Honey, Am I Fat?

[Netzach]

I've been spared thank God, "do I look fat" versus "do I look fat in this?" it is easy to reroute a conversation with a femme girlfriend when you are a femme to one about the clothing, maybe steering gently into better options.

As for me, I bitch lately because I have gotten fatter than I want to be. I was still fat at 150, but I was fat and gorgeous rather than kinda lumpy without a corset.

M will tell me I look cute anyway if I broke out in purple spots and grew fins, so I don't ask his opinion, he's in love and it's nonsense but I'm fine with that.

 

[graceanne]

I've been spared thank God, "do I look fat" versus "do I look fat in this?" it is easy to reroute a conversation with a femme girlfriend when you are a femme to one about the clothing, maybe steering gently into better options.

As for me, I bitch lately because I have gotten fatter than I want to be. I was still fat at 150, but I was fat and gorgeous rather than kinda lumpy without a corset.

M will tell me I look cute anyway if I broke out in purple spots and grew fins, so I don't ask his opinion, he's in love and it's nonsense but I'm fine with that.

I have to admit that as a woman I don't worry when my friends ask me if they look fat. lol I guess it's easier to hear you look fat from a woman than from a man?

 

[TigerClaw]

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[graceanne]

Re: That is

Sexist...... : )

Didn't you know that only men aren't allowed to be sexist? Women can be as sexist as they want.

 

[Netzach]

I have to admit that as a woman I don't worry when my friends ask me if they look fat. lol I guess it's easier to hear you look fat from a woman than from a man?

Not for me. I mostly had to listen to how fat I was from my mother. I think if a female lover went off on my weight I'd get far more nervous and psycho.

 

[RavenSpirit2k4]

~snort~ Anyone who think a mere 10 pounds overweight is fat needs an education in reality. Very few people actually look like fashion models and movie stars, you know, and most of them have had surgery to look like that (if the image you get to see is even real at all - can you say "Photoshop"?).

 

[Netzach]

I require at least "10 pounds overweight" to even get sailory around another woman, the scrawny booty just never worked for me.

But we digress...

 

[graceanne]

~snort~ Anyone who think a mere 10 pounds overweight is fat needs an education in reality. Very few people actually look like fashion models and movie stars, you know, and most of them have had surgery to look like that (if the image you get to see is even real at all - can you say "Photoshop"?).

Tell me about it. My sister is about 10 lbs overweight, and she is constantly trying to complain to me about her 'pudgy arms' and 'fat thighs'. I wanna hit her. She's learning, cause I just give her 'the look'. She's just ticked cause she's not a size 6 like she was in highschool. What does she expect, she's had 2 kids! I think she's doing pretty good to be only 10 lbs overweight!

 

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[shy slave]

My arms were once described by a dressmaker as 'washerwoman arms'

I put this down to working in the care sector from an early age lifting people on and off places (mai ly toilets) before i had finished growing.

My fat ankles however, that have the look of a cross between tree-trunks and elephant legs ~

I blame my mother

 

[shy slave]

Just a small hi-jack to get to 1000 posts before bed

Thank you for allowing that small interruption, normal service on this thread will now resume

 

[TigerClaw]

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[bridgeburner]

Once I actually got fat I ceased asking anyone if I looked fat. Duh, I knew I looked fat because I was. However, being fat does not automatically make you unattractive and you can certainly dress well or less well for your weight and body shape.

I don't ask lovers or family members if I look okay. My family has to love me anyway and if a lover would rather not be seen with me then I've got two doors out of my apartment you should be careful they don't hit you in the ass on the way out. ;->

How I look needs to satisfy ME. It took being really crushed under the heel by a couple of people for me to realize I was the only person who had a right to own pride or disappointment in my appearance. If you give that power to other people they WILL use it.

Am I hostile about it? Sometimes. I spent too many years just trying to smile politely at inappropriate comments about my body. Interestingly enough once I stopped putting up with it, people stopped commenting. In fact, my mother is so well trained now that she was even afraid to tell me she thought I'd lost weight. My stepfather, wonderful, wise man that he is knew the appropriate thing to say after not having seen me for eight months was "You look great! It's so good to see you!!"

You bet cher bippy.


-B

 

[RJMasters]

the ol switch a roo

When ever presented with a question like this, I find a good solution is to pull the ol switch-a-roo.

I first look...and don't say anything...wrinkle my nose....and let the anticipation build...

then I calmly reply...

I don't like the color.

The answer is most unexpected...and if they are genuinely concerned abut how they look, it gives them something else to think about.

