I'm interested in stories of sudden insights into soemone's sexuality that you found shocking, arousing, or just simply surprising. Neighbors who are swingers? Something you learned from spouse's past? A secret a friend shared? What sexy secrets have been revealed to you?
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I think that the most shocking thing to me was learning how much people like... care? About sex? Like there are people who make it out to be this big, huge, life-altering, relationship-changing thing and I wasn't... aware... of that concept for a really long time. Like I know it was a thing, but I thought it was a thing for like... TV and stuff.
I didn't know the shame had affected people THAT much.
I actually remember the very minute I learned this. My aunt, for... some reason, told me that she was fucking some guy that I don't remember. I was like, "Ok." Because I didn't care and couldn't fathom why anyone would. And she looked at me like she had just confessed something and I realized, "Holy shit this MATTERS to her."
For me and everyone I had known up to that point sex was something fun that people did together because it was fun. Like everyone knew the steriotype was a thing, but it was honest to god like... something we all thought was being exaggerated for drama, like in the media.
I don't know what the difference is. I don't think it's an age thing because I've met older people who have casual sex, I mean I know people who lived through the 60s. But I know that there are a LOT of people who care a LOT about sex and I found that really shocking because it's such a foreign mindset.
And, again, I feel like people are going to say that it's because I grew up in the age of tinder, the time where anyone can read a lemon fanfic and get porn everywhere so OF COURSE it's not going to be as important, of course it's going to be more of a causal happy fun time thing to my generation because we're saturated with it. But that's not it.
I didn't know the shame had affected people THAT much.
I actually remember the very minute I learned this. My aunt, for... some reason, told me that she was fucking some guy that I don't remember. I was like, "Ok." Because I didn't care and couldn't fathom why anyone would. And she looked at me like she had just confessed something and I realized, "Holy shit this MATTERS to her."
For me and everyone I had known up to that point sex was something fun that people did together because it was fun. Like everyone knew the steriotype was a thing, but it was honest to god like... something we all thought was being exaggerated for drama, like in the media.
I don't know what the difference is. I don't think it's an age thing because I've met older people who have casual sex, I mean I know people who lived through the 60s. But I know that there are a LOT of people who care a LOT about sex and I found that really shocking because it's such a foreign mindset.
And, again, I feel like people are going to say that it's because I grew up in the age of tinder, the time where anyone can read a lemon fanfic and get porn everywhere so OF COURSE it's not going to be as important, of course it's going to be more of a causal happy fun time thing to my generation because we're saturated with it. But that's not it.
This isn't one single event but something that built up over time and is something that's told by my wife. My wife works in a small department consisting of 5-6 women all of whom are of a similar age range (25-35).
They're a tight-knit and close group. So much so that somehow they can tell when each of them had had sex the night before or even the morning before they went to work. Armed with this knowledge, they like to bust the balls of those who they identified as having recently had sex.
Things quickly progressed from there to exchanging stories about what they like in the bedroom, where they like to be touched, what their kinks are, etc.
I don't know about those ladies but my wife keeps me updated regularly about these stories, causing me to know which of her colleagues like to have her nipples bitten, which of them reads erotica, and which of them requires 3 orgasms before they're satisfied.
My wife also tells me that she tells them about what we're like in the bedroom as well.
I would say these revelations have added to my own sex life in the following ways:
-Most of these ladies are married so in the process of telling each other the details of their sex lives, they also exchange ideas about how to keep the spark going even with the stresses of work and family life.
-My wife's become more adventurous. She initiates sex more and try more new things. I also look for more ways to excite and please her, after all there are some ladies at her office who will be listening about my exploits.
They're a tight-knit and close group. So much so that somehow they can tell when each of them had had sex the night before or even the morning before they went to work. Armed with this knowledge, they like to bust the balls of those who they identified as having recently had sex.
Things quickly progressed from there to exchanging stories about what they like in the bedroom, where they like to be touched, what their kinks are, etc.
