Homosexual Adoption : Where do you Stand

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[Phoenyx]

IF people want to adopt homosexuals let them.

 

[Guest]

There is a huge overflow of children within the foster care system. If there are people who want to love these children, I don't see why sexual orientation should prevent them from adopting.

 

[ksmybuttons]

I think it is sad that it should even be an issue.

Even sadder that it is legislated.

 

[sexy-girl]

i'd rather see a ban on racists and homophobes and people of hate being allowed to have kids

 

[dancinvixen]

There is a huge overflow of children within the foster care system. If there are people who want to love these children, I don't see why sexual orientation should prevent them from adopting.

Raindancer, I couldn't agree with you more. So long as the children are being provided a safe, loving environment, it shouldn't matter what the adoptive parent's sexuality is.

 

[BustyTheClown]

lol @ Pheonyx... I'm with the people on the board so far. Everything they've said is true, not to mention that there aren't any studies showing that homosexual parents are any less able to provide the kind of nurturing environment that children need growing up. They shouldn't be discriminated against simply for their sexual orientation, because that's basically what this issue comes down to.

 

[lilminx]

I think it's terrible that they want to take this child away from a home where he has apparently grown up with lots of love and care, just because he is no longer HIV positive. When he was sick, it was ok for gay parents to take care of him, but now that he is well, he is "good enough" for hetero parents?

The way the adoption system works makes me sick. There are so many children out there who live in terrible homes, or have no home to live in, yet it's an expensive and long-winded process to attempt to adopt a child.

If potential biological parents were screened the way potential adoptive parents are, there probably wouldn't be so many unwanted children in the world. Not that I think that regular parents should have to go through a screening process, but I think that the means that it is gone to in order to ensure that adopted children go to good hoomes is ridiculous.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Ok.. I may be opening a can of worms here. Hell, I might even be getting a troll or two.
Anyone on the board that has read my threads knows that I am a lesbian.
I have no problem with homosexuals adopting children. We are no different than anyone else other than who we love. Most studies say that kids that come from homosexual homes turn out just fine, and are more open minded and less judging. There is nothing wrong with having two mommies or daddies. They still get the same amount of love.
Raindancer is right, there are so many kids out there that need good homes.

Physically I am not able to carry a child, therefore adoption is my only alternative. I love children and would love to raise one. I don't care if I get a baby or a toddler or a teen. Doesn't matter to me, I will love the child the same no matter what and do my best to care for him or her.

I just hope that I am able to teach my children tolerance and how to be accepting of others. And if my child is straight that is wonderful, if not that is fine too. Just as long as he or she is happy.

 

[Phoenyx]

lol @ Pheonyx...

I know this thread was gonna becoem serious so I wanted to lighten it up a bit. It's pretty sad to rip a child away from people who have raised him for so long. Do whats best for the kid.

 

[kotori]

I'm just not sure. There's so much about adoption that smacks of "buying children." I mean Rosie got a couple of her kids when she was unattached, right? Before she came out, before she was involved with her current partner. That, to me, seems more like a purchase agreement.

On the other hand, I don't see how a government which doesn't recognise homosexual union can exclude a person from adoption based on a behavior that isn't legally recognised (if that makes sense). Presumably the potential adoptive parent hasn't been convicted of a crime (say sodomy), which could be exclusionary.

I don't know--there are a lot of issues.

 

[dancinvixen]

Dustygurrl, I applaud your convictions and wish that many more people expressed them the same way. As a bisexual mother and wife, I've had my ability to raise my own children, questioned. It's outrageous.

 

[ksmybuttons]

If potential biological parents were screened the way potential adoptive parents are, there probably wouldn't be so many unwanted children in the world. Not that I think that regular parents should have to go through a screening process, but I think that the means that it is gone to in order to ensure that adopted children go to good homes is ridiculous.

The processes are put in place to protect. It is scary how many rules are just personal agendas and closed minded meaness.

It will be interesting to watch this be fought in the courts for discrimination. When will it happen? It shouldn't need to but that is the only way it will change.

