Hey ladys subs lets talk huh..........

[Wizard]

Help me out here, I am in the lifestyle and enjoy spanking my sub (wife of 15 years). We are great togethere and she enjoys them also.
So I am looking for a few honest opions on why you gals like it asuming you are the sub in the relationship. It might be diffrent for a male so I ask the girls here.

skitten siad she flt like a bad little girl and it feels great. Many of us are into thing for diffrent reasons. So I am looking to hear what you feel from this and what you gain.

Please be open with me, I am just wondering your thoughts.
I am always looking to go bigger and better and by talking with folks you can learn from others.

Thanks gang

PS HEY Miss T ........I want to hear your thought too, what do you feel and gain.

 

[SexyChele]

Okay, just when I think I've got everything figured out, some one has to throw a difficult question into the mix!

Truthfully, Wizard, it depends on the type of spanking and what he's using and what has occurred. Confused yet?

I love it when a man uses his hand as sort of a "warm up" or a tease. I love the sound of the smack, even if there is no pain. Just the feel of his hand smacking my ass then rubbing my skin. Sends shivers down my spine. I never thought of "why", though. I think it involves more of a feeling of a caress - sharp slap, soft caress, sharp slap, soft caress. Sort of opposites working together. I don't really care for hard hand spankings, though, and I think it has to do with the idea that, for me, his hands on my skin are more of a caress.

When he uses a flogger, strap, crop, or belt - and it isn't for punishment - it makes me feel vulnerable and open to him. I am baring myself to him (no pun intended!) and allowing him to something that is only reserved for him. The pain is eroticized for me, yes, but it has more to do with how he feels watching my skin pinken, then turn red. What he feels as he runs his hand over my reddened skin and feels the heat. Knowing that the sight, the feel, the sound is turning him on and having him know that my vulnerability is making me ready for him. Something like that.

Now, getting spanked as punishment is very different. At first there might be a feeling of humiliation, but it quickly turns to just the pain it is intended to be. For some reason, knowing that he is disappointed in me dissipates the eroticism for me. I think that is perhaps why the Doms in my life have seldom spanked me as a form of punishment.

It will be interesting to hear what others have to say!

 

[Wizard]

Okay, just when I think I've got everything figured out, some one has to throw a difficult question into the mix!

Truthfully, Wizard, it depends on the type of spanking and what he's using and what has occurred. Confused yet?

I love it when a man uses his hand as sort of a "warm up" or a tease. I love the sound of the smack, even if there is no pain. Just the feel of his hand smacking my ass then rubbing my skin. Sends shivers down my spine. I never thought of "why", though. I think it involves more of a feeling of a caress - sharp slap, soft caress, sharp slap, soft caress. Sort of opposites working together. I don't really care for hard hand spankings, though, and I think it has to do with the idea that, for me, his hands on my skin are more of a caress.

When he uses a flogger, strap, crop, or belt - and it isn't for punishment - it makes me feel vulnerable and open to him. I am baring myself to him (no pun intended!) and allowing him to something that is only reserved for him. The pain is eroticized for me, yes, but it has more to do with how he feels watching my skin pinken, then turn red. What he feels as he runs his hand over my reddened skin and feels the heat. Knowing that the sight, the feel, the sound is turning him on and having him know that my vulnerability is making me ready for him. Something like that.

Now, getting spanked as punishment is very different. At first there might be a feeling of humiliation, but it quickly turns to just the pain it is intended to be. For some reason, knowing that he is disappointed in me dissipates the eroticism for me. I think that is perhaps why the Doms in my life have seldom spanked me as a form of punishment.

It will be interesting to hear what others have to say!

Well first thank you for sharing this.

You comment "Just the feel of his hand smacking my ass then rubbing my skin. Sends shivers down my spine"is I belive felt by both the sub and Master.

am baring myself to him (no pun intended!) and allowing him to something that is only reserved for him. The pain is eroticized for me, yes, but it has more to do with how he feels watching my skin pinken, then turn red. What he feels as he runs his hand over my reddened skin and feels the heat. Knowing that the sight, the feel, the sound is turning him on and having him know that my vulnerability is making me ready for him. Something like that.

Very well put also.
You have been helpful and love to hear from others.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Interesting post Wizard.

Why do i love being spanked? There are a myriad of reasons. It's very hard to put into words, but I'll give it a shot. On the surface, a spanking, flogging, strapping, what have you relieves an incredible amount of tension for me. It allows me to just get out of my day-to-day self and be who i want to be...His slut. That first smack on the ass, and the rest of it just fades away. Under that, the eroticism of feeling His hand, the caresses between, or the feel of the falls of the flogger flow over my ass are all things that make me love it as well. I love knowing that He is seeing and having everything of me, and i love feeling His energy as He moves around me for the next swing.

