Honest Question- not sure if there's already a thread about this

[Ms_Lilith]

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[T.H. Oughts]

I think flirting should be taken as far as what your partner is comfortable with

 

[Starblayde]

I honestly see nothing wrong with flirting, as long as it doesn't go farther.

If you have the trust flirting means jack... if you don't trust your partner (or they don't trust you) that flirting won't go anywhere, you/they should probably try and stop.

 

[Chantal Marchon]

No you are not a slut- No flirting isn't wrong. It is fun. The only person you need to worry about being upset by your flirting is your boyfriend. Since he's ok with it then there isn't a problem.

My husband doesn't mind that I flirt with other guys because he is secure in our relationship and knows I am not going to go screw someone else.

Flirting makes me feel pretty and desirable and raises my self-esteem.

Your friend might be right in that other guys might dump you, but maybe not. It really completely depends on the guy and how secure he feels in the relationship.

 

[vylette]

honestly

well for me personally..i think flirting can be playing with fire....i dont do real well in the resisting temptation department...but by NO means does flirting make you a slut...flirting just means you are more than likely an outgoing person who likes to have fun and enjoys her life.... ....

 

[NoRegrets]

Originally posted by vixenshe
...and told me that other men wouldn't put up with
my behavior, and that they'd dump me on the spot...

It proves that you are with the right person!!!

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[Rambling Rose]

vixenshe, if you're not sure there are other threads on this subject it's because you didn't look! This topic is a mainstay around here. Try the search option. It might be working today.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Dump your friend on the spot. Who needs people like that?

If your boyfriend and you both know what you're both doing and you're both okay with that, then who cares what you do? The only thing you should ever watch out for is for the people you flirt with that may take flirting to mean that you want more than just to flirt a little.

As long as you don't do anything that you feel the need to hide from your guy, then who are you hurting? Just your friend's ridiculously puritanical sensibilities.

 

[perks]

<grin> ohhhhh sluts are bad.....<giggle>

 

[koalabear]

<grin> ohhhhh sluts are bad.....<giggle>

"^^" I am NOT!!!!!!!!!!!"^^"

 

[Paendragon]

Trust, and love are the key. My girlfriend doesn't concern herself with my flirting, because she know she carries my heart in her pocket. Why should she worry? I'll never take it farther.

Conversely, I trust her just as much, and know how she feels about me. So I just don't worry about her flirting.

Basically, it depends on the relationship.

 

[tigerjen]

I'd have to say that "your friend" that called you a slut
is jealous and "old fashioned" perhaps......but I see nothing
wrong w/ a little flirting with other men as long as it
doesn't go further than that and come right back to your
honey


tigerjen

 

[lickerish]

Re: Re: Honest Question- not sure if there's already a thread about this

If you have the trust flirting means jack... if you don't trust your partner (or they don't trust you) that flirting won't go anywhere, you/they should probably try and stop.

Thank you Starblayde, I needed to see this.. that is my philosophy up there.. I come from a background where I was cheated on consistantly by the father of my kids... when I started seeing this guy about a year ago I knew he was a flirter, but when we hooked up I told him what my background was like and I expected him to stop. How was I supposed to learn trust again, with him, if all I ever saw was obnoxious flirting between him and all the other girls? It was hurtful, and he never acknowledged me as his girlfriend around these women. It really bothered me that he didn't care enough about me to stop, so that I could build up this trust level, yet he claimed he loved me.. The breaking point was when he said 'accept it, or leave'.. so I left. I wasted several months of my life on this guy, just for some 'simple flirting'..

So I agree with Starblayde's statement up there.. and in your case vixenshe, I think you're fine. It appears you both have the trust it takes to keep the relationship going, with the flirting involved.

You're not a slut, and I also think your friend is just jealous.

 

[Vivacia]

My SO would agree with your best friend - he doesn't really like me flirting, he sees it as cheating on him, I however see it as a bit of harmless fun and a way to help feel good about myself...

I think follow your heart, there are alot of men out there that are either too insecure or too set in their ways to feel comfortable with their SO flirting, there are also alot that either don't care or get a kick out of it...

 

[SexySlut2]

I don't think there is anything wrong with flirting as long as everyone knows it is not going to be carried any farther than that. As long as you and your partner are comfortable with it and trust each other, who cares what anyone else thinks? Do what makes you happy and if that means flirting, then by all means DO IT!!!!

 

[Wave_Rider]

Any man (or for that matter, any person) that would "DUMP" another simply because their partner is flirting......suffers for incredible low self-esteem. Either that, or perhaps has a controlling personality and cannot bear the thought of "his partner" ever thinking of another.........

Flirting is no an "action" nor is it always an invitation for 'action.' For some, its a game; for other a test to see how their "Market Value" is holding up.

I personally love to flirt......no matter if the woman that returns my glance is passing me in an airport never to see her again.

 

[LukkyKnight]

perky_on_medication...

<grin> ohhhhh sluts are bad.....<giggle>

Flirting is flirting, it has nothing to do with being a slut.

Flirting can be indicative of something more, of an intent to pursue more, and as such it can be an issue - but if you and your S.O. are on the same page then you're very lucky indeed. Be alert to OTHERS misunderstanding, so some guy doesn't end up picking a fight, and try not to let your "friend's" insecurity run your life.

I'll see if I can get perky healthy enough to stop the intoxicating medications...
she means well, honestly!

 

[GreenEyedOne]

I was always under the impression that flirting was just a social lubricant. It certainly seems to help in the business world.

 

[just pet]

Flirting is delicious. Harmless banter keeps the juices going and is a great testing ground our own sense of sensuality and desirability.

And it seems you and your boyfriend have the communication and trust of a good relationship. A flirt makes pleasant titillating conversation with strangers ...while a slut sleeps with strangers on airplanes.

pet