How can I boost my sex drive?

[Winter Dawn]

Help! My partner and I have been together for several years and in the past year or so, I have been having problems with my sex drive. It has gotten to the point where my lack of interest in sex or sexual activities is causing problems in our relationship. I enjoy sex and I still love my partner and find him attractive. I don't know why I seem to have lost my interest in sex. How can I boost my sex drive back to the way it used to be?

 

[Weird Harold]

How can I boost my sex drive back to the way it used to be?

Have you consulted a doctor? There may be some medical condition that is affecting your sex drive. My daughter had to stop using depo provera birth control because it killed her sex drive and caused her to gain weight.

If it's not a medical condition, you may be suffering a form of "seven year itch." That's usually caused by over-familiarity with your partner and letting sex fall into a routine. A loss of "romance" in a relationship often eqquates to a loss of sex drive.

 

[Malachi]

GET HEALTHY

If you smoke, quit. Cigarettes, over time, will completely kill your sex drive (not to mention you).
If you're overweight, you have to lose weight to maintain a normal, healthy sex drive. There are *SO MANY* reasons for this. Basically, being overweight sucks you into a downward spiral of low self-esteem, depression, and unattractiveness, besides being a Direct Physiological Cause of low libido.
Even if you are thin, you have to excercise and *try* to eat well. That usually means low fat and low to medium carbohydrates with lots of protein, fruits, and vegetables.

It's not easy to change all these things. Try to do as much as you can. I PROMISE you that EVERY SINGLE thing you do will make a noticeable difference, probably in the short term and definitely in the long term. I can feel the difference on a day to day basis every time I excercise.

When you're not healthy, your body 'knows' you're not healthy and is reluctant to encourage you to have sex and possibly conceive a child.


Of course, there are numerous other possible psychological causes and cures which I'm not going to address.

James

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Re: GET HEALTHY

If you're overweight, you have to lose weight to maintain a normal, healthy sex drive. There are *SO MANY* reasons for this. Basically, being overweight sucks you into a downward spiral of low self-esteem, depression, and unattractiveness, besides being a Direct Physiological Cause of low libido.

being overweight does not affect your sex drive. your confidence in yourself does. i am overweight (and proudly admit it) but i am also healthy except for the weight. and i have never had a problem with low self-esteem, or unattractiveness, or even a low sex drive. there have been times that i have been more than ready to go with lots of energy and my partner turned me down cuz he couldnt keep up (a thin man, mind you.. but a real sweetheart). the depression happens, but to everyone, not just someone that's overweight.




as for your problem WD... try sumthin new.. i dont know what all you've done or not done, but maybe a new position, location, etc. and then there is always role playing, the front lawn, costumes, and ropes (and others that are similar). you can also go for the quick surprise method of when he just gets home from work or sumthin like that, just attack him trying to give him some head, or meeting him wearing nothing... but my ideas might not work.. after all, i'm still a virgin here

 

[Malachi]

Oops... Je le regrette.

I really didn't mean to offend anybody and I know I shouldn't have tried to sound so authoritative. It's just that I've seen firsthand the overweight thing badly affect so many people of both genders.
Besides, losing weight is a good way to live longer.

As it turns out, every woman I've dated has been mildly to seriously overweight, and I sincerely don't have a problem with that except in the way it seems to affect them.

I'm really glad that you're happy and comfortable and feel sexy and love sex. I wasn't trying to make anyone feel bad about themselves that doesn't.

Forgive me please.
?

 

[Willing and Unsure]

you are forgiven....



and i know not everyone that's overweight is comfortable with themself. i know i'm not all the time, but i deal with it and move on... and the tiny bit that i'm not comfortable with myself, i talk to someone, get cheered up a bit, and continue on with my life.. and i think that those downtimes are in relation to the stress in my life.. not everyone is this way.. but different people are different


and as for living longer because of your weight, is not always true either... my family is notorious for being overweight.. most of the family has live into their mid to late 70's and some even longer than that.. granted there have been exceptions.. but there are always exceptions to the rule

 

[Winter Dawn]

Things to consider

Let's see... to clarify in response to the comments and questions posed. No, I haven't consulted a doctor, but I'm planning on it, specifically in regards to the birth control (which I'm taking). I don't smoke or anything like that and I'm trying to eat better. I can't say that there has really been a loss of "romance" so to speak, although perhaps we have become overly "comfortable" with one another. We have been experimenting in trying new positions and such. So far, while all enjoyable experiences, it hasn't done much to boost my sex drive. Umm... I think that's it. I appreciate everyone's suggestions.

 

[Guest]

This might help

I would definetly see the doctor and mention your lack of desire. There are many factors that could be affecting your libbido. I also saw an article recently on a vitamin supplement that was suppose to promote sexual desire in women. Im actually interested to see if it works so if you try it. Post a reply to the board and tells us how it works.

here is the link to the site

http://www.arginmax.com/html/wmn-howitworks.htm


Ronnin

spinoza_43221@yahoo.com

 

[Julian]

Zap The Libido...sounds like a video game...

I'd say go with the familiarity issue first, then consider self-exploration. And not in the "Touchy-feely way", you perverts! (Ha, ha)

I mean write a letter to yourself, asking if your goals have been met, or if you're bothered by something in particular, or harboring some resentment, or bitter about something you can't share because it's too strange.

Self-analysis & self-criticism are almost one in the same, but you're building up, not tearing down and you can find your answer.

Worse comes to worst, get some B-12 or Yohimbe..(ha, ha!)

Good luck & hope you get there.


Julian

 

[Mr.G]

#1..What kind of shape are you in? What about your partner. If you are in lousy shape that'll account for most of your problem.

#2 ..If everything is still OK in the "shape" dept you might try using something like Ginseng to naturally boost your libido a bit. Always worked for me.