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Here goes my story, want to hear back please
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give it time
and you will more than likely get some advise, nice story by the way
and you will more than likely get some advise, nice story by the way
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I'm sure most of us have had something sexual happen over the years that makes us hunger for it again... you have to work out if it is a 'want' or a 'need'.
How will finding another man effect your current relationship?
How will finding another man effect your current relationship?
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here goes my story, want to hear back please
Sounds like ya had a great night years ago in your younger youth. Good for you. Now you have a gf and what? are you feeling a little guilty along with that feeling between your legs, and ears?
Fuck guilt, it is cancer. If your relationship is strong with your current gf, here's a thought: try discussing it with her. You will be amazed how erotic it is when you talk about your sexual journeys and trips with another, sort of like the "other" oral sex!
I have found that the only thing worse than regretting something you did in life, is regretting something you didn't do in yourlife.You are a man. If you find that you enjoy sex with men as well as women; then welcome to my world, it happens to be a pretty groovy place.
Sounds like ya had a great night years ago in your younger youth. Good for you. Now you have a gf and what? are you feeling a little guilty along with that feeling between your legs, and ears?
Fuck guilt, it is cancer. If your relationship is strong with your current gf, here's a thought: try discussing it with her. You will be amazed how erotic it is when you talk about your sexual journeys and trips with another, sort of like the "other" oral sex!
I have found that the only thing worse than regretting something you did in life, is regretting something you didn't do in yourlife.You are a man. If you find that you enjoy sex with men as well as women; then welcome to my world, it happens to be a pretty groovy place.
I'd say go for it and do some experimenting before you settle down. I had these urges as a young man and only indulged them occasionally on the sly due to peer pressure and fear of how society would judge me. Im settled into a committed relationship now and even tho I wouldn't trade it , I wish I had been more free with my sexuality in my youth. Don't pass this chance. You are only young for so long. Just my opinion.
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If I were you I would take justchuck and ricwilly's advice!
I had a few bi encounters in my teens and feel very comfortable about them. I'm in my 40's now and am pretty much a Dom. Been married to the same wonderful woman for 10 plus years and she is My wonderful little subpet. I probably won't be having those bi RL experiences again, but I still live them out in my fantasy life and I have a few male subs OL.
Good luck. ANd if you do decide to go out and play, remember to play safe!
I had a few bi encounters in my teens and feel very comfortable about them. I'm in my 40's now and am pretty much a Dom. Been married to the same wonderful woman for 10 plus years and she is My wonderful little subpet. I probably won't be having those bi RL experiences again, but I still live them out in my fantasy life and I have a few male subs OL.
Good luck. ANd if you do decide to go out and play, remember to play safe!
Trust, honesty and communication
You need four good building blocks of a good relationship and possibly more. You need to communicate your feelings, you need to be honest and not hide anything and that will strengthen the trust and love in a marriage. I talk to lots of crossdressers who hid part of their self from their mates, and you should just be upfront and honest with anyone that you date or marry about issues. If the love is there, they will accept all of you.
You need four good building blocks of a good relationship and possibly more. You need to communicate your feelings, you need to be honest and not hide anything and that will strengthen the trust and love in a marriage. I talk to lots of crossdressers who hid part of their self from their mates, and you should just be upfront and honest with anyone that you date or marry about issues. If the love is there, they will accept all of you.
Ricwilly said:
What he said.
Yes, I had a few bi-experiences as a teen. When I got divorced I began to re-discover that side.
Of course, I am also one of those women in the minority that thinks a bi-man is HOT!
But I don't think you are bi-sexual YET, however, you may find that as you try to get it out of ur system, that it becomes part of ur system. Then what hun?
Are ya gonna tell her then?
Or will u stay in the closet?
Just be safe ok? SAFE SEX!
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Bi yes
I too love bi men, and of course...bi women. Nothing sexier than 2 bi men together I think. Mind you, I have a veryVERY open mind. Im of the mind that you should feel things out with your girlfriend. See how she responds to talking about bi things, perhaps even buy a bi magazine or porno. If she is openminded, then tell her about your experiences and see how she would feel about bringing another bi guy into your relationship. Try posting ads and getting her to talk to the guys as well as you. Involve her in the whole process. You may be surprised at her reaction.
8 years ago, my then fiance introduced me to the world of swinging and bisexuality. Until then, I had been probably the closest to UBER homophobic that you can be. But once I got into it...saw how sensual, erotic and really just awesome it was I was open to trying new things. Nowadays Im bi, my husband is bi and we swing(well...not that the moment because Im pregnant), but we enjoy an open honest relationship where we swing only together. And our very first 3some was with a guy. My husband sucked his very first cock and I have to say that although at the time I was apprehensive as to how I would take it, it was an amazing experience. Our best experience by FAR. If you ever want someone to talk to about this, feel free to drop us a line. We have msn, azureeyes2114@hotmail.com. Good luck!
