Hip replacement

[smj4740]

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[Nasty_Deeds]

Hello my wife has had double hip replacement will be 3 yrs in April. She healed very well certain movement restrictions still put her at risk of being hurt. Sex has been very conservity for fear of causing damage in someday. The Dr. Has said when fully healed 2 to 4 yrs should be able to do most everything she did prior to surgery. Position currently laying on her side but I'm not caring much for that but all the concern I have of hurting her might take away from what should be considered normal everyday sex. Sounds lame I guess just looking advice. Don't want the dang hips l
Popping out of place

sounds like you are going in the right direction. Just give her time to heal properly. With a little imagination, you and she can find other ways to enjoy erotic pleasure until she is completely healed. Good luck.

 

[qrayze]

Hello my wife has had double hip replacement will be 3 yrs in April. She healed very well certain movement restrictions still put her at risk of being hurt. Sex has been very conservity for fear of causing damage in someday. The Dr. Has said when fully healed 2 to 4 yrs should be able to do most everything she did prior to surgery. Position currently laying on her side but I'm not caring much for that but all the concern I have of hurting her might take away from what should be considered normal everyday sex. Sounds lame I guess just looking advice. Don't want the dang hips l
Popping out of place

Let her come up with the ideas and trust her instinct as to how much she can handle. Most adults don't handle being babied very well, so trust her. And talk to her about your concerns; if she says she's healed enough, then believe her. It's her body, so let her be the judge.

Also, get a book on sex positions...there's a ton of them and not all require flexibility or odd angles.

 

[SweetErika]

What about using some aids, like a sex swing or sling, chairs they make for sex or Liberator-type cushions?

Does doggy style--with only you moving--hurt her? Can she rest her legs on your chest/shoulders while you're at the edge of the bed or whatever?

Which motions hurt her? Is it spreading her legs that's problematic? If you give us a better idea of what doesn't work, maybe we can suggest some things that will work for you two.

Finally, I'd say be extra patient and compassionate. The current issue of Time has two excellent articles on pain and how people deal with it differently. Yes, your wife should be fully healed and functional, but maybe she's just not, or will always have some pain and limited function due to scar tissue or just the way her nervous system works. Everyone's different. You're on the right track by working with what you can, rather than focusing on any limitations.