High school reunion?

[Jesm]

My wife went to a couple of her reunions without me , i refused to go. I have never gone to any of mine and don't intend to. I don't even like seeing former classmates in a store or restaurant let alone paying money to spend an evening with them.

I ran into a few girls I went to school with a year or two after I graduated they would hardly speak to me gave me the cold shoulder I told them to go to hell.

 

[stiv837]

I ran into a few girls I went to school with a year or two after I graduated they would hardly speak to me gave me the cold shoulder I told them to go to hell.

That's is exactly what I should do.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

This would be the only thing that a high school reunion would be of any interest for my wife and I. We’re high school sweethearts and are now a hotwife couple. So I kind of like the idea of my wife hooking up with a guy she got reacquainted with while we were there. Definitely not her first boyfriend. He was an asshole that treated her like crap. I’m thinking one of the guys she had a school girl crush on. If she hits it off with one of them we invite him back home with us. Then of course they end up in our bedroom. And I listen from the hallway as he fucks her!

 

[Baddad2004]

I went back to go to my 20th. Big difference between the few that left town and the few that stayed. I’d say half of them are doing the same thing they did 20 years ago trying to re live their glory days under the Friday night lights.

 

[Jesm]

I went back to go to my 20th. Big difference between the few that left town and the few that stayed. I’d say half of them are doing the same thing they did 20 years ago trying to re live their glory days under the Friday night lights.

I was contacted for the 30th I let them know that I didn't want to pay for a plate at a restaurant. I asked why couldn't it
be during the daylight hours at a park or lake and be like a family reunion or a company picnic.But the big shots wanted the Saturday night at the fancy restaurant so they could play dress up.

 

[Noor]

Hey noor

Hi! How have you been?

 

[xXxplorher]

Has anyone ever gone to theirs, 3rsp if they don’t live near where they high school was?
If so, how was it?
Esp interested in those from all boys or all girls high schools.

I never gone, but now that I’m older I was thinking about it. I am in touch with some high school friends on social media, but my besties are/were luddites

10yr: Went and it was tremendous.

The event itself was shit. Poorly organized. Generally dumb. However, I went to a pretty small high school and I feel especially fortunate about all that. Everyone knew everyone. We were all plenty curious to see what direction people might branch off into. Like, "Where are you headed?"

And that felt a bit refreshing. Supportive. Sexy.

-Rather than the 20yr thing that's become... "Have you arrived?"

I didn't go to the 20yr, cuz I'd been swinging for the fences and fucking struck out, perpetually. I'd have nothing to do there but explain myself for failing and listen to people manufacture bullshit support that they have no clue about. No thanks. Plus, I was drunk too much. (full disclosure)

-Once we got to 30yrs, we were once again all about it.

Shit happens. No one's perfect. Let's all get bent and dumb like we used to and just simply congregate, be amongst each other.

There was identifiably lots less particpation but everyone who WAS there knew why we oughta be. I found it interesting that no one really asked "so, what's going on now?" career-wise. No one cared about that. It was all about suspending that crap and hugging up on who we 'used' to be. I can proudly say that nearly every person I encountered there after 30 years... had not lost their way at all. They all behaved the way I had always known them to be. I think we all got VERY drunk near the end of the night, admiring that about ourselves. And unapologetically so.

I was very lucky... to have this atmosphere around me growing up. We all saw that. And its a damn good feeling to share together. Don't miss your 30year. It's a good age. People can see straight and true.

 

[PaxNurgle]

Never wanted to, really.

As another poster said, High School was something I got through rather than something I enjoyed. It was actually one of the darker periods of my life, and nothing I want to relive. I found my "Tribe" with the alternative- school kids (who didn't attend the same school I did), and later in college and post-college, I had a huge circle of friends with the people I met there. Basically I had a much more fulfilling social life after high school. High School was just weird mix of arrogant snooty, standoffish kids, and sociopath/bully types. As other people mentioned, there were a lot of cool people there that I wouldn't mind seeing again, but by and large I have no real desire to attend a full reunion. As a matter of fact, we were supposed to have a milestone reunion a couple years ago, but nobody bothered to organize it, and there wasn't a whole lot of interest from the alums to begin with, so it just flat out didn't happen.

 

[Noor]

10yr: Went and it was tremendous.

The event itself was shit. Poorly organized. Generally dumb. However, I went to a pretty small high school and I feel especially fortunate about all that. Everyone knew everyone. We were all plenty curious to see what direction people might branch off into. Like, "Where are you headed?"

And that felt a bit refreshing. Supportive. Sexy.

-Rather than the 20yr thing that's become... "Have you arrived?"

I didn't go to the 20yr, cuz I'd been swinging for the fences and fucking struck out, perpetually. I'd have nothing to do there but explain myself for failing and listen to people manufacture bullshit support that they have no clue about. No thanks. Plus, I was drunk too much. (full disclosure)

-Once we got to 30yrs, we were once again all about it.

Shit happens. No one's perfect. Let's all get bent and dumb like we used to and just simply congregate, be amongst each other.

There was identifiably lots less particpation but everyone who WAS there knew why we oughta be. I found it interesting that no one really asked "so, what's going on now?" career-wise. No one cared about that. It was all about suspending that crap and hugging up on who we 'used' to be. I can proudly say that nearly every person I encountered there after 30 years... had not lost their way at all. They all behaved the way I had always known them to be. I think we all got VERY drunk near the end of the night, admiring that about ourselves. And unapologetically so.

