Hotwife in training, please share advice?

[toocurious1974]

So my wife has finally confessed that she truly wants me to find other men for her. She is submissive to me and wants to make me proud of her skills by taking on as many men as I want. This is an incredibly happy step for us and I'm excited about moving forward.

I was hoping that some of the community here who have experience in this would share their do's and don'ts... I want to make it both safe as well as rewarding. I'm sure there are lots of places to read about it but really like chat about it as well.

 

[masterofnymphoslut]

Pm

I sent you a PM. Let's chat if you're interested. I've got a couple friends that we've talked about "sharing".

 

[Runnerwrites]

So my wife has finally confessed that she truly wants me to find other men for her. She is submissive to me and wants to make me proud of her skills by taking on as many men as I want. This is an incredibly happy step for us and I'm excited about moving forward.

I was hoping that some of the community here who have experience in this would share their do's and don'ts... I want to make it both safe as well as rewarding. I'm sure there are lots of places to read about it but really like chat about it as well.

Wish you well with this. I don't have any tips other than be patient. Choose wisely.

 

[toocurious1974]

Seems this thread is gaining a little traction today... thanks to all who have PMed me, I appreciate the advice and interest... I'd just like to note, we are not looking to meet with people from Lit at this time, just talking things through and learning about how to keep the relationship healthy through this new adventure. Sorry for not making that clear in the OP!

And... we will be sure to keep this thread updated when we take that next step

 

[Wyel123]

That's wonderful, sexy and fun, just make sure to make it a shared and lived fantasy, slowly, very slowly. When you move slowly, your going to find out the level of submissivness your wife has toward you. Also, make it fun and have her help you choose a man that she's sexual attracted to, and if those things work out for the both of you, then, and only then do you fully and completely dominate her, with any choice of man, or men. Just writing to you because I was a permanent bull for several wives over the past five years, and I have seen it all and have done it all.

 

[amigayorbi]

hi

try talking to Mr. Screwher. he is becoming a pro!

 

[toocurious1974]

try talking to Mr. Screwher. he is becoming a pro!

I have been following him with great interest

 

[30bandits]

have a photo of her?

 

[Scrivener_]

As someone whose best friend is the male component of a hotwife situation - choose wisely, lots of online conversation, meet with the dude by yourself first, then bring her in. Avoid anyone who wants to "meet TONIGHT!!", insist on safer sex practices (though I'm sure you know to do that already), and have a secret word or phrase that the two of you know that she can say if she's feeling uncomfortable but doesn't want to make a big deal of it in front of the new person.

 

[toocurious1974]

Update

We went to a swingers club in a nearby city... we got there very late as it was a spur-of-the-moment decision, and there were not many other people there. We did play together though, in the main room, and the few couples still at the club would walk by and watch for a few minutes at a time. My wife stayed very focused on me, and did not even realize that other people witnessed us having our fun. When I told her later how several other men and women watched her, she melted... It was a great way to get our feet wet, so to speak. We have plans to return, at a much earlier hour, and find others to engage with.

 

[JamesRTickit]

Finding the right way

I am confessor and confident to a cuckold whose wife is a hot wife.
You and your wife seem to be mixing up your situation.

To me a "hot wife" is a woman who takes other partners with her husbands approval.
Your original post seemed to me to be that your wife was a willing submissive and maybe cum slut, although that wasn't completely clear.
Your post yesterday says you went swinging but your wife concentrated on you only.

You and she need to define what you both want.

One of the recommendations was a safe word.
But I recommend you sat and talk about what you both envisage.

She wants you to find a man for her - is it one man or many, one a night or a gang bang?
If you are in the swinging club what are her limits then?
If you are swinging is it same room, partner swap.

You must make absolutely sure your wife knows, understands and approves of your plans.
If you want to stay married and enjoy it........

 

[toocurious1974]

You are right, we have definitely strayed from the 'Hotwife' concept. Our fantasies have ranged from the hotwife scene described by you all the way through a full-on gangbang. The night we went out, we were open to full swap with a couple, and possibly her giving oral to multiple men (there just weren't enough people by the time we got there to make that happen - everyone was pretty much done for the night!). Our next exploration will be focused on her performing oral for me - on men of my choosing. I have chosen to do this later this evening, she does not know yet. However I know it is something we both want, having discussed it many times. Thanks for the feedback!