*holding up the white truce flag*
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alexandraaah
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I really don't know you but...
I have a question.
Do you really want to stay somewhere that you might, or worse, might not be merely tolerated?
I can see how much you clearly want to be here, but what's in it for you?
Call me...curious?
I have a question.
Do you really want to stay somewhere that you might, or worse, might not be merely tolerated?
I can see how much you clearly want to be here, but what's in it for you?
Call me...curious?
alexandraaah
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sure...it helps
all of those things make perfect sense to me.
they are some of the same reasons i'm here and i don't doubt that you do have many friends.
i'm not sure, to be perfectly honest, what can be done to stop the trolls and such, as well as simply not being forgiven by some people because the damage has been done.
as far as mere posting style, i'm sure i could take some feedback, but i'd also give some to you, in my humble opinion.
i fear it would sound catty and punitive, but if ya want it, let me know.
all of those things make perfect sense to me.
they are some of the same reasons i'm here and i don't doubt that you do have many friends.
i'm not sure, to be perfectly honest, what can be done to stop the trolls and such, as well as simply not being forgiven by some people because the damage has been done.
as far as mere posting style, i'm sure i could take some feedback, but i'd also give some to you, in my humble opinion.
i fear it would sound catty and punitive, but if ya want it, let me know.
alexandraaah
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Re: Re: sure...it helps
no sweat.
*bratcat* said:
How about if you send it in a pm? That way I can digest it in my own time?
And the trolls can be reduced to a few people. But we won't go there in this thread, please.
ps...thank you for answering in a constructive manner!
no sweat.
Mz_Scarlett
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Mz_Scarlett Takes a Moment to Share...
Hey ya'll,
I love this site and I love this board. I find it to be absolutely engaging and full of interesting, open minded and fun people.
I haven't personally interacted with many people on the board, (although I would like to make more friends here!), however, *bratcat* welcomed me to this board with open arms and has been nothing but supportive and friendly to me for the duration....
....so kudos to you my dear for being the sassy, fantastic woman that you are! You have my support and friendship for as long as you want or need
Muah!
Mz_Scarlett
Hey ya'll,
I love this site and I love this board. I find it to be absolutely engaging and full of interesting, open minded and fun people.
I haven't personally interacted with many people on the board, (although I would like to make more friends here!), however, *bratcat* welcomed me to this board with open arms and has been nothing but supportive and friendly to me for the duration....
....so kudos to you my dear for being the sassy, fantastic woman that you are! You have my support and friendship for as long as you want or need
Muah!
Mz_Scarlett
Cheyenne
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Bratcat,
I haven't posted in any of this mess about you on the board until now. You haven't hurt me personally, but a lot of other people here feel hurt by you. There is no magic to help you. Your only hope is time. Even then, I suspect you burned quite a few bridges with your "final" post. There are probably some people who should just put you on ignore to make their own lives easier.
But the short answer is that your only hope is time. And that isn't a guarantee. Other people here have very long memories, not just me.
I haven't posted in any of this mess about you on the board until now. You haven't hurt me personally, but a lot of other people here feel hurt by you. There is no magic to help you. Your only hope is time. Even then, I suspect you burned quite a few bridges with your "final" post. There are probably some people who should just put you on ignore to make their own lives easier.
But the short answer is that your only hope is time. And that isn't a guarantee. Other people here have very long memories, not just me.
MissTaken
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Time and laying the matter to rest will be the best first step.
What I am saying is that if you and everyone else on the board stops posting about the whole affair, stops responding to trolls (raising my own hand on that one ) and just lets it go, you will then find your way.
As long as these posts keep popping up and lingering as they do, the matter remains fresh and the wounds continue to throb.
Stop posting about it.
That is my very best advice.
Good luck.
What I am saying is that if you and everyone else on the board stops posting about the whole affair, stops responding to trolls (raising my own hand on that one ) and just lets it go, you will then find your way.
As long as these posts keep popping up and lingering as they do, the matter remains fresh and the wounds continue to throb.