I don't know about those ladies but my wife keeps me updated regularly about these stories, causing me to know which of her colleagues like to have her nipples bitten, which of them reads erotica, and which of them requires 3 orgasms before they're satisfied.
My wife also tells me that she tells them about what we're like in the bedroom as well.
I would say these revelations have added to my own sex life in the following ways:
-Most of these ladies are married so in the process of telling each other the details of their sex lives, they also exchange ideas about how to keep the spark going even with the stresses of work and family life.
-My wife's become more adventurous. She initiates sex more and try more new things. I also look for more ways to excite and please her, after all there are some ladies at her office who will be listening about my exploits.
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Two that spring to mind are; my ex GFS elfin best friend being a dominant tease. I thought she was all mouth. Appears I was wrong. Years of missed opportunity there.
The latter would be my wife. I knew she had s past, but the sheer volume of partners and nature of the encounters left me amazed.
The latter would be my wife. I knew she had s past, but the sheer volume of partners and nature of the encounters left me amazed.
showing and telling
woodward, you seem like a damned curious person. But I welcome the opportunity to get some thoughts off my chest, so here comes a general remark first. An observation similar to yours about the women your wife works with.
People seem to love talking about sex. One would think the subject to be very private, yet there appears to be a desire in many to share experiences, or simply share one's sexuality with other people. I admit it exists in me; I love to share experiences and fantasies. Sometimes when I masturbate, I imagine telling the woman I dream to be with about experiences or fantasies. So I must be an exhibitionist of sorts.
At the same time, I love hearing – say a relative stranger – tell me about some of her intimate moments. And a surprising number of them seem to have no problems sharing, on . So could it be that many people are BOTH exhibitionists and voyeurs?
I have learned much about the sexuality of many women thru Lit PMs, even in cases where I had not originally intended. But I also listened to a lot that I cannot believe it actually happened this way. Some women seem to enjoy painting a picture of themselves as being far more experienced, or far more lusty and horny than they are. Including photos supposedly of themselves.
One final note on a woman I was with, who I had considered fairly prude originally. She had made remarks to me about not liking lingerie, like "I'd never wear such underwear, which only whores need to put on". But one day I brought home a particularly revealing set, all in red, and I gave it to her, she seemed to change totally, when she looked at herself in the mirror. Her small tits were framed by a bra, the main feature of which was what was not there. And the same with her pussy: her new panties were mainly an opening, not panties.
She got so turned on about herself, and also about me touching her and feeling her up, as we stood before a full-length mirror, that we made love standing up and engorging ourselves on our mirror images.
So what does all this prove? People are much more voyeurs and exhibitionists than one would believe. Including myself.
woodward, you seem like a damned curious person. But I welcome the opportunity to get some thoughts off my chest, so here comes a general remark first. An observation similar to yours about the women your wife works with.
People seem to love talking about sex. One would think the subject to be very private, yet there appears to be a desire in many to share experiences, or simply share one's sexuality with other people. I admit it exists in me; I love to share experiences and fantasies. Sometimes when I masturbate, I imagine telling the woman I dream to be with about experiences or fantasies. So I must be an exhibitionist of sorts.
At the same time, I love hearing – say a relative stranger – tell me about some of her intimate moments. And a surprising number of them seem to have no problems sharing, on . So could it be that many people are BOTH exhibitionists and voyeurs?
I have learned much about the sexuality of many women thru Lit PMs, even in cases where I had not originally intended. But I also listened to a lot that I cannot believe it actually happened this way. Some women seem to enjoy painting a picture of themselves as being far more experienced, or far more lusty and horny than they are. Including photos supposedly of themselves.
One final note on a woman I was with, who I had considered fairly prude originally. She had made remarks to me about not liking lingerie, like "I'd never wear such underwear, which only whores need to put on". But one day I brought home a particularly revealing set, all in red, and I gave it to her, she seemed to change totally, when she looked at herself in the mirror. Her small tits were framed by a bra, the main feature of which was what was not there. And the same with her pussy: her new panties were mainly an opening, not panties.
