How big is too big?

[Jigs]

the philosophical thinking of the ladies was very well done. The degradation and brain (cunt) training was valid. The sexual discriptions were excellant. The sizes of the phallae was overdone.

Great but why must all masters have a 10 inch stabber.


These were recent feedbacks I received on two different stories. Most of my stories are on a male dominance/ female submissive theme, and must I plead guilty of equipping my masculine heroes and anti-heroes with impressive oversized "phallae". In my defense, I have been under the assumption that any woman who would grovel all atremble at the feet of her lover would want him to have a significant, and even dangerous, weapon.

On the other hand, perhaps I have been so misled by a lifetime of pornography that I am simply intimidated and envious of those guys able to make a living screwing beautiful women. I must not be alone, however, in my gullable shame at not being "really hung". I can't open my e-mail anymore without a flood of advertisements promising to extend me to roughly the length and circumference of a thoroughbred stallion. (And anyway, just who the hell out there has been telling on me?)

Query to all you girls:

(1) Do y'all think "stretching" the truth a bit (pardon the pun) when it comes to masculine equipment detracts from a story? What about the male dominant? Is it necessary that he be specially endowed?

(2) All other things being equal, in real life do you girls prefer the really big ones?

While we're on the subject, what about stories in which the woman's breasts are consistently described as beyond average and possibly beyond belief? Does that a exaggeration detract from the story in the same way as the 10+ inches of penis?

If so, I don't think overdoing breast size is a sin my stories are regularly guilty of. While I am certainly appreciative of the well formed female chest, to me size is irrelevant when compared to shape and texture. If they of are large, I even prefer a little mature sag, enough to make them real. What I don't care for are boobs so tightly inflated and perfectly round as to be obviously the product of operating room technology.

What about it fellows? The girls are going to tell us whether they prefer realism in their fantasy pricks. I think it's only fair we 'fess up to our breast preferences as well

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I get bored when I read about the typical 10-inch-dick and the 32DD-breasts. Not just because it's rather unrealistic, but because it's been done to death already. I much prefer to read a story where the size is only hinted "she pressed her big, round breasts against his chest", "her eyes widened with delight when she pulled down his boxers and freed his big, hard tool".

As for a dominant man, I'd think the story would be much more powerful and intense if the man in question manages to be dominant through his personality, even though his dick is only a standard 6 inches.

 

[Guest]

OW OW OW

Jigs-

At the risk of seeming unadventurous, I will tell you that a 10" cock makes me cross my legs and think "It would have to be love."

I am not a fan of D/s, but it seems that most of what goes on is based on what is between the ears, not between the thighs. A very diminutive appendage would make me wonder what complex the character was trying to overcome, but average would seem just fine.

But perhaps the point in your story is that the male character is hurting the female and that she loves it.

I can honestly say that I have never thought, "What a fantastic cock. I have to have it."

Tongue size and dexterity may be a more relevant question.

b

 

[jfinn]

My advise is skip the whole dilema by not giving out inches. Use adjectives instead to get the size point across. That way your reader will fill in their own blanks with whatever they're willing to believe.

As for what I personally believe, I read a novel where a group of women were discussing, how much was too much of a good thing. One of them looked at the others and said, "Let's face it, anything over eight inches is just show and tell."

That made me laugh at the time, but basically it's a statement I'd agree with. And there are a lot of women out there who wouldn't even be comfortable with that much.

Jayne

 

[deliciously_naughty]

10 inches? Ouch!

The problem with "stretching" the truth is that we all have different numbers that constitute "too big." As a lot of the others have said...I've found using adjectives to be a much more effective. When you say well-endowed, you could mean 10 inches, but the reader is free to think 7 or whatever they imagine as well-endowed.


In real life, yes I like a well endowed man...but for me that's around 6/7 inches. Remember...the average woman is only 8 inches deep, and you have to give room for thrusting

 

[pop_54]

Re: OW OW OW

Tongue size and dexterity may be a more relevant question.

b

I've got a 10 inch tongue and can breath through my ears if that's any good love.