Stop posting about it.
That is my very best advice.
Good luck.
Caria Knight
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*bratcat* said:
As the old saying goes...
I don't have an oppinion of you because I don't know you, as a matter of fact I don't know anyone here yet. But no matter what you do some people will forgive and some people wont, that's just part of being in the human race. I'd say just take it one day at a time and deal with what ever rolls your way as it comes.
modest mouse
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Shutting your mouth might help, but I'd just as well not have you around.
Dig your own hole.
Dig your own hole.
RhumbRunner13
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Bratcat
MM in her widom said,
"Shutting your mouth might help, but I'd just as well not have you around.
Dig your own hole."
Seems to me Laurel's sig line applies here!!
Stir up some SHIT!!!
1/3 of us will hate you.
1/3 of us will love you.
1/3 of us don't care either way, and there is nothing you could do to change the numbers!! Have fun, piss on the names and remember, we aren't REALLY family. We wouldn't know you if we fell over you!!
I don't mind you around, as long as I can call you a dumb cunt when you say something stupid, which you haven't done.............so far!
Runner
MM in her widom said,
"Shutting your mouth might help, but I'd just as well not have you around.
Dig your own hole."
Seems to me Laurel's sig line applies here!!
Stir up some SHIT!!!
1/3 of us will hate you.
1/3 of us will love you.
1/3 of us don't care either way, and there is nothing you could do to change the numbers!! Have fun, piss on the names and remember, we aren't REALLY family. We wouldn't know you if we fell over you!!
I don't mind you around, as long as I can call you a dumb cunt when you say something stupid, which you haven't done.............so far!
Runner
Cherry
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Sympathetic to Cat
Hold on a second there, Cheyenne. As I recall, in her final post, she gave not nearly half as bad as what she GOT. There was plenty of bad stuff said to provoke her, beforehand. How much is one person suppose to overlook before striking back? There is plenty of blame to go around.
So, you're all sick and tired of the controversy?
Put the blame where it belongs. Instead of accusing *Bratcat* of encouraging the negative attention, note that most times she has not even responded to the hateful remarks. She does try to avoid the battle, and has on only a few occasions (after severe harrassment) stuck up for herself. Most times, her response has been both apologetic and explanatory. Nobody gives her a break. Nobody choses to see or remember that side of her. I wonder how many of you good folks wouldn't respond likewise to attacks by trolls AND registered regular users.
You all blame her for provoking and perpetuating the malice?
Constantly, we see these threads being revived by "Unregistered"... NOT by *Bratcat* ... this psycho is the one fanning the flames: "^ ^"
Now, that THAT is perfectly clear ... take a good hard look at yourselves and ask how you have perpetuated the problem.
Cym
Yes, I realize that your behavior stems from your belief that she sent MS two emails that were provocative. She openly explained to you that they were not anything more than reaching out to someone she considered a friend because of previous support he had shown her. She thought that maybe she could be instrumental in helping your hurtful situation somehow, by offering a hand in friendship. Whether you believe it or not, that was her intent. It may very well be the difference between the chat and GB, where in chat it isn't a major faux pas to have platonic friendships with SOs of friends, same with kisses given in friendship (as Este explained previously). However, I'm sure she regrets those emails because of the misunderstanding and the furor which evolved, subsequently. She did try to explain that to you openly, as well as apologize for any hurt feelings that she caused you. She was sincere.
You overeacted. You, I'm sure, believe your attack was warranted. For what? For an email telling MS that she had a friendly ear of support? For a birthday wish? You went off the deep end with your cathouse slut thread. You jumped to conclusions with a personal attack about promiscuity on her that you have absolutely no knowledge of. Three obvious cyber relations in two years hardly makes her promiscous. You continue to keep the flame ablaze. You apologize for bumping threads anonymously, but then you can't help but add nasty remarks aimed at her in that same thread. By doing so, it provokes others to attack her when she wasn't even responsible for the old threads being resurrected. Sorry, but you are part of the problem.