I was very lucky... to have this atmosphere around me growing up. We all saw that. And its a damn good feeling to share together. Don't miss your 30year. It's a good age. People can see straight and true.

I don’t drink and the last big reunion my class had was pretty much a series of the upscale version of a kegger.
Maybe by my 50th reunion that change?
I could just come into town for the breakfasts, lunches and afternoon reunion related events, kind of like I did doing the prom dinner and then crashing the prom breakfast. We went to an amusement park in between and slept in the car for a bit. I still like amusement parks

 

[xXxplorher]

I don’t drink and the last big reunion my class had was pretty much a series of the upscale version of a kegger.
Maybe by my 50th reunion that change?
I could just come into town for the breakfasts, lunches and afternoon reunion related events, kind of like I did doing the prom dinner and then crashing the prom breakfast. We went to an amusement park in between and slept in the car for a bit. I still like amusement parks

You CAN do that, yes.

They generally stagger events in just that way for good reason as we grow older.

No reason to miss out on account of being sober, mate. It's all about embrace.

 

[xXxplorher]

I live 2,000 mules away from where I went to high school, and after I moved most everyone I knew acted like I was being selfish for choosing my life and happiness over theirs. I was flooded with messages of "when are you coming home?" to the point I had a small mental breakdown.

I ain't paying airlines' obscene prices to fly back to a place I left for good reason, just to see people who couldn't fathom going somewhere new to visit their supposed friend. I got better shit to do with my life.

Ouch.

It's very possible you read their intent wrong? Like, perhaps they were all missing you on an especially genuine level?

I hear you. I am a person who's mostly taken advantage of. However, you might try to view that backdrop in a different way? Like, what if... you were them instead of you? How might that look at viewing You?

I remember a lyric I once heard (or maybe wrote):

and I know bitterness sets an empty stage
saved for fools
and men who can't let go
of the rage

 

[UnexpectedLuggage]

Ouch.

It's very possible you read their intent wrong? Like, perhaps they were all missing you on an especially genuine level?

I hear you. I am a person who's mostly taken advantage of. However, you might try to view that backdrop in a different way? Like, what if... you were them instead of you? How might that look at viewing You?

I remember a lyric I once heard (or maybe wrote):

and I know bitterness sets an empty stage
saved for fools
and men who can't let go
of the rage

There are those I reconnected with who did genuinely miss me, but others who I just needed out of my life.

My supposed best friend and his wife constantly asking when I was coming back to visit and never offering to come visit me, see my new home or go somewhere new hurt the most. And they couldn't even use the "travel is expensive" excuse because they went to Disney World every year, so they could have easily taken a year off of that and used that money to come see their friend.

I had friends who moved away, and I did everything in my limited power to see them. I'd save for months on end to afford a plane ticket to fly out places and visit.

Ultimately, though, my decision was for the best. I'm happier now than I think I ever was before, have great new friends and held onto the old that felt real.

 

[Noor]

There are those I reconnected with who did genuinely miss me, but others who I just needed out of my life.

My supposed best friend and his wife constantly asking when I was coming back to visit and never offering to come visit me, see my new home or go somewhere new hurt the most. And they couldn't even use the "travel is expensive" excuse because they went to Disney World every year, so they could have easily taken a year off of that and used that money to come see their friend.

I had friends who moved away, and I did everything in my limited power to see them. I'd save for months on end to afford a plane ticket to fly out places and visit.

Ultimately, though, my decision was for the best. I'm happier now than I think I ever was before, have great new friends and held onto the old that felt real.

Did you invite them to visit?

I’m glad things worked out.

 

[Saint Peter]

One time in 40 years.

One time was enough.

 

[azflyboy69]

Just missed this one and saw pictures on Facebook and all I could think was who are those old people

 

[VamPal1]

No way.

 

[takingbacksunday]

If I showed up, no one would remember me anyway. I'm okay with that.

 

[LisaMayTurner]

I went to one when I was about 30. It was fun, but they didn't have any tea behind the bar and there wasn't a Toblerone in sight. I mean, what's the point of going?

 

[takingbacksunday]

I went to one when I was about 30. It was fun, but they didn't have any tea behind the bar and there wasn't a Toblerone in sight. I mean, what's the point of going?

I'm not entirely sure why but I think this is one of my favorite comments. Thanks for that. Lol.

 

[LisaMayTurner]

I'm not entirely sure why but I think this is one of my favorite comments. Thanks for that. Lol.

I hope you work it out! I did get rather tipsydizzy that night.

 

[takingbacksunday]

I hope you work it out! I did get rather tipsydizzy that night.

So you forgave the lack of Toblerone? I'm proud of you

 

[UnexpectedLuggage]

Did you invite them to visit?

I’m glad things worked out.

I did, several times. I invited them out, told them I'd take time off work (at a job that offered no PTO) to show them around my new home. I tried my damndest to keep that relationship, but it clearly wasn't meant to work out.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

If I showed up, no one would remember me anyway. I'm okay with that.

You might be surprised!

 

[takingbacksunday]

You might be surprised!

Possibly. In my 20s, I worked at a bar and two girls I went to school with but never talked to came in and confessed they had a crush on me. One was there for her Bachelorette party and the other was meeting her boyfriend lol. Made me regret not being a bit more social back then.

 

[paulboulder]

So you forgave the lack of Toblerone? I'm proud of you

Lisa loves her Toblerone, especially with Nutella...