She got so turned on about herself, and also about me touching her and feeling her up, as we stood before a full-length mirror, that we made love standing up and engorging ourselves on our mirror images.
So what does all this prove? People are much more voyeurs and exhibitionists than one would believe. Including myself.
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I have been privy to a host of dirty little secrets but one that immediately came to mind was a female friend told me she "paid" some major rent arrears by fucking her landlord. It was a one off. She said she did it out of total desperation and had to have a few stiff drinks to go through with it. He was about twice her age, short, overweight with a beer belly and about as handsome as Danny Devito. That was shocking enough but she confessed she actually got off on it because (as she put it) Good looks don't necessarily equate to a good fuck and this old guy was certainly no Adonis but he had a big cock and he knew how to use it. She just closed her eyes and fantasized it was Jimi Hendrix giving her an orgasm. (she has always had a thing for Jimi)
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My best friend divorced her 2nd husband but she did go to his funeral. There, his relatives were speaking openly of the prostitution ring that he had been running out of her house. When she asked his sister about it, her reply was that she thought she (my friend) knew. That wasn't the only shocking thing that she learned. But the other stuff wasn't sexual.
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"Virgin Girl Friend"
Back when I was in my 20s, I had a girlfriend who would never let me fuck her -- although we did almost everything. She was very fuckable -- about 5' 3", 105 lbs with very short hair.
After we had been together for a few months, she and a girlfriend of hers took a two week vacation in Spain. I could tell immediately that things had changed when she came back. She confessed quite quickly that she had lost her virginity on the trip to some Spanish dude she met.
Gradually it came out the whole trip had gotten kind of wild and she had at least three "flings" on the trip. Thereafter she cheated on me regularly -- but I loved it
Back when I was in my 20s, I had a girlfriend who would never let me fuck her -- although we did almost everything. She was very fuckable -- about 5' 3", 105 lbs with very short hair.
After we had been together for a few months, she and a girlfriend of hers took a two week vacation in Spain. I could tell immediately that things had changed when she came back. She confessed quite quickly that she had lost her virginity on the trip to some Spanish dude she met.
Gradually it came out the whole trip had gotten kind of wild and she had at least three "flings" on the trip. Thereafter she cheated on me regularly -- but I loved it
some more thoughts on my post #6
Thinking about the subject some more and deeper, dug up out of my head this joke about the rabbi, who loved to play golf. He did not have a chance for playing for many days, all thru Friday, on account of pouring rain. But then on the morning of the Sabbath, the sun was shining beautifully, and the grass on the golf course had dried off also, So a perfect day for golfing, except his beliefs forbade him to play on that day.
Well eventually he did sneak out to the course for 9 quick holes, at 5:30am, but of course he was spotted by St. Peter in heaven and god almighty. God told Peter that he would "fix" the rabbi. But his ball took off beautifully, flew towards the green, rolled along the green right into the cup. When St. Peter asked "is that what you call fixing him?", almighty replied: "but who will the poor man be able to brag to, about his hole-in-one!"
I would not eliminate a desire for "bragging" in one form or another, as a motive for at least some "openness" on Lit and other forums. At least one woman I communicated with over a platform in Germany had sent me pictures, supposedly of herself, with "her" bedroom having electrical outlets like in the US, not like ours here (pictures from the internet are more readily available, when taken in USA).
Thinking about the subject some more and deeper, dug up out of my head this joke about the rabbi, who loved to play golf. He did not have a chance for playing for many days, all thru Friday, on account of pouring rain. But then on the morning of the Sabbath, the sun was shining beautifully, and the grass on the golf course had dried off also, So a perfect day for golfing, except his beliefs forbade him to play on that day.