The possibilities are what i like the most. It goes far beyond just a "simple" spanking, at least in my head. It's just a beginning.

~anelize

 

[Wizard]

Thank you Anelize, for you toughts on this.

 

[lark sparrow]

Spankings are intimate, especially with the hand and across the lap.

They can really highlight the power exchange physically, psychologically and emotionally - spanking originates in childhood for many, wherein parents are all powerful, as well as a (hopefully) loving, but at least, primary and guiding relationship.

They are physically sexually stimulating - the percussion seems to radiate into and stimulate sexual organs.

Just a couple of quick thoughts off the top of my head. I love spanking as well.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Spankings are intimate, especially with the hand and across the lap.

They can really highlight the power exchange physically, psychologically and emotionally - spanking originates in childhood for many, wherein parents are all powerful, as well as a (hopefully) loving, but at least, primary and guiding relationship.

They are physically sexually stimulating - the percussion seems to radiate into and stimulate sexual organs.

Just a couple of quick thoughts off the top of my head. I love spanking as well.

Great quick thoughts. They work real well for me.

 

[bunny bondage]

oh a spanking. yum.

like everyone else has said, it depends on the spanking. there's the not-too-hard slap on the ass which i like but doesn't really do that much for me. then there's the full blown hand-spanking. this is by far my favorite. it's warm at first, and the sting is purely pleasurable. slowly, it gets worse and starts to burn. the pain feels so intense as it first blossoms, and then gently eases into a wonderful kind of glowing pain. this process happening over and over again all over my ass is just absolutly divine. then there's whippings, like with a crop (which is what i'll talk about, cuz it's all i really have experience with)

my very favorite thing to do with the crop just happened to me a few nights ago with Him. i was blindfolded, hands cuffed behind my back, a collar on with a chain leash attached which was wrapped around my neck and draped down my back. i sat on the couch sideways with my legs tucked under me and my knees spread. i arched my back to lift up my ass at His command. He sat behind me and gripped the leash. "do you want it?" He asked. "yes" i whispered. "tell me" He said. "i want it" i returned. "LOUDER!" He yelled. "I WANT IT!"

this went on for about an hour. well, not just that, but the scene did. each time He made me beg Him to hit me, and then CRACK He would bring the crop down with all his force. (i know, i watched the video tape afterwords) and then i would have time to ride out the entire wave of sensations from the first bite of leather into my skin which seemed unbearable to the final dull glow of pleasure lingering in my flesh. this method really helped me take a lot more from the crop, since i had time to deal with each blow seperatly, and begging for it was SO fun.

so um, what was the question again?

 

[Wizard]

Excellent posts, very well put and sexy , thank you all for sharing this with me.
Any others wish to jump in?

 

[MissTaken]

By request

On Spanking:


A light pat on the ass while we are walking down teh street reminds me that we have a secret, reminds me of the things I enjoy.

An erotic spanking, that starts slowly and randomly moving into regular swats, makes my butt warm and arouses me. Harder swats will take me over the edge, other times, finger nails raking across the redness makes me tingle and squirm and go over.

What does it mean?
It feels wonderful especially when the person giving the spanking is enjoying it. I hvae asked lovers to spank me and when they do, hesitantly, it just isn't the same. Knowing that what gets me off, gets him off is key.

For me, punitive spankings are wasted time. That isn't part of my kink.

Funny though, I remember being with someone who told me he was going to spank me til I cried. Again, that isn't part of my kink and the relationship was already flowing down hill. So, I gritted my teeth, until his arm tired out and never once cried out. I can be a very determined gal!

So, for me, spankings feel good especially when given by someone who is emotionally invested in me. If I am in subspace, then, the spanking is about pleasing him and giving my body over. When not, it is fun, erotic play.

Geesh...it has been a while!

 

[skye25]

spanking.......

I don't have as much experience with this as some of the other people who've posted, but here's my reply.
I've just recently started asking my boyfriend to spank me, and i like it very much. The only problem is he's very insistant about not spanking me too hard. He sees any form of striking me as a wrong thing to do, which is a good quality in any guy except when i really want to get spanked hard.
I would love to someday be able to try getting spanked with a riding crop or paddle but not sure if i'll get the chance. I couldn't really say exactly what it is about spanking that gets me hot, it just does.

Skye

 

[Wizard]

Thanks Miss T and skye,
I find the info intrest to hear, Thanks for sharing...........