Plasticman
You are not an innocent bystander here, either. Since November, when *Bratcat* made it perfectly clear to you that she considered you only a friend, you have posted personal innuendos to every thread even remotely involved with her. You follow her footsteps wherever she goes. In fact, wasn't it your post in a thread that began the whole blowup with Cym? She cares for you as a friend, stop insinuating anything more. It only feeds the skanky bear when you contradict yourself and her. Sorry, but you are part of the problem.
Marxist
You of all people should know how it feels to defend yourself against erroneous accusations. Your attack on a newcomer, based on behind the scene false proof, was strangely pathetic. I still haven't seen you apologize for your misconceptions. Sorry, but you are part of the problem.
Myst
You were used as a pawn by an untrustworthy psychopath whose only reason here is to antagonize Cat. All of these secret pms back and forth to each other, embellishing facts to fiction, false accusations involving other people in the controversy (first JuicyLips and now Dangergirl) are part of the problem.
Lavender, Celestial, etc. (too many to mention)
Your supposed defense of Cym has turned you into a pack of attack dogs frothing at the mouth. Not only are you not privy to the truth, you refuse to acknowledge it when you see it. There are two sides to every story, the truth is in the grey area somewhere in between. False accusations running rampant, blatantly hateful comments, feeding off of each other's rage in pms, twisting and embellishing details, insane skepticism and paranoia, rationality gone askew ... sorry, but you are ALL part of the problem.
You have all expressed your hateful feelings about *Bratcat*, ad nauseum. There really isn't anything left to be said, so then you transfer your attack mode on innocent people. Playing right into the hands of the skanky bear ... and you blame *Bratcat* for prolonging the controversy?
It's very sad, that no matter what she does or says, the most excitement you derive on this board is to gang up on her and hurl insults and accusations ... fueling the fire, while blaming HER for it continuing.
Don't see it that way? Do a search on each of her posts in the past month or so, and see for yourselves. Her restraint, in the face of harrassment, has been remarkable.
Cheyenne said:
Hold on a second there, Cheyenne. As I recall, in her final post, she gave not nearly half as bad as what she GOT. There was plenty of bad stuff said to provoke her, beforehand. How much is one person suppose to overlook before striking back? There is plenty of blame to go around.
So, you're all sick and tired of the controversy?
Put the blame where it belongs. Instead of accusing *Bratcat* of encouraging the negative attention, note that most times she has not even responded to the hateful remarks. She does try to avoid the battle, and has on only a few occasions (after severe harrassment) stuck up for herself. Most times, her response has been both apologetic and explanatory. Nobody gives her a break. Nobody choses to see or remember that side of her. I wonder how many of you good folks wouldn't respond likewise to attacks by trolls AND registered regular users.
You all blame her for provoking and perpetuating the malice?
Constantly, we see these threads being revived by "Unregistered"... NOT by *Bratcat* ... this psycho is the one fanning the flames: "^ ^"
Now, that THAT is perfectly clear ... take a good hard look at yourselves and ask how you have perpetuated the problem.
Cym
Yes, I realize that your behavior stems from your belief that she sent MS two emails that were provocative. She openly explained to you that they were not anything more than reaching out to someone she considered a friend because of previous support he had shown her. She thought that maybe she could be instrumental in helping your hurtful situation somehow, by offering a hand in friendship. Whether you believe it or not, that was her intent. It may very well be the difference between the chat and GB, where in chat it isn't a major faux pas to have platonic friendships with SOs of friends, same with kisses given in friendship (as Este explained previously). However, I'm sure she regrets those emails because of the misunderstanding and the furor which evolved, subsequently. She did try to explain that to you openly, as well as apologize for any hurt feelings that she caused you. She was sincere.