Well eventually he did sneak out to the course for 9 quick holes, at 5:30am, but of course he was spotted by St. Peter in heaven and god almighty. God told Peter that he would "fix" the rabbi. But his ball took off beautifully, flew towards the green, rolled along the green right into the cup. When St. Peter asked "is that what you call fixing him?", almighty replied: "but who will the poor man be able to brag to, about his hole-in-one!"
I would not eliminate a desire for "bragging" in one form or another, as a motive for at least some "openness" on Lit and other forums. At least one woman I communicated with over a platform in Germany had sent me pictures, supposedly of herself, with "her" bedroom having electrical outlets like in the US, not like ours here (pictures from the internet are more readily available, when taken in USA).
My favorite
So my favorite 'surprise' story was told to me by a buddy. There was a couples party and they played a game where each person was given a subject, mostly the 'first time' story type. The idea was the person pulled out a topic and then was to tell a personal story around it. Then folks had to guess whether the person was telling the truth or had invented the story.
Most of the stories were not that wild, but my friend admitted it was hot to hear especially the women admitting to somewhat kinky 'first time' stories. Well, it came to the most conservative woman in the group and she read aloud the following. "Tell about the first extra-marital affair you had w/o your husband knowing." Generally the person was given a couple of minutes to 'make up' or 'tell the truth'. This woman didn't even pause. She said bluntly, with a little anger in her voice. "I have NEVER had an affair. Period."
It was a little awkward but folks rushed to put in their view as to whether the person was telling the truth or not. All threw in that she was telling the truth. The last to vote would be the husband and he too said she is telling the truth. Then the person was to turn over a card saying whether they told the truth or lied.
She turned over the card. "LIE"
The gasp in the room was big including her husband. He looked at her as she blushed for the first time. One of the other women (a bit drunk) said, 'Oh dish it, sister!' but she shook her head.
So my favorite 'surprise' story was told to me by a buddy. There was a couples party and they played a game where each person was given a subject, mostly the 'first time' story type. The idea was the person pulled out a topic and then was to tell a personal story around it. Then folks had to guess whether the person was telling the truth or had invented the story.
Most of the stories were not that wild, but my friend admitted it was hot to hear especially the women admitting to somewhat kinky 'first time' stories. Well, it came to the most conservative woman in the group and she read aloud the following. "Tell about the first extra-marital affair you had w/o your husband knowing." Generally the person was given a couple of minutes to 'make up' or 'tell the truth'. This woman didn't even pause. She said bluntly, with a little anger in her voice. "I have NEVER had an affair. Period."
It was a little awkward but folks rushed to put in their view as to whether the person was telling the truth or not. All threw in that she was telling the truth. The last to vote would be the husband and he too said she is telling the truth. Then the person was to turn over a card saying whether they told the truth or lied.
She turned over the card. "LIE"
The gasp in the room was big including her husband. He looked at her as she blushed for the first time. One of the other women (a bit drunk) said, 'Oh dish it, sister!' but she shook her head.
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I remember the utter surprise I felt on discovering that a rather ordinary, tweedy, incredibly dull man I knew was cheating on his wife... or trying to, at least. I'd always thought of him as such an unsexual creature that it was firstly a surprise to find that he did have wants and needs after all.
And secondly it was surprising because he just didn't seem like the type to have secrets. I guess everyone does. Hell, perhaps the people who seem the most ordinary are those that have the most to hide.
And secondly it was surprising because he just didn't seem like the type to have secrets. I guess everyone does. Hell, perhaps the people who seem the most ordinary are those that have the most to hide.
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From way long ago I had a friend who would sleep with her stepdad...she was almost proud of it, always thought it was weird. Now she’s married to someone almost 20 years older who’d a guessed? Some good stuff has been told to me on here to however I think about half of it is fabricated for conversation.
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Great topic.....