I know the question was asked of ladies and I don't really qualify on that front, must be my feminine side coming out, but the 10 inch dick annoys we guys as well as you girls.
I prefer to describe the male member based on the average, whatever the freek that is.

He burried his above average weapon as deep as he dared with each long slow thrust, he wanted to make Jane feel it, but he didn't want to harm her.

Or:

Mike, although slightly below average down below was expert at pleasuring women and almost always managed to bring the girls to orgasm or very close with his gentle twisting and thrusting motion rather than wild banging.

Just leave it to the audience to decide what is average.

As for the Dom / Sub thing, well I don't often write about such things directly having no experience of it in real life.
I'm far too soft hearted and gentle to ever deliberately hurt a woman, and my darling wifey is far to strong willed to be dominated, Oh she pretends she likes to be taken, but believe me, she's always in control.

pops...........The female side, hehe!!!!!!!

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I'm spoiled.

Anything under 7" is small to me.

Hubby is huge...

 

[Guest]

Size matters if

it's too big. I've had three 9-10 inchers, all of them also wide and thick. One of the owners I loved so it got easier in time but never comfortable let alone pleasurable. No experience was painful as I only get together with good guys, but I had to rely on more than penetration for satisfaction.

By the way, given my age (56) and experience I wonder at statistics. Three out of XX seems a small number.

I agree with leaving size details of anything erotic to the imagination unless there's a specific reason for mention.

Best, Perdita

p.s. I've also had below average, rather small dicks, and they did just fine by me.

 

[redrider4u]

regarding......dimensions

I have found..........that the ph factor re: circumfrance divided by the retciular measurement of the x factor squared by 7 yields the diameter desired by women.

Math Girl checked me on this.

 

[KillerMuffin]

I like 6 to 7 inches with a nice girth. Anything more than 8 gets uncomfortable and 9 inches just plain hurts. My vaginal canal does not end in my neck.

I find mention of size distracting for the most part. I know there are women who can take a huge cock. I also know they're few and far between. Most of the stories that involve a 10 inch penis stretch my credulity too far. So instead of thinking oooh yeah, I'm thinking yeah, right.

 

[BlackSnake]

O' fuck yeah, I have to add something to this.

Reading the comments, the question came to mind. How many women actually have a guy's entire length inside of them? Be it 4 or 14 inches.

I know that have to a woman in my favorite position (doggie style) and her pelvis must be tilted at just the right angle for me to get all the way in. Most of the time it's about a half to two-thirds way in.

Anyways, just being able to go deep is not all there is to it. You still have to hit the right spot. Its hit and miss, unless you're with a very good sex partner who is not afraid to say, "A little to the left."

It think that 8 inches is a good size to write about. It can still be the biggest she has ever seen, or a relief that its not one of those three inch jobs in a great big package.

One comment I heard was, "...cute and he was packing too."

I was lucky enough to be with a woman when I was going into high school. She raised her eyebows at the sight. That's a confidence builder.

Size does matter, but what seems to matter most is what you can do with it.

 

[Pookie]

"Do y'all think "stretching" the truth a bit (pardon the pun) when it comes to masculine equipment detracts from a story? What about the male dominant?"

It can cause me to back click on a story almost immediately. A ten inch cock is not something I equate with pleasure. It tends to kill any sense of realism for me as well.


"Is it necessary that he be specially endowed?"

Is the man the dominant in the story, or his cock? Is the story about a giant cock, or is it about a dominant man?

Keep things as believeable as you can and you will keep your readers longer. Stay away from measurements too. Leave it up to the reader to define what a "big cock" is to them.


"All other things being equal, in real life do you girls prefer the really big ones?"

Not this chick. I want to be fucked, not hurt. 6-7 inches is fine. Also, I prefer thickness over length anytime.