Fight, fight, fight. So tiring and such a waste of resources.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I saw this couple on television the other night. They seem like such amazing people that it was heartbreaking to know that they may have their children taken from them.

As long as a child is being placed into a loving, stable environment, the sexuality of the parents means nothing to me.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Dustygurrl, I applaud your convictions and wish that many more people expressed them the same way. As a bisexual mother and wife, I've had my ability to raise my own children, questioned. It's outrageous.

Thank you, that means a lot. It's great to be able to raise children to be open minded and non judgemental. I don't believe in hate... I never did. We are human with different ideas and beliefs. We all have the same rights and freedoms and as long as no one is hurt then we whould either try to accept each other or leave each other alone.


You know.... I know more bad situations with straight people then I do gay. I did some research for a class and the margin of child abuse has interesting breakdown.
For homosexual homes 1 in 1,000,000 children are abused.
For straight homes 70,000 in 1,000,000 are abused.
I know I am biased but that is what I read in Newsweek or something like that.
Sometimes I think that homosexual peopel are more understanding of others because of what they have to endure day to day because of their sexuality.

*stepping off my soapbox*

 

[RhumbRunner13]

Adoption...

I'm a very conservative, heterosexual, white male living in SW Florida. I've lived in Key West and love the place. I've listened to the discussion coming from both sides. I have no doubts, nor do I think that most thinking people, conservative, liberal, republican, democrat, white, black or any "other" doubt that the most important thing to rearing a healthy, productive complete man or woman is

Loving parents......PERIOD!!!

Ignor the idiots who argue otherwise, they are an extremely small minority, and their bigotry will die, as all bigotry eventually does.

RhumbRunner

 

[Desdemona]

Sexual orientation has nothing to do with the ability to be a good parent.

 

[SunnyGirl]

Oh my god, I just read that article and I'm totally disgusted. That an administration would be so close-minded and arrogant to take that child away from what is so obviously a loving home because his foster parents are homosexuals is deplorable.

I'm outraged that because the boy is no longer testing positive for HIV he is deemed "suitable" for adoption by a non-homosexual couple. It was ok for him to be with a homosexual couple when he was HIV positive??

It would be harmful at this point, I think, to take the boy out of the only environment he's known in his life and put him elsewhere.

"This isn't about Steve and myself and gay rights," Croteau told the Oregonian. "This is about children's rights. There are all these children who need a safe home, who need parents who care, who need a childhood. The gay rights issue gets in the way of that."

Would the goverment of Florida want to remove Bert from his home if he was still HIV positive? Or if his foster parents didn't happen to be two gay men? *sigh* I can't even type I'm so mad...how do these people get to be in goverment and making legislation that concerns other people's lives?

*shaking head as I walk out*

 

[DustyWolfe]

Your right.. It's both disgusting and deplorable.
I think that children should be allowed to live in the most loving home.
The fact that his now deemed healthy and ready to live in an "acceptable straight home" shows me that the government is further back that what I had hoped for.

They let pedophiles loose on the streets and rapists out of prison with little time yet they can't let two men love a little boy once he gets well? What the hell is wrong with this country?

 

[Ezzie]

If two people or even one person for that matter is willing to offer a safe, secure, loving home to ANY child... who cares what they do in regards to their sexual preference.

 

[Dillinger]

Any loving person, couple, or assortment of one or more people who want to adopt a child are heroes in my book.

 

[bluespoke]

Any loving person, couple, or assortment of one or more people who want to adopt a child are heroes in my book.

I couldn't better what Dill said.

 

[dreamer]

TWO loving parents that aren't fighting with each other?? WOW...that sounds strange.

Seriously, in todays world where complete 'families' are already so rare I applaud any couple that has the dedication and loyalty to undertake raising a child.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

I think heterosexual couples should be prevented from owning, leasing, adopting, or fabricating children.

Only homosexual couples should have such privileges.

You people are too wimpy. Take a fucking stand!

 

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