Hmmm interesting request from my sub.......

[i_love_myself76]

Ok got an interesting request from one of my subs on christmas. He wants me to mark him as my property. Tattoo and all!!! anyone else have anything similar happen to them. Any feedback is appreciated since this is the first time anyone has asked this of me hehehe

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Ok got an interesting request from one of my subs on christmas. He wants me to mark him as my property. Tattoo and all!!! anyone else have anything similar happen to them. Any feedback is appreciated since this is the first time anyone has asked this of me hehehe

i don't have any suggestions or anything but Master and i have talked about me being 'marked' it would be His symbol, and show His ownership of me. i think it's something that really needs to be taken seriously and it would depend, for me anyway, how long the relationship had been going on and how long i planned to stay in it. i know you can never really see an 'end' in sight but, yea, i know what i'm trying to say LOL....i guess it would just depend on the relationship and the committment of said relationship. good luckto you..

 

[i_love_myself76]

Thanks have been thinking about it since he has asked me and i know one day we will be live in just not sure if this is the right step but ill continue to think on it

 

[myinnerslut]

if you want to mark him but arnt sure of the permanacy of a tatto or brand or anythign like that, you can try having him pierced instead..

 

[CutieMouse]

My first question would be, do *you* want a permanent mark of ownership on your partner? Not even do you want it on this particular partner, but is it something that you are interested in, in a generic/theoretical way? Once you sort out if it is an idea of interest in the general sense, then you know if it's worth investing energy in deciding if it is something you want for your relationship with this partner. Your partner can want to wear your mark until the cows come home, but if it isn't something *you* want, I see no reason for it to happen. (Doms/Tops have limits too, and all that...)

 

[SweetErika]

If I was going to mark a sub, I'd have us choose a symbol that was meaningful to us, but pretty ambiguous to the rest of the world, I think.

I'd also start with something non- or semi-permanent, like perhaps a piece of jewelry (I've heard of things that are very difficult or can only be cut off), partially because I've always like the idea of progression and milestones (Hubby, for instance, gave me a small diamond ring as a symbol of commitment, then an engagement, then wedding ring; I wear and cherish all three because they symbolize different stages in our journey). A permanent marking for me would come with a more permanent commitment--something similar to a marriage--because that's what I'd want it to represent and it doesn't seem to fit with a shorter-term or ambiguous commitment to me.

I believe I've seen quite a few articles and threads on permanent markings/tattoos on other sites, and I'm sure there are here as well, if you're interested in researching more.

 

[the captians wench]

Master and I have talked about me being branded. A J on my ass, so he and I know it's there but it's pretty much hidden to anyone else.

It's really funny to see how that developed because when we first started chatting neither one of us were really into perminate marks, and while a brand can fade depending on how deep it is, it is still pretty perminate.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I am both cut and branded, but it was done because he wanted it, not because I asked for it.....that is not a sign I didn't want it, just I think it is not something a sub normally should ask for. Like some have already said, you need to think about whether this is something you want as I take it it is you who is the Dominant in this arangement and so is your decision. I would also caution you if the relationship is not seen as something that is expected realistically to be permanent as it can present problems for the sub in future relationships. Some choose to use a mark that can be generic as opposed to identifying within this singular relationship, thus if things don't last it is not as huge a burden as being marked with someone else's initials or name when they are no longer your partner.

Catalina

 

[Etoile]

Agreed...the dominant partner should have the final word. I think it's okay for the submissive partner to request it, but the dom's response should be "do I want this for us?" vs. "how do I do this?"

I am in the camp that prefers symbols over letters and words.

My wife bought me my first tattoo back in 1999, but it wasn't really a mark of "ownership" - just a gift. Like so many things, it's only a mark of ownership if both partners feel that it is.

 

[blklthrjkt]

My two rules for brands or tatoos:

1. No name except that of yourself or mother

2. No cartoon characters - when you are 70, that Smurf is gonna look really stupid on your ass.

 

[Etoile]

I don't like name tattoos for anything under a 10-year relationship. If you've had 10 happy years, it's worth commemmorating that. But although I wanted my wife's first initial in 2008 (our 10th anniv), I think I am going to go with something she designed.

 

[i_love_myself76]

wow thanks for all the responces He wants to have "property of mistress lena" tattoed but im not sure if im comfortable with having my name on him even if he is mine. But a symbol would be nice something we could both understand

 

[Etoile]

wow thanks for all the responces He wants to have "property of mistress lena" tattoed but im not sure if im comfortable with having my name on him even if he is mine. But a symbol would be nice something we could both understand

How long have you guys been together? You mentioned you're not live-in yet. It's easy to get married because you can always get a divorce, but it's a lot harder to get rid of a tattoo! I would make sure a lot of thought has gone into this on both sides. Sounds to me like he's very eager, maybe too much?

