Honey, Am I Fat?

TigerClaw said:
To answer the question or not to answer the question? Is the question.

Do you answer HONESTLY and Not tell a LIE ?

Is your opinion the anwer?

I like women with say 5 - 10 lbs on them? It rounds them out well and look great in a bikini. I can enjoy a woman with more weight then that. It all depends on the attraction. But one thing for sure they are so very soft to sleep with, hmmmm.

A friend of mine likes his women at the suggested weight and will not deviate from it. The only fat he wants on em is Tit and Ass. That's it.

To me a woman at 5 - 10lbs over weight is not Fat to me at all. To my friend, yes, they are.

If the woman is more the 10lbs and I think she is sexy as hell.....Is she Fat? I might not want her to loose any weight.

No matter what the weight is they never believe you if you say, "No", "Your at the perfect weight", "I love you just as you are", etc. By whose opinion are they going by then?

God forbid if you say, they are fat, fat here or there, not fat but could loose a pound or two. Your dead meat.

A woman who has curves is easier for breat bondage, clamps, etc. What is youre experience?
lol duh @ men. women ask that question because of insecurity...all you have to do is make her feel secure and that question will go away.;)
 
I have two rules when I ask a question. The first one really is not germaine to this topic.

The other rule is... I never ask a question that I may not like the answer to.

LOL
 
i'm around 6lbs over my recommended weight. my boyfriend loves my body and i know he'd always see me as gorgeous so there is no point asking.

any woman should ask two people only that question.

her doctor

and

herself.
 
the truth is always the best answer i think, especially when it comes to questions like this. i always ask my Master if i look fat in a certain outfit for instance, and he will always give me an honest answer. i know that i am far from fat. but i'm still insecure about my body and i want to wear clothes that make me look as thin as possible (or as i truly am). so i want the honest answer. if a woman gets mad at a man for answering this question honestly, then she should get mad at herself for asking a question she didn't really want answered in the first place.:)
 
Geeee... I think I just said that. But I did it in one sentence... not 2 paragraphs. (where is sunfox and that eye rolley emoticon?)
 
Re: Re: Honey, Am I Fat?

Kajira Callista said:
lol duh @ men. women ask that question because of insecurity...all you have to do is make her feel secure and that question will go away.;)

You nailed that one babe!
 
Kc and Miss_Puss are right.

IMHO no-one in their right mind would ask or try to answer that question.

The world is full of thin people who think they are fat and vice versa.

There are other no-win conversations. I have been frowing my hair. It was bout 1 1/2" long(4cm) when I met Him. He insists i grow it. This has casued many difficulties and discussons as I had not realised owning me also means owning my hair :rolleyes:

Anyway at work a man commented my hair looks better longer.

Instantly I asked "Are you saying it looked terrible before!?"
If it looked so bad why didn't you tell me!?"

Yes I was joking, yes he looked around for an escape route and had an OMG look in his eye!!!
 
shy slave said:
Kc and Miss_Puss are right.

IMHO no-one in their right mind would ask or try to answer that question.

The world is full of thin people who think they are fat and vice versa.

There are other no-win conversations. I have been frowing my hair. It was bout 1 1/2" long(4cm) when I met Him. He insists i grow it. This has casued many difficulties and discussons as I had not realised owning me also means owning my hair :rolleyes:

Anyway at work a man commented my hair looks better longer.

Instantly I asked "Are you saying it looked terrible before!?"
If it looked so bad why didn't you tell me!?"

Yes I was joking, yes he looked around for an escape route and had an OMG look in his eye!!!

LOL I used to do that to K when we were first married. Now he doesn't even give me 'the look' when I do it, cause he knows that I'm giving him a hard time.

But I agree with adr, I've been known to ask if I look fat, and I want to know the answer. As a matter of fact, if he lies, and I later figure it out (get a look at myself in a full length mirrow), I'll get mad that he let me leave the house like that.
 