I too love bi men, and of course...bi women. Nothing sexier than 2 bi men together I think. Mind you, I have a veryVERY open mind. Im of the mind that you should feel things out with your girlfriend. See how she responds to talking about bi things, perhaps even buy a bi magazine or porno. If she is openminded, then tell her about your experiences and see how she would feel about bringing another bi guy into your relationship. Try posting ads and getting her to talk to the guys as well as you. Involve her in the whole process. You may be surprised at her reaction.
8 years ago, my then fiance introduced me to the world of swinging and bisexuality. Until then, I had been probably the closest to UBER homophobic that you can be. But once I got into it...saw how sensual, erotic and really just awesome it was I was open to trying new things. Nowadays Im bi, my husband is bi and we swing(well...not that the moment because Im pregnant), but we enjoy an open honest relationship where we swing only together. And our very first 3some was with a guy. My husband sucked his very first cock and I have to say that although at the time I was apprehensive as to how I would take it, it was an amazing experience. Our best experience by FAR. If you ever want someone to talk to about this, feel free to drop us a line. We have msn, azureeyes2114@hotmail.com. Good luck!
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Totally agree
With all the advice so far, especially that from RicWilly and Lady Adoria.
I'm lucky, correction, unbelievably lucky, in that I found a very open minded, sexually liberated woman who agreed to be my wife. But that was second time around after a sexually suppressed [on my part] first marriage.
My 'coming out', on the cusp of our relationship becoming 'serious', was brought about through needing to be honest and open. Although my youth had gone [all those sexually wasted years!!!] I knew I didn't have time to bottle my true self up for much longer before everything started to fall out, drop off and/or head south. That's where RicWilly's advice comes in. It's better to regret something you've done rather than something you haven't done.
Lady Adoria's right. You'll be surprised how many women find guy/guy a turn on especially if they are there and part of it [much the same a guys who find girl/girl a turn on].
Don't get me wrong though. I didn't just blurt it out to her out of the blue. I had an idea she might be receptive to my sexuality through our 'fantasy' talk and sexy chats e.g. would you ever 'do it' with a girl/guy; did you ever have a teen crush on a girl/guy; if you had to fuck a girl/guy who would it be; who would be your favourite same sex celebrity fuck. All these little sex games, scenarios, fantasies are great for opening up possibilities. Mind you it's a huge leap from fantasy to reality. But if it happens approach it in the manner that if it turns out to be a turn on FOR BOTH OF YOU, happy days; if not, well at least you tried, it was an experience and move on.
That's how my wife and I have approached things. Like Lady Adoria and her partner we also dared to venture into 'swinging' and that's the approach we took. The thought of me with another guy appealed to her but she thought the reality might be a turn off. Likewise the thought of her being fucked by two or three guys was a huge turn on for me [and her] but I thought that in reality I would be too jealous and I'd get a strop on and spoil it. We tried both and have never looked back.
I hope this has been of some use. Good luck and I hope it all works for you both.
Take care
Ricky
With all the advice so far, especially that from RicWilly and Lady Adoria.
I'm lucky, correction, unbelievably lucky, in that I found a very open minded, sexually liberated woman who agreed to be my wife. But that was second time around after a sexually suppressed [on my part] first marriage.
My 'coming out', on the cusp of our relationship becoming 'serious', was brought about through needing to be honest and open. Although my youth had gone [all those sexually wasted years!!!] I knew I didn't have time to bottle my true self up for much longer before everything started to fall out, drop off and/or head south. That's where RicWilly's advice comes in. It's better to regret something you've done rather than something you haven't done.
Lady Adoria's right. You'll be surprised how many women find guy/guy a turn on especially if they are there and part of it [much the same a guys who find girl/girl a turn on].
Don't get me wrong though. I didn't just blurt it out to her out of the blue. I had an idea she might be receptive to my sexuality through our 'fantasy' talk and sexy chats e.g. would you ever 'do it' with a girl/guy; did you ever have a teen crush on a girl/guy; if you had to fuck a girl/guy who would it be; who would be your favourite same sex celebrity fuck. All these little sex games, scenarios, fantasies are great for opening up possibilities. Mind you it's a huge leap from fantasy to reality. But if it happens approach it in the manner that if it turns out to be a turn on FOR BOTH OF YOU, happy days; if not, well at least you tried, it was an experience and move on.
That's how my wife and I have approached things. Like Lady Adoria and her partner we also dared to venture into 'swinging' and that's the approach we took. The thought of me with another guy appealed to her but she thought the reality might be a turn off. Likewise the thought of her being fucked by two or three guys was a huge turn on for me [and her] but I thought that in reality I would be too jealous and I'd get a strop on and spoil it. We tried both and have never looked back.
I hope this has been of some use. Good luck and I hope it all works for you both.
Take care
Ricky
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Dear Matt, A lot of good and thoughtfull replies. But only you can decide what action to take and what part you want this all to play in your life. Because it is your life and that is all you can be responsible for. Good luck in your choices and may you find much happiness.
Dear Matt, A lot of good and thoughtfull replies. But only you can decide what action to take and what part you want this all to play in your life. Because it is your life and that is all you can be responsible for. Good luck in your choices and may you find much happiness.
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