how 'bout some advice?

[servicewench]

listen, i'm having a moral dilemma. i'm a married woman (7 years now). my husband is my best friend. he's really terrific and i know i will never find a better intellectual or personality match. in fact i consider myself lucky to have him at all. except for one problem: he doesn't satisfy me sexually. he prefers to masturbate in the shower than come see if i want some--okay, this only happened once, but how humiliating. i work with a bunch of guys, which is good for my ego, and one guy in particular i know i could have raunchy meaningless sex with.
i doubt i'd even get caught because my husband wold never expect me to do it. but somehow i don't think it would be as good an idea as it sounds right now. what should i do?

 

[Mustang Sally]

Have you tried everything in your power to make your sex life with your husband more exciting? Communication is a big part of it - talk with him about this. Suggest new things like role-playing, both of you share your fantasies and maybe act them out. Bring new toys to bed. Take the initiative yourself and ravish him!

But don't cheat. Do you really want to risk losing your husband and best friend for a bit of instant gratification? In the long run, it WILL do more harm than good.

 

[Weird Harold]

Step one:
Never let hubby shower alone.

Step two:
Get some of Cheyenne's Magic seven-year-itch lotion, or do something else outrageous to rekindle the flames at home.

Stripping off your panties and stuffing them in his pocket as he leaves for work will make him think about you all day long. "Tired" will be missing from the dictionary the next time Hubby sees you. (PS put on another pair before you go to work. You do NOT want to have hot meaningless sex at work.)

 

[Weird Harold]

Have you tried everything in your power to make your sex life with your husband more exciting? ...

Darn! You must be a speed typist. <G> My suggestion doens't work as well as the second reply.

 

[Mustang Sally]

I may have said it first, but you said it better. I absolutely love the panties idea!

<scribbling panty-tease into my "to do" list>

 

[Cheri]

Do you think he was masturbating in the shower so that he last longer with you? Maybe hoping to satisfy you more by lasting longer?
I also agree with all the other posts that meaningless sex is not the point, making your sex life with your husband more satisfying is.

 

[Fenris]

Take your man by the hand,lean over and whisper in his ear"Baby you have been bad,and now it's time for a SPANKIN'"
that should at least pique his interest,the rest is up to you.
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[Jester]

Everyone's given you good advice. If it's just raunchy meaningles sex, then why jepordize everything that you have for it? Definitely a bad idea.

Take everyone's adivce on the spicing-things-up idea(s). Also, have you really talked with him about this? He might not be aware of how his actions are affecting you or one of any number of things. Get the communication going! That's how good relationships get better and stay together!

Good Luck!

 

[MADDOG]

Don't cheat. Whatever you do. Once you break that trust, you'll never get it back. And even if you get away with it, you'll always know you did it.

My advice: Tell your husband that you want to try more stuff, more often. All men want to be the worlds best lover. If you help him get there, he'll thank you for it.

No offence, but I find cheating to be about the most horrible thing a person can do. To knowingly hurt someone you claim to love just for an orgasm? Really cold in my opinion.

Sex is very spiritual to me. If my girlfriend was giving it to others, I'd leave her and never look back. It is one of the greatest signs of love you can give to a person. Sharing it around when you're in a commited relationship cheapens it. It is one of the most painful things to have to deal with. If you love your husband at all, don't hurt him like that. He may never forgive you, and you may end up never forgiving yourself.

MADDOG

 

[Bigdog]

Chances are, if your husband is going solo in the shower he isn't aware of your "needs". Let him know what you want, sometimes you ladies are a little too subtle with your hints and us guys don't have a clue.

After 7 years of marriage, it is really easy to allow sex to become something that takes a backseat to jobs, children, finances, what the cat hacked up, etcetera. Sometimes you have to make time for your mate and to hell with everything else. Once you rekindle the romance and passion, all the rest becomes much easier too.

One question, do you know what pleases you? It will be much easier to show him what you like if you know your own turn-ons. Give him a hands-on demonstration, teach him your body until he can do it blindfolded (and try that too).

Cheating with some "guy" will give you an hour of pleasure and a lifetime of guilt. Definitely not what you really want or need.

 

[insideShiraz]

Heheh...

Sounds like an Excuse to me...Go ahead and do it, then bring Condoms home to use as as a Foreplay, if you still love your Husband...When's the last time you and your Husband loved Oral Sex with each other?...Iz Silence uncomfortable between you after 7 years?...

 

[R Nitelight]

servicewench

There is only one hard and fast rule in life: you always get caught.

 

[Dragonlady]

OK I'm only going to say this once EXPERIMENT!!(and if you feel like cheating buy a vibrator and make him watch while you use it ) That should make him blow his top...




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