Hi all!

[bimom31]

Hey everyone! I just got signed up a few minutes and wanted to introduce myself. I am married and have two lovely daughters, 9 and 11. I know its bad, but I have very strong bisexual feelings that I occasionally act on, without my husband knowing Anyways, still learning my way around the site. Do any of you have any suggestions on where I would most enjoy my time here? What are some of your favorite boards? I'll hang up and listen

 

[fuckmeat]

You might want to check out the GBLT boards (gay, lesbian, bi, trans). I'm sure there's be people there who can empathise. I'm bi myself but my partner is female. I do crave men sometimes and more recently it's become something of a new fetish for me in its own right. I have to say though, that risking a marriage when there's kids' welfare and stability involved is not cool. Is there really no way you can tell your husband about your bi side? Lots of men find it hot. Is there no way you could both play with a woman together rather than sneaking around?

Welcome to Lit

 

[subwannabe]

Did I read that right? Did you say you were cheating on your husband? OK, I'm going to try not getting too moral here but it sounds like you are pretty flip about the whole thing. Maybe somewhere or other you believe it's not really cheating since it's not with a man but you seem to be very happy with your daughters and I'm wondering if you have fully thought out the consequences if you get caught and I use the word "if" very loosely. You WILL get caught at some point, maybe today, maybe tomorrow, maybe not for another 5 or ten years but I ask again, have you fully thought out the consequences of your actions? Is there a way to slowly ease your husband into acceptance? Maybe you could suggest a threesome with him to get the ball rolling. What guy wouldn't like that? This could evolve into you being able to satisfy your desires without having to cheat. Just some thoughts on the subject.

 

[TypicalDeviant]

I mostly hang out on "how to" and "bdsm talk". I occasionally check out Am Pics or the GB, and that's about it. I don't write stories, not LGB or T, nor am I looking for play, so I avoid those corresponding forums, though I've heard they're fun.

With regards to you having bi feelings (hot!), have you considered discussing them with your husband?

 

[mentionME]

I agree with everyone else. Work out something with your husband because its onlyright. As far as board I stick with the how to... section but you may enjoy glbt and the playground

 

[bimom31]

Thanks for the responses! Sorry it has taken me so long to respond, I was out of town for a few days! You all made very valid points about what I'm doing by hiding things from my husband and I agree with you all. I guess I should clarify my statement about acting on my urges... not that it makes it acceptable, but it has only been on the internet in chat rooms/instant messages. I wouldnt be able to do anything IRL without telling him. I really want to and I think he might be fairly receptive to the idea, I'm just really scared of what would happen if he isnt....

BTW, sorry to bring my issues here. I realize that this isn't the proper board/place!

 

[Jamison]

Hey everyone! I just got signed up a few minutes and wanted to introduce myself. I am married and have two lovely daughters, 9 and 11. I know its bad, but I have very strong bisexual feelings that I occasionally act on, without my husband knowing Anyways, still learning my way around the site. Do any of you have any suggestions on where I would most enjoy my time here? What are some of your favorite boards? I'll hang up and listen

You'd have to describe your husband and his attitude before I could offer any useful advice, but good luck to you!

 

[TypicalDeviant]

BTW, sorry to bring my issues here. I realize that this isn't the proper board/place!

"How to" is most certainly an okay place to ask for advice.

 

[temted2]

Thanks for the responses! Sorry it has taken me so long to respond, I was out of town for a few days! You all made very valid points about what I'm doing by hiding things from my husband and I agree with you all. I guess I should clarify my statement about acting on my urges... not that it makes it acceptable, but it has only been on the internet in chat rooms/instant messages. I wouldnt be able to do anything IRL without telling him. I really want to and I think he might be fairly receptive to the idea, I'm just really scared of what would happen if he isnt....

Like other guys on here I'm hoping you are my wife and have created a secret account here to get advice.

It sounds like you need to find a way to gauge his reaction and still have a level of deniability on your end. My ideas would include -
-Watch a movie porn or otherwise with that theme
-Send him a few erotic stories from the net and mix in some bi content by "mistake"
-Find ways to come across the topic with out it being about you

If you haven't, I might suggest making sure for a while that he knows you still find him desirable as well before venturing into this territory. The more secure he is with his relationship with you, the more open minded he may be.

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks for the responses! Sorry it has taken me so long to respond, I was out of town for a few days! You all made very valid points about what I'm doing by hiding things from my husband and I agree with you all. I guess I should clarify my statement about acting on my urges... not that it makes it acceptable, but it has only been on the internet in chat rooms/instant messages. I wouldnt be able to do anything IRL without telling him. I really want to and I think he might be fairly receptive to the idea, I'm just really scared of what would happen if he isnt....

BTW, sorry to bring my issues here. I realize that this isn't the proper board/place!

Actually, this is exactly the right board for your issues and getting great advice. There are lots of people here who have been in similar situations, and while we may not always tell you what you want to hear, most of us will give you our best, honest perspectives.

If you think your husband will be receptive to your sexuality and ideas, he probably will be. You know him better than anyone else, so go with your gut.

Have you asked him if the idea of two women together is appealing to him? If he responds positively to that, you might try asking him if the idea of you with another woman appeals to him. He'll probably say it does, and you can have an honest conversation about your curiosity/feelings and what he might be comfortable with in terms of you exploring from there.

He may very well have some insecurities and/or fear you might like women better or even leave him for one, so be prepared to reassure him. But in the end, he likely loves you and wants you to be yourself and be happy, so keep that in mind when you're summoning the courage to discuss this with him.

Oh, and keep in mind that while online is very different from RL, many still view it as cheating, or at least dishonest/lying. What your husband views as unacceptable and cheating is something you'll need to discuss with him, of course. You'll be better off exploring with his blessing from here on out--or at least knowing where you stand--rather than trying to heal wounds in the aftermath.

 

[saltipond]

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