Pookie

 

[Alex756]

I thought I had mentioned inches once .. and I did. What I used as a figure for too big was eight inches. so gotta agree with 10 is a real leg crosser.

Normally I comepletely leave any real measurements out, just in the one story it worked ... I think.

OK I'm in a cut and paste mood this morning

Snippet from sometimes they fall hard:

He slams his entire eight inches into me, hitting me so hard I know I must be bruised. After the first time he did this, I couldn't understand why girls always talked about how big-- I wish he were smaller.

Other than that I haven't used measurements at all, cept height and people are generally good at figureing out someone is 'around six foot' or whatever.

I definately agree with the majority of people saying to just leave the measurement out and use adjectives. Maybe I should have done the same in the above snippit.

~alex756~
http://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=177120

 

[Guest]

p.s. the shape of things

Besides size (average or a little above for me; see a few posts above) cocks do come in a nice variety of shapes. Bent or curved can be uniquely satisfying.

Perdita

 

[Chicklet]

[Query to all you girls:

(1) Do y'all think "stretching" the truth a bit (pardon the pun) when it comes to masculine equipment detracts from a story? What about the male dominant? Is it necessary that he be specially endowed?

(2) All other things being equal, in real life do you girls prefer the really big ones?

While we're on the subject, what about stories in which the woman's breasts are consistently described as beyond average and possibly beyond belief? Does that a exaggeration detract from the story in the same way as the 10+ inches of penis?

I'm going to answer the questions backwards. Because I can.

When women are reputed to have 48DDD breasts, all I can think about is the body of mostly fat that would probably be accompanying them. I'm not saying that fat is bad, just what it would realistically look like. Pisses me off, man, really pisses me off.

In real life the size only matters if it's smaller than my thumb. Then I get irritable. Other than that, anything'll do the job - although I'd like to find a guy with a ten inch tongue = ) = ) = )

How many men really have ten inch dicks? I've never met one. Not that I've slept with a LOT of people, but a number or so, and I don't think that I've ever come across someone bigger than seven inches. When I read about it in stories, I'm like "yeah, right..." and it *does* distract me from the plot. I don't think that dominant guys need any bigger dicks than vanilla guys or submissive guys...it really just doesn't matter to me. It's not the size, it's how you write it. For real.

-Chicklet

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I like big dicks. REALLY big dicks. And I've been blessed with meeting mostly well-equipped men. The smallest I've ever seen was a 3"-dick, and I must confess that I didn't like it. I got turned off when I saw it. A really big cock usually makes me go "ALL RIGHT!!! NOW we're talking!"

 

[BlackSnake]

Re: Re: How big is too big?

It can cause me to back click on a story almost immediately. A ten inch cock is not something I equate with pleasure. It tends to kill any sense of realism for me as well.


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Pookie

Pookie_grrl,

Realisticly, I'm over ten inches. I don't think it has to do with realism. I think it has to do more with do it add to the story. I wasn't 17 when passed that mark on my tape measure. Here's something else to think about. I'm still not the big boy on the block.

 

[BlackSnake]

Re: Re: How big is too big?

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How many men really have ten inch dicks? I've never met one. Not that I've slept with a LOT of people, but a number or so, and I don't think that I've ever come across someone bigger than seven inches. When I read about it in stories, I'm like "yeah, right..." and it *does* distract me from the plot. I don't think that dominant guys need any bigger dicks than vanilla guys or submissive guys...it really just doesn't matter to me. It's not the size, it's how you write it. For real.

-Chicklet

Hi,

Pleased to meet you Chicklet. I played football in school and it amazed me that a guy could have a dick that looked more like a belly-button. It never crossed my mind that most guys dicks were as large or larger than mine.

However, I never went up to a woman and said, "Check this out. I'm hanging strong. Do you want to fuck."