For me it would be my wife's lusting after Black men.... She kept it secret from me for years then let it slip one night when she was drinking. I encouraged her to give it a shot... She did and enjoyed it for a period of years then the thrill wore off I guess and she hasn't been with one in several years...
The wildest thing she did was suck off 4 black men that were in the band at a blues bar we were at one night. She followed them into the back on their break, as soon as the door was closed she said they stripped her, pushed her to her knees and told her to start sucking.... When she was finished, they took her bra and thong and left her there naked..... cum on her face, in her hair and on her tits...
For me it would be my wife's lusting after Black men.... She kept it secret from me for years then let it slip one night when she was drinking. I encouraged her to give it a shot... She did and enjoyed it for a period of years then the thrill wore off I guess and she hasn't been with one in several years...
The wildest thing she did was suck off 4 black men that were in the band at a blues bar we were at one night. She followed them into the back on their break, as soon as the door was closed she said they stripped her, pushed her to her knees and told her to start sucking.... When she was finished, they took her bra and thong and left her there naked..... cum on her face, in her hair and on her tits...
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Sexually Adventurous Girl...Sorta
I was dating a girl at one point in my late twenties who I thought was a "good" girl. She was in her early twenties at the time. Turns out she was inexperienced. One night while having sex, she completely caught me off guard when she told me she wanted to watch me have sex with another woman. After that night we had several group sex encounters. She is still the one that I measure all others against.
I was dating a girl at one point in my late twenties who I thought was a "good" girl. She was in her early twenties at the time. Turns out she was inexperienced. One night while having sex, she completely caught me off guard when she told me she wanted to watch me have sex with another woman. After that night we had several group sex encounters. She is still the one that I measure all others against.
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When we were much younger and lived in London my wife was friends with a beautiful French woman. She was around the same age, extraordinarily beautiful, demure, happy and bright but seemed a little lost in the big city.
She and my wife got on very well and she revealed that her boyfriend at the time was dreadful in bed. She cared for him but she couldn't see herself staying with him, he was older than her and something of a security blanket.
Work and travel meant she and my wife lost touch a little and then, several years later they bumped into each other in a different town. She'd moved on, was getting married to someone else and was really happy, confident and had really found herself.
Several social meetings later my wife was invited back to her house one afternoon. The guy was quite wealthy, had a stunning Modernist home which my wife fell in love with. During the tour my wife asked about several random hooks in the ceiling of the bedroom. Her friend laughed and offered to show her. It turned out to be a swing and my wife had never seen one. Once she was strapped in fully clothed and couldn't move her friend revealed they were swingers, that she also enjoyed women and had always been attracted to my wife but never had the courage to say.
After some teasing she dropped to her knees and licked my wife to orgasm, the first time my wife had ever been with another woman. They had a wild afternoon.
Inevitably we were invited to one of their parties not long after and even though I encouraged my wife to go, for me at the time it just wasn't my thing.
I always thought it interesting the transformation that took place for my wife's friend and wondered whether the person she was always had those desires or circumstance bought it out of her.
She and my wife got on very well and she revealed that her boyfriend at the time was dreadful in bed. She cared for him but she couldn't see herself staying with him, he was older than her and something of a security blanket.
Work and travel meant she and my wife lost touch a little and then, several years later they bumped into each other in a different town. She'd moved on, was getting married to someone else and was really happy, confident and had really found herself.
Several social meetings later my wife was invited back to her house one afternoon. The guy was quite wealthy, had a stunning Modernist home which my wife fell in love with. During the tour my wife asked about several random hooks in the ceiling of the bedroom. Her friend laughed and offered to show her. It turned out to be a swing and my wife had never seen one. Once she was strapped in fully clothed and couldn't move her friend revealed they were swingers, that she also enjoyed women and had always been attracted to my wife but never had the courage to say.
After some teasing she dropped to her knees and licked my wife to orgasm, the first time my wife had ever been with another woman. They had a wild afternoon.
