How as your Dom shown his "Domness"

[kittiGoddess]

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[BabblingBrooke]

He is dominant. That's how he shows his dominance.

 

[UtopiaBound]

He is dominant. That's how he shows his dominance.

Lol! Yup!!!

There are definitely certain describable moments and actions but it's much more than that. It's just His way. His demeanor and how He can bring out the submissiveness in me with a look or gesture. It's kinda like asking someone to describe love...

 

[DenialGirl81]

My Master shows this in so many ways but one example of when I really feel his 'Domness' (I kind of like that word) is the many times he instinctively knows what I need or desire even before I do, it's those moments when I realise knows me inside and out. And just his general presence, the manner in which he speaks to me - firm and commanding at times, and even when he's being gentle and loving I still feel his dominance all around me. Even though it is online only at the moment, his dominance and control over me is amazingly powerful, I've never felt anything like it before.

 

[xxxSubSamxxx]

I am quite new to thi lifestyle but have fallen prey to some wannabe DOms who have hurt me psychologically and so have developed a dim view of Doms and have classified many as jerks. Until I met my current Master - he surprised me recently and really showed me how special they can be , I made a mistake which I confessed to him, I got the expected comments " you will never do this again. You will be punished" but then the email that broke me." yOur Dom and Master is going to take some of the responsibility for this" to me this shows a supreme confidence that he can admit that he was wrong.

wHat other things have your DOms done/said to show their "DOmness"

I agree showing the humility to admit when they are wrong is important. I think a Dom should show his ability to take the lead in a just and fair way. Give rewards and praise when it's due.

I met a guy about a week ago and he is a natural Dom. He is not into pain but he is definitely into giving instructions and taking the lead. He likes to please, and enjoys taking pleasure for himself too and telling me exactly what he wants me to do and when.

I am liking this kind of dominance

Sam xx

 

[possess]

"Domness":

- confidence
- assertiveness
- he sets boundaries and rules
- he establishes consequences for breaking his rules
- he follows through

In a nutshell.

 

[possess]

<Insert the usual disclaimer that "Domness" isn't exclusive to "he" identifying individuals... just showing consistency to the OP>

 

[PrincepsCyberius]

"Domness":

- confidence
- assertiveness
- he sets boundaries and rules
- he establishes consequences for breaking his rules
- he follows through

In a nutshell.

Indeed, consistency is paramount. Given the psychology of a submissive, inconsistency or, worse, arbitrary unpredictability are cruel. I always establish a submissive's "protocols" in writing, making them as simple as possible to avoid ambiguity. The same with consequences.

Domination is not about control. It is guidance.

 

[possess]

Indeed, consistency is paramount. Given the psychology of a submissive, inconsistency or, worse, arbitrary unpredictability are cruel. I always establish a submissive's "protocols" in writing, making them as simple as possible to avoid ambiguity. The same with consequences.

Domination is not about control. It is guidance.

Yes, except...

Domination is inherently about control, as is guidance. Guidance without control is the advice of a friend, easily ignored without consequence. Control without guidance is... well, a lot of things, the worst of them, abusive.

Dom/mes have a responsibility to place the sub's needs ahead of their own. The foremost factor in that is consistency.

 

[kittiGoddess]

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[DalliancesWithWolves]

My Dom is absolutely perfect. I am his first sub, as he has never been with anyone interested in this type of relationship before. He has a lot of pent up sexual frustration because he never really got to establish his dominance, so he takes it out on me quite frequently. I love exploring with him, and allowing him to push me to my limits. Ours is a daddy Dom relationship and he forces me to call him daddy even in public.

 

[tristantrotsky]

Courtesy Costs Nothing

I do think that politeness is always important for a submissive cock-sucker. The gentleman who tutored me in the art of sucking cock and broke me in through intensive training always insisted that I should say 'thank you' nicely for each mouthful of spunk I received from him, and that is something I've tried to do since with subsequent gentlemen. I feel it demonstrates true gratitude and appropriate humbleness