I wait till she goes and changes...then wander in just as she is finishing getting dressed and before she can say anything I say that looks great.

If cornered....I clarify...are you asking if I think your fat, or if those clothes make you look fat? Then add quickly...cuz I have clothes that don't fit me anymore too. See its the clothes fault for being too small.

(I hope you guys are taking notes...lol)

Last when there is just no getting around the question...I say..."If your asking if I love you, the answer is yes and what you wear or don't wear doesn't change that one bit. If your asking if you could lose a bit of weight, then yes, but so could I. I guess we both should think about exercise and diet more huh?"

 

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[silver_inari]

To answer the question or not to answer the question? Is the question.

Do you answer HONESTLY and Not tell a LIE ?

Is your opinion the anwer?

I like women with say 5 - 10 lbs on them? It rounds them out well and look great in a bikini. I can enjoy a woman with more weight then that. It all depends on the attraction. But one thing for sure they are so very soft to sleep with, hmmmm.

A friend of mine likes his women at the suggested weight and will not deviate from it. The only fat he wants on em is Tit and Ass. That's it.

To me a woman at 5 - 10lbs over weight is not Fat to me at all. To my friend, yes, they are.

If the woman is more the 10lbs and I think she is sexy as hell.....Is she Fat? I might not want her to loose any weight.

No matter what the weight is they never believe you if you say, "No", "Your at the perfect weight", "I love you just as you are", etc. By whose opinion are they going by then?

God forbid if you say, they are fat, fat here or there, not fat but could loose a pound or two. Your dead meat.

A woman who has curves is easier for breat bondage, clamps, etc. What is youre experience?

Boy what a topic.

Weight is a big self esteem thing with chicks I think. It certainly is with me. There was a point where my husband told me he didn;t think the current weight I was at was sexy. But at the same time what he is interested in is not the stick figure girls. And right now me working out and watchign what I'm eating is more a health issue then anything else, even though I think it'll always be connected with my self esteem.

In general most of the guys that I've dated have not gone in for skinny girls. It is like a former coworker of mine said, "A woman should have hips and an ass! A woman should have tits!" And Eva was in really good shape, athletic and all.

 

[silver_inari]

LOL I used to do that to K when we were first married. Now he doesn't even give me 'the look' when I do it, cause he knows that I'm giving him a hard time.

But I agree with adr, I've been known to ask if I look fat, and I want to know the answer. As a matter of fact, if he lies, and I later figure it out (get a look at myself in a full length mirrow), I'll get mad that he let me leave the house like that.

Sometimes there are outfits that just totally don't work. If I'm wearing one, I certainly would rather my husband tell me.

 

[Guest]

*shrug*

I don't like women I'm afraid are going to break during sex...Too hard to hide the evidence and all....
Which is a flip way of saying I like women with curves..Preferably generous ones.

So when I get the "How does this look???" or any of it's variations I tell the truth about the clothes.. The other..Well she knows I how I feel about her..I go out of my way to make sure she does. Frequently.

 

[silver_inari]

*shrug*

I don't like women I'm afraid are going to break during sex...Too hard to hide the evidence and all....
Which is a flip way of saying I like women with curves..Preferably generous ones.

I feel that way about guys. I don't like them too skinny or I feel like I'm gonna damage them.

Although I suppose if they would become damaged then maybe I'm just really good at certain....activities.

*giggles*

 

[Guest]

I feel that way about guys. I don't like them too skinny or I feel like I'm gonna damage them.

Although I suppose if they would become damaged then maybe I'm just really good at certain....activities.

*giggles*

Rule #1: If you break your toys, you can't play with them any more.

 

[silver_inari]

Rule #1: If you break your toys, you can't play with them any more.

Thank god I had already swallowed the tea I'm drinking right now otherwise it would have gone right out the nose.

*lol*

 

[Guest]

Thank god I had already swallowed the tea I'm drinking right now otherwise it would have gone right out the nose.

*lol*

See, just doing my part ...Every bit that goes out through your nose, is one more bit that the body can't assimilate....

 

[silver_inari]

See, just doing my part ...Every bit that goes out through your nose, is one more bit that the body can't assimilate....

Ahhhh...i understand. Entirely an action motivated by your great benevolence.

Riiiiiiiight.

 

[Guest]

Ahhhh...i understand. Entirely an action motivated by your great benevolence.

Riiiiiiiight.

Indeed..The Noble Self Sacrifice of a caring, considerate, Dominant... Completely without self serving motivation..

Well, that, and it was funny as hell.....