I think that a lot of times when women ask those questions they are looking for a fight. Those are the times where no matter what you say, they'll find a way to jump your case.

"Do, I look fat?"

"No, honey."

"YOU PAUSED! YOU REALLY THINK I DO, BUT YOU'RE LYING! . . . "

You get the idea.
 
TigerClaw said:
I knew you were not going to be able to resist this thread !

You have a very good example of wanting an honest answer about leaving the house with your man. My hair might still go up on end with that question but if he knows that is what you want I think a partner caring about how the other partner looks when they are out is wonderful.

LOL It took me YEARS to get him to tell me the truth when I asked that question. He finally started when one time I went out, our full length mirror was broke. He said I looked fine, then I got a look at myself, and I looked like crap. I was so ticked at him. After that he began to tentatively telling me the truth, and when I didn't get pissed, he got comfortable telling me the truth. On the other hand, I have had to teach him not to volunteer the info, either. LOL
 
Great thread!

I moved it to the Cafe as it seemed a more casual discussion.

In any event, I learned never to ask, "Do I look fat?"

:D

When I make reference to my weight, my wonderful man reminds me how much he loves every inch of me and my body!!!!

That response really works for me.
 
Re: Re: Great thread!

TigerClaw said:
Mistaken Hon, I may have been Mistaken in posting it where I did. Most likely the General Board may have been the correct venue but then I would not have gotten the audience I wished to.

Your advise is well taken and respected.

No problem and keep posting!

This forum is for everything not bdsm so that we can talk about anything we like with a BDSM audience.



:rose:
 
TigerClaw said:
LOL,

Is he a Dom and your a sub?

I understand completely in reverse. I used to be very honest when answering questions like this. I remember my first girlfriend that I adored (vanilla rel) and how angry she was at my answer on how she looked before going out. It took a long time come up with a compromise to what I was used to and what some women expected a man to say.

LOL, now we are. We are very new to the scene, so things that happened then are different than things now. On the other hand, I'm one in a long line for K. He learned the hard way that you don't answer that question. To tell the truth it used to be if I asked, he'd say "Oh, no, not going there." lol
 
Re: I was just reminded of something.

TigerClaw said:
What about telling something not true to be more Flamboyant. More elusive, playful, intriguing or thought provoking. By taking a completely different position then what you truly believe for the sake of being thought provoking or intriguing. Isnt this Lieing?

Wouldn't it depend on if the information given is intended to mislead or if it is intended as a joke?

I am imagining myself at a party, talking crap, but making folks laugh even though they know I am not telling the truth.

Does this make sense?

Or is it time to log off now?

:D
 
Re: I was just reminded of something.

TigerClaw said:
What about telling something not true to be more Flamboyant. More elusive, playful, intriguing or thought provoking. By taking a completely different position then what you truly believe for the sake of being thought provoking or intriguing. Isnt this Lying?

Yes, but of a different sort. Generally I feel sorry for people who tell lies like this, cause it means that they don't feel that their lives are interesting enough to catch your attention, that you won't like them unless they're someone else.
 
graceanne said:
LOL, now we are. We are very new to the scene, so things that happened then are different than things now. On the other hand, I'm one in a long line for K. He learned the hard way that you don't answer that question. To tell the truth it used to be if I asked, he'd say "Oh, no, not going there." lol

My ex answered the question, "Honey do I look fat in this dress?" with, "Yep, but you are."

OUCH!

However, I quickly realized it was just him being honest. I have never asked such a stupid question again!

:D
 
Re: Re: I was just reminded of something.

MissTaken said:
Wouldn't it depend on if the information given is intended to mislead or if it is intended as a joke?

I am imagining myself at a party, talking crap, but making folks laugh even though they know I am not telling the truth.

Does this make sense?

Or is it time to log off now?

:D

I know what you mean, and I agree. If everyone knows you're lying, then it doesn't really count. Like when I say I'm an angel. I'm not, but everyone knows, so who cares?
 
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