I seriously doubt that a lot of women breakout a tape measure before a guy puts his dick in her. I never had a woman to tell me that she's not going anywhere near my snake. I've had a few where it had become a challenge to get past the head, though.

 

[BlackSnake]

I like big dicks. REALLY big dicks. And I've been blessed with meeting mostly well-equipped men. The smallest I've ever seen was a 3"-dick, and I must confess that I didn't like it. I got turned off when I saw it. A really big cock usually makes me go "ALL RIGHT!!! NOW we're talking!"

I've had some one to tell me that nothing has gone deeper.

 

[wildsweetone]

Anyways, just being able to go deep is not all there is to it. You still have to hit the right spot. Its hit and miss, unless you're with a very good sex partner who is not afraid to say, "A little to the left."

this struck me as odd... it would be a little like reversing the car with a trailer on. nevermind, don't ask.

I seriously doubt that a lot of women breakout a tape measure before a guy puts his dick in her.

...this is not the time to admit i was just holding the tape measure to the monitor...


back to the thread:

(1) Do y'all think "stretching" the truth a bit (pardon the pun) when it comes to masculine equipment detracts from a story? What about the male dominant? Is it necessary that he be specially endowed?

(2) All other things being equal, in real life do you girls prefer the really big ones?

(1) If a story is well written, there is no need to embellish it with measurements. As a reader, I prefer to use my own braincells to imagine what the masculine equipment I'm reading about actually looks like. Much more fun than being told.
The Male Dominant? Huh? There is a link between a male being dominant and the size of his penis? I don't think so.

(2) I just prefer that a man knows how to use what he has. Size never matters.

 

[Pookie]

Re: Re: Re: How big is too big?

Pookie_grrl,

Realisticly, I'm over ten inches. I don't think it has to do with realism. I think it has to do more with do it add to the story. I wasn't 17 when passed that mark on my tape measure. Here's something else to think about. I'm still not the big boy on the block.

BlackSnake,

You seem to be proud of what you have. That's cool. My experience has been with guys more in the range I mentioned. In fact, I have never been with a guy over eight inches, and he and I didn't stay together very long.

My experience creates my realism. My roomies agreed with me on my realism as well. I tend to think most readers would agree with my realism too. I'm not saying you didn't see what you said. It is just not something I have even come close to seeing. I suspect most readers haven't either. Size can matter. But, it works both ways though. It possibly could add to some stories, but it better be a damn great story to overcome my normal reaction.

Also, maybe the Playground or AmPics would be a better place to show your pride in what you have. Also, I'll pass on thinking about who the big boy on your block happens to be. That size just doesn't create pleasing thoughts for me.

Pookie

 

[Jack T. Ladd]

Ok..this thread is a little old..but I am new..spare my blushes!

Just remember this: "Long and thin, wont go in...short and thick, really does the trick"

 

[DoveCoteDigital]

"...Great but why must all masters have a 10 inch stabber. "

*Chuckling*
For the same reasons all women wear silk blouses and get "dripping wet".
I don't wear silk blouses, I figure that's why I never get so hot that my love juices drip down my leg and pool embarrassingly at my feet...

 

[Wicked-N-Erotic]

Originally posted by Jigs
[Query to all you girls:

(1) Do y'all think "stretching" the truth a bit (pardon the pun) when it comes to masculine equipment detracts from a story? What about the male dominant? Is it necessary that he be specially endowed?

I'd rather not read about sizes in any story, be it breasts, penis, or even height. I'd like to be able to paint my own picture and put myself into the story if I want to. It's not necessary to be specially endowed just good at being dominant to get his character across. If it's a story about a well hung man then yes I guess he should be well hung. If it's a story about a Dom then he should just be dominant.



(2) All other things being equal, in real life do you girls prefer the really big ones?


NO....When I see anything over 8 inches I think...OUCH!


Wicked

 

[Chicklet]

NO....When I see anything over 8 inches I think...OUCH!

nod nod me too