Inevitably we were invited to one of their parties not long after and even though I encouraged my wife to go, for me at the time it just wasn't my thing.
I always thought it interesting the transformation that took place for my wife's friend and wondered whether the person she was always had those desires or circumstance bought it out of her.
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When I was in high school I found out my parents were swingers. Definitely not what I wanted to learn as a teenage girl.
Oops, was referring to this post...
Yes, women definitely do tell one another, especially in small groups when the discretion is there
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I’ve been good friends with this couple for some time and recently the three of us were drinking together and got to taking about sex. They admitted that their favourite position was “from behind” and when I asked why they said it was because they could do it without a condom and not worry about her getting pregnant. You mean, “anal”? I asked. They nodded. Now I can’t stop thinking about my girlfriend bent over and taking his load up her ass. She has an amazing bubble butt too. I would love to watch her face when this is happening. She admitted that she orgasms this way.
To them I admitted that I love the taste of come and it makes me hot knowing that they know this. Maybe one day something will happen between us.
To them I admitted that I love the taste of come and it makes me hot knowing that they know this. Maybe one day something will happen between us.
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Honestly (and I consider myself a lucky man here) .... my wife.
When we first started dating our sex was amazing. Vanilla, but amazing. After the first couple of times, I realised I’d never actually had a good blow job before. The girls I’d been with had always been a bit .... I don’t know. Reticent. Or polite about it. Whereas my wife-to-be was just a real artist at pleasing me with her mouth. And with everything else, she was just the right amount of assertive: I could try anything I wanted. But I knew right away if she liked it or not. And I knew what she liked, too.
And then, somehow, I discovered slowly how submissive she was. That she liked being called a ‘slut’, or a ‘cumslut’ when she was sucking my cock. That she liked being taken from behind, and rough. That she liked wearing extremely slutty lingerie, and showing herself off in it to me. That sometimes she fantasised about being a sex-slave, to one man or to a lot of men. And sometimes to women.
It didn’t take long for all those fantasies to start turning me on too. To discover my dominant side and my submissive side. And to realise, in retrospect, just how many of the girls I’d been with had also had a strong submissive streak I’d wilfully missed.
And yeah, it keeps going. My wife is still shocking/surprising/amazing/turning me on with her filthy mind. And she looks so demure on the outside....
When we first started dating our sex was amazing. Vanilla, but amazing. After the first couple of times, I realised I’d never actually had a good blow job before. The girls I’d been with had always been a bit .... I don’t know. Reticent. Or polite about it. Whereas my wife-to-be was just a real artist at pleasing me with her mouth. And with everything else, she was just the right amount of assertive: I could try anything I wanted. But I knew right away if she liked it or not. And I knew what she liked, too.
And then, somehow, I discovered slowly how submissive she was. That she liked being called a ‘slut’, or a ‘cumslut’ when she was sucking my cock. That she liked being taken from behind, and rough. That she liked wearing extremely slutty lingerie, and showing herself off in it to me. That sometimes she fantasised about being a sex-slave, to one man or to a lot of men. And sometimes to women.
It didn’t take long for all those fantasies to start turning me on too. To discover my dominant side and my submissive side. And to realise, in retrospect, just how many of the girls I’d been with had also had a strong submissive streak I’d wilfully missed.
And yeah, it keeps going. My wife is still shocking/surprising/amazing/turning me on with her filthy mind. And she looks so demure on the outside....
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Had she lived some of those fantasies, before meeting you?
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My wife and I started dating in high school and married after we graduated from college. We went to different colleges, and she dated lots of guys on those weekends when I wasn't available. I knew she was fooling around because I found hickeys on her tits and heard rumors, but I didn't think she was having sex, since she wasn't having it with me. After we were married for several years, I asked if she had been fucked in college, and she said, "Of course." Over time, I discovered that she had been having sex every weekend I wasn't around until we got engaged. That was a surprise, but it was also a turn-on to hear her stories.
