorry about the length, I got a little carried away LOL How can I break this problem I have but still be able to find a friend to have a relationship with?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

a lot of people have that same problem. I get it all the time. I have for so long I've just accepted it now. And I've been keeping myself busy no less to keep from having to feel lonely that much or letting it really consume me. And what's odd to me, is that once I did accept it, someone approached me and wants to date me. I'm a bit nervous still (we havent been out yet) but I'm excited at the same time that for once I'm not going to be "the friend" for a night.


just be patient, it'll all work out eventually.

 

[Tx girl]

From my past experinces.. I've dated many an asshole and it took me many years to find "Mr Right" I would say don't rush it. You don't want to go down paths that i did. There was nothing but continous hurt and pain. So i agree with Willing. Just be patient. Your time will come.

 

[babydoll_73]

I know exactly what you are going through. It has happened to me way to often.

 

[watergirl]

That's no fun, and I'm sorry... Try flirting with new people. There's no reason you can't develop a friendship as you get to know someone, and at the same time, let them know that you're interested in more. I'm making it sound easier than it is, I know, but try this somewhere you've got nothing to loose. Be brave, good luck! Ask some of your closer friends why they could only ever see you as a friend. Don't let them dodge the question!