 

[the captians wench]

wow thanks for all the responces He wants to have "property of mistress lena" tattoed but im not sure if im comfortable with having my name on him even if he is mine. But a symbol would be nice something we could both understand

If you're unsure about the tatoo, why not have him write this phrase every day in the same spot with a non toxic sharpee? Trust me, a week of this and it takes almost a month to fully get it off of ya. That may be a way for you to see how you like it as well, before it's perminate.

 

[i_love_myself76]

How long have you guys been together? You mentioned you're not live-in yet. It's easy to get married because you can always get a divorce, but it's a lot harder to get rid of a tattoo! I would make sure a lot of thought has gone into this on both sides. Sounds to me like he's very eager, maybe too much?

we have been together for a lil while a few monthes and im still in the i dont know stage of thinking about it just wanted to see how many have had this situation. And I am worried that he is a bit over eager about it

 

[i_love_myself76]

If you're unsure about the tatoo, why not have him write this phrase every day in the same spot with a non toxic sharpee? Trust me, a week of this and it takes almost a month to fully get it off of ya. That may be a way for you to see how you like it as well, before it's perminate.

hmmm that sounds fun just to see what it would look like

 

[SweetErika]

we have been together for a lil while a few monthes and im still in the i dont know stage of thinking about it just wanted to see how many have had this situation. And I am worried that he is a bit over eager about it

I'm only speaking for myself, of course, but I'd definitely think a few months would be wayyyyyy too soon for me. I'd wait at least until I was sure the new relationship energy/chemicals had worn off; they usually can't be maintained beyond 2 years, so that'd be my absolute minimum for anything permanent.

I really like cw's idea of the Sharpie daily. I didn't think about it having a cumulative effect, but that makes sense, and I bet it'd be fun to try.

 

[i_love_myself76]

I'm only speaking for myself, of course, but I'd definitely think a few months would be wayyyyyy too soon for me. I'd wait at least until I was sure the new relationship energy/chemicals had worn off; they usually can't be maintained beyond 2 years, so that'd be my absolute minimum for anything permanent.

I really like cw's idea of the Sharpie daily. I didn't think about it having a cumulative effect, but that makes sense, and I bet it'd be fun to try.

that is what i was thinking too it is way to soon and yes think the sharpie idea is fun sounding

 

[jadefirefly]

Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever do anyone's name, unless it is a memorial, a close family relative, yourself (in case you forget? ) or, in some circumstances, a pet.

Anything else... NOTHING is set in stone. NOTHING is guaranteed. NEVER do a name that does not fit into one of the above categories. It will be regretted.

If for no better reason, than a lot of artists are shit with text.

 

[Etoile]

we have been together for a lil while a few monthes and im still in the i dont know stage of thinking about it just wanted to see how many have had this situation. And I am worried that he is a bit over eager about it

Oh dear lord, way too soon. Tell him no, he needs to prove his devotion in other ways first. It is my guess that he wants to show you how much he loves you or how much he is devoted to you, but there are MANY ways he can do that which do not involve an expensive permanent mark on your skin. I think he needs to be more creative and come up with other ideas first.

 

[Etoile]

Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever do anyone's name, unless it is a memorial, a close family relative, yourself (in case you forget? ) or, in some circumstances, a pet.

Anything else... NOTHING is set in stone. NOTHING is guaranteed. NEVER do a name that does not fit into one of the above categories. It will be regretted.

If for no better reason, than a lot of artists are shit with text.

I second that. Even the close family relative thing is up for debate. It is generally a bad idea to get a name, PERIOD. For me, I would get a tattoo to commemmorate a relationship of significant length - but I still wouldn't get a name.

I do think it's okay as a memorial tattoo though. I have two memorial tattoos, but they are not names. They are both on my leg, and they are paw prints - one for each of the cats I have loved who have died. As other cats die, I will be adding more paw prints. (I have no kids, my cats are my babies.)

 

[jadefirefly]

I would do an immediate family member -- my mother, father, son, maybe even my sister. That's about it. Maybe my grandmother. Because even if I fall out with them at some point in the future, they're still my family.

I'd never, EVER do a name for someone I was involved with. Because if I fall out with them, they're gone, and I'm stuck with this stupid name on me.

Definitely not my idea of fun.

I'm all for non-name commemorative tattoos, if they're well thought out. Then again, I think all tattoos should be well thought out.

 

[i_love_myself76]

well it isnt like im the one getting the tattoo but still it should be thought out i have a few tats and all of them mean something to me

 

[Betticus]

wow thanks for all the responces He wants to have "property of mistress lena" tattoed but im not sure if im comfortable with having my name on him even if he is mine. But a symbol would be nice something we could both understand

Perhaps Mistress Lena should have a symbol to represent her for situations such as this?

Think something along the lines of the artist formerly known as "Prince"!

 

[i_love_myself76]

Perhaps Mistress Lena should have a symbol to represent her for situations such as this?

Think something along the lines of the artist formerly known as "Prince"!

lmao i probably could come up with something