Hi folks

[KinkyGuy1]

Hi folks,
Just thought that I should post a message here.

I'm relatively new to the scene despite my being in my fourties. My partner has been a submissive for many years & has awakened a sexually dominant side in me. She is significantly younger than me too! What have I been doing all of these years?

I'm still wary when it comes to attending munches etc. It all seems a bit odd to me as to why one would. Maybe it's just me being insecure, but why would I want to introduce my partner to guys who are far more experienced in the bdsm field, more dominant? My insecurity I know, but I am new to this so sort of feel underconfident in this sphere.

Hopefully I will be enlightened in due course .

Thanks

 

[MastersDelight]

Hi folks,
Just thought that I should post a message here.

I'm relatively new to the scene despite my being in my fourties. My partner has been a submissive for many years & has awakened a sexually dominant side in me. She is significantly younger than me too! What have I been doing all of these years?

I'm still wary when it comes to attending munches etc. It all seems a bit odd to me as to why one would. Maybe it's just me being insecure, but why would I want to introduce my partner to guys who are far more experienced in the bdsm field, more dominant? My insecurity I know, but I am new to this so sort of feel underconfident in this sphere.

Hopefully I will be enlightened in due course .

Thanks

Munches are a lot of fun. It's a chance to go out with other kinksters and make friends where you don't have to be careful what you say (mostly). In your other post you mentioned that she was in an abusive and controlling relationship. Maybe going to munches is her way of trying to maintain some freedom on her part. She obviously wants to go to these events with YOU, take that as a really good sign .

As a new Dom I can see where going out with other, probably more experienced Dominants seems intimidating. Don't be! One of your greatest resources is other Dominants. Many are very friendly and will happily swap stories, techniques and ideas. My Master was brand spanking(ha!) new when we joined the scene. We were both nervous, but we're sooooooo glad we did it. We've made a lot of friends and we've both learned so much. They aren't going to be predators lurking in the corner waiting to swoop down on your vulnerable submissive with all their Domly charm. Our local community has been very respectful of our relationship. Everyone asks for permission before hugs even, Dominants always ask my Master for permission before ANY kind of contact, unless we have some sort of established relationship already. There's a few Dominants that no longer need to ask him, they just ask me. BUT THEY STILL ASK. Go to one munch. See what you think. If it's not for you, that's ok, it's not for everyone. But at least give it a try.

 

[CutieMouse]

Hi folks,
Just thought that I should post a message here.

I'm relatively new to the scene despite my being in my fourties. My partner has been a submissive for many years & has awakened a sexually dominant side in me. She is significantly younger than me too! What have I been doing all of these years?

I read your other thread, but it deserves more time than I have at the moment.

I just wanted to double check something... your girlfriend is "significantly younger" than you (40s), but had been in BDSM relationships for SIXTEEN YEARS? [according to your other post]

It sounds like she was involved in some sort of power dynamic before the age of legal consent...

I'm still wary when it comes to attending munches etc. It all seems a bit odd to me as to why one would. Maybe it's just me being insecure, but why would I want to introduce my partner to guys who are far more experienced in the bdsm field, more dominant? My insecurity I know, but I am new to this so sort of feel underconfident in this sphere.

Hopefully I will be enlightened in due course .

Thanks

This is going to sound snarky as hell, but why are you wary of going to a restaurant/pub and meeting people in a public, non-kink environment? I mean, I'm no big fan of munches (I think they're boring, personally), but have you ever shown up at a bar to watch a football game with other football fans? Same thing; different common interest. Seriously.

Why do you presume your partner is incapable of choosing who she wants (is it because she's submissive)? Apparently, she wants you (or she wouldn't be with you). So why would meeting anyone in a social setting = threat to your relationship? And, btw, I say that as a formerly polyamorous woman who had multiple lovers for most of the last 5+ years. My current relationship is monogamous (by my choice), and you couldn't get me to fuck or kink with another man right now if you paid me. I want HIM. No one can change that.