Here We Go Again...

[thatgirl2136]

thatgirl, I just wanted to say that, like some of the others, I'm glad you were able to make a break of it. It didn't sound like it was healthy for you. Having been in quite the opposite situation, where a sub had moved back to her hometown across the country, and then she suddenly wanted to be a domme with me, I know what you faced. For me, having tried very early on to switch for a partner made it easy, when she asked, I said no. At which point I was called just about every name I had ever heard and then she broke it off.

wow I'm terribly sorry to hear that. It does not sound like she was being fair to you at all, especially when you have known her as a sub...

 

[thatgirl2136]

You made the right decision...even if you were able to Top him, even if you were able to do the infant/sex role play thing (which is sick imo) you got no signs of emotion from him, it was not there. Without that you have nothing at all. I know it's not easy but try move on get past it and chalk that all up to a learning experience. We are here for you if you need us.

Exactly....I never did the infant sex, i fought to the very core on that one.
The most emotion with him came with fighting when he'd just blow up.

Wow, it's almost like you were dating an ex of mine.

that is scary

I think you were absolutely right to dump him.

A good top only pushes the limits that they know, or at least truly believe, that the sub wants pushed. And these can only be determined after spending some real time (read that as extended, not face-to-face) getting to know each other.

That he wanted to make you into someone you aren’t, especially when he knew who you were up front, is troublesome in itself. That he appears to have been trying to use you to recreate a past relationship is even worse. I’m not sure how you could have trust in a relationship where one person sough to make the other over into a past flame.

But that’s just me.

I found it incredibly rude that he was trying to fulfill past relationships by using me....especially when I did not approve of the actions...