Hookup/partner finding advice

[Bighammerfucker]

I’ve asked this on other websites but never here so I thought I would give this a whirl.

I am a 29 year old bisexual cis woman, but my sexual experience with woman is very little. I’ve been trying for years to find a connection with someone (cis female), alas it usually turns out all the new friends I seem to make in real life and develop feelings for are straight. I have dabbled in searching online very fruitlessly, in fact so fruitlessly that I can’t even seem to get any leads on friendship/socially distant outings like hiking (I have had no less than 15 people not show up when they say they would since January alone, and none even for dates, just hikes and stuff)! I know I’m not a pushy person, I just want to be genuine and connect with someone. What I would most like is to meet someone in person and have things grow between us but in covid time this seems nearly impossible even IF I didn’t seem to attract zero LBGT friends.

So my question to you, literotica, is - do you have any advice on how to go about this better than I have been? IS there such a way? Or does it at the end of the day come down to luck of the draw, and that old saying about how you’ll always find what you want when you’re not looking?

 

[Bighammerfucker]

I guess not.

 

[OpenBiFriends]

Hi, I understand your situation. We look for sex positive groups in our area. But for me (cis, very bi female), I like to find women who are attractive and start flirting.

It’s hard during Covid, but not impossible.

J

 

[Escierto]

Even though I am a straight guy for some reason I am on lesbian TikTok. Your complaint is VERY common and frustrating. You are not alone in the lesbian community feeling this way. I know that’s not much help but it seems that lesbian women have a difficult time finding each other.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

'it doesn't matter if there was any BETTER way of doing what you are doing to find what you say you are looking for'...
IT is the willingness of the person who is in possession of the information to WORK THE INFORMATION OR IT DOES NO GOOD OR DOES NOT WORK.
At this site there is thread after thread after thread after thread of---,
How do I meet this person?
How do I meet that person?
If what you ARE DOING isn't working lets examine what you ARE DOING?
How can we adjust it a little? You people keep forgetting you DON'T NEED great and grandiose movements, gestures, words, or expressions.
Ask any IED specialist, the biggest boom is usually with the smallest movements or adjustments...AND often are you using the information presented here??? Myself and a few others here know and espouse the fact, that it is a numbers game. Ok--, so what you gotta talk to ten people just to get a "HI". So the fuck what! You are starting to lay the ground work. You don't build a fucking house from the roof down. Don't listen others stories and expect that to happen to you--, WHY?-- BECAUSE YOU AINT THEM. You aint as smooth as them, you aint as relaxed and as comfortable that they are while they are doing what they tell you that they are doing. Besides which there are ALWAYS things that get left out of the story...just like when good cooks or chefs GIVE OUT recipe's, they always leave something out and that something could be a wink, a smile, a pause, a slight catch in the throat of a breath... it COULD BE ALMOSYT ANYTHING.
NO ONE, can give you every--, and all information...and all its nuance's on 'how to'
for everything. Take the information so far given use it, adjust it, and work it and work it and work it. IT IS ALL A FUCKING NUMBERS GAME!!! WORK THE NUMBERS, REFINE YOUR GAME AND "YES" IT IS A GAME. JUST DON'T CARRY YOURSELF LIKE YOU TRYING TO GAME, (cuz even a person who doesn't 'run game' can tell that 'difference' in people.)
And just because you find something that works with one person don't assume it will work with everyone.

 

[n8Romantic]

I’ve asked this on other websites but never here so I thought I would give this a whirl.

I am a 29 year old bisexual cis woman, but my sexual experience with woman is very little. I’ve been trying for years to find a connection with someone (cis female), alas it usually turns out all the new friends I seem to make in real life and develop feelings for are straight. I have dabbled in searching online very fruitlessly, in fact so fruitlessly that I can’t even seem to get any leads on friendship/socially distant outings like hiking (I have had no less than 15 people not show up when they say they would since January alone, and none even for dates, just hikes and stuff)! I know I’m not a pushy person, I just want to be genuine and connect with someone. What I would most like is to meet someone in person and have things grow between us but in covid time this seems nearly impossible even IF I didn’t seem to attract zero LBGT friends.

So my question to you, literotica, is - do you have any advice on how to go about this better than I have been? IS there such a way? Or does it at the end of the day come down to luck of the draw, and that old saying about how you’ll always find what you want when you’re not looking?

Well, I'm a married bi dude and have the same experience. Hate it when we plan a meet and the other person fails to show. That behavior pisses me off. If you don't want to, then just say so. I've tried and had some success on some websites geared to men. I don't know about women's websites. Should you like to discuss this more in depth, no judgement and I'm not hitting on you, PM me. I don't think they allow discussion of other sites on here. Good luck and I sincerely hope you find the enjoyment you are seeking.