You overeacted. You, I'm sure, believe your attack was warranted. For what? For an email telling MS that she had a friendly ear of support? For a birthday wish? You went off the deep end with your cathouse slut thread. You jumped to conclusions with a personal attack about promiscuity on her that you have absolutely no knowledge of. Three obvious cyber relations in two years hardly makes her promiscous. You continue to keep the flame ablaze. You apologize for bumping threads anonymously, but then you can't help but add nasty remarks aimed at her in that same thread. By doing so, it provokes others to attack her when she wasn't even responsible for the old threads being resurrected. Sorry, but you are part of the problem.
Plasticman
You are not an innocent bystander here, either. Since November, when *Bratcat* made it perfectly clear to you that she considered you only a friend, you have posted personal innuendos to every thread even remotely involved with her. You follow her footsteps wherever she goes. In fact, wasn't it your post in a thread that began the whole blowup with Cym? She cares for you as a friend, stop insinuating anything more. It only feeds the skanky bear when you contradict yourself and her. Sorry, but you are part of the problem.
Marxist
You of all people should know how it feels to defend yourself against erroneous accusations. Your attack on a newcomer, based on behind the scene false proof, was strangely pathetic. I still haven't seen you apologize for your misconceptions. Sorry, but you are part of the problem.
Myst
You were used as a pawn by an untrustworthy psychopath whose only reason here is to antagonize Cat. All of these secret pms back and forth to each other, embellishing facts to fiction, false accusations involving other people in the controversy (first JuicyLips and now Dangergirl) are part of the problem.
Lavender, Celestial, etc. (too many to mention)
Your supposed defense of Cym has turned you into a pack of attack dogs frothing at the mouth. Not only are you not privy to the truth, you refuse to acknowledge it when you see it. There are two sides to every story, the truth is in the grey area somewhere in between. False accusations running rampant, blatantly hateful comments, feeding off of each other's rage in pms, twisting and embellishing details, insane skepticism and paranoia, rationality gone askew ... sorry, but you are ALL part of the problem.
You have all expressed your hateful feelings about *Bratcat*, ad nauseum. There really isn't anything left to be said, so then you transfer your attack mode on innocent people. Playing right into the hands of the skanky bear ... and you blame *Bratcat* for prolonging the controversy?
It's very sad, that no matter what she does or says, the most excitement you derive on this board is to gang up on her and hurl insults and accusations ... fueling the fire, while blaming HER for it continuing.
Don't see it that way? Do a search on each of her posts in the past month or so, and see for yourselves. Her restraint, in the face of harrassment, has been remarkable.
modest mouse
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Re: Bratcat
Boys have a penis.
Girls have a vagina.
RhumbRunner13 said:
Boys have a penis.
Girls have a vagina.
Natalie Nessus
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Re: Re: Bratcat
was the procedure expensive, MM?
It is good in Switzerland, I hear
was the procedure expensive, MM?
It is good in Switzerland, I hear
Problem Child
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Good Lord, not this fucking shit again. It's like stubbing your toe on the same curb every damn day.
Mouse...I always knew you were a pussy...heh.
Mouse...I always knew you were a pussy...heh.
modest mouse
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Re: Re: Re: Bratcat
Still paying off the loan but all is well with my new toys. The chocolate was a treat while over there.
Repeatedly.
yes, you have been privy to so much in my times of trauma. Thanks for being there, I mean it. And we can still have wild butt-loving.
Nessus said:was the procedure expensive, MM?
Still paying off the loan but all is well with my new toys. The chocolate was a treat while over there.
Cheyenne said:
Repeatedly.
Problem Child said:
yes, you have been privy to so much in my times of trauma. Thanks for being there, I mean it. And we can still have wild butt-loving.
celiaKitten
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You know, PC, your Sig Line fits perfectly with this situation....
Why this pointless annoyance again??
Why this pointless annoyance again??
RhumbRunner13
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MM,
Bend WAY over and check again............I would have sworn...
Bend WAY over and check again............I would have sworn...
Mrs_Jeep25
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Wow she must have pissed off a lot of people......
Just excuse me I am kinda new to this part of the site and couldnt help but to notice this thread
Just excuse me I am kinda new to this part of the site and couldnt help but to notice this thread
