help

[Slinky'sWench]

this post is going to make me sound like a mixed up teenager, but i have been hanging around in a few chatrooms today asking for some advice, all of which given was contradicting to say the least. i have been away from the boards for a while now and have only just noticed the BDSM forum, i'm jumping in at the deep end with this post hoping that my sudden intrusion offends no one, i'm just really stuck and oculd use some insightful, sane advice.

i have met a Dom who is everything i ever wanted, by that i mean can offer everything i need to further myself. At the moment i am going through the whole staying up late online to talk to him, watching the IM list, staring at his name waiting for him to appear online. We have talked on the phone at length and i have also talked to his previous sub and believe them both to be genuine.

my problem comes in the fact that i got it badly wrong with my last D/s relationship and ended up topping from the bottom, i became a real brat in the hope of insighting some kind of Dominance in him again, that failed and our contract dissolved...

waffling...

ok, my point is basically, although i am not a newbie and know of all the usual safety precautions, what do i do now ????.. i feel like a newbie again and my head is swimming.....

thank you for taking the time to read this ramble

 

[Shadowsdream]

Turn off your computer... Turn off the TV...Unplug the telephone...Sit down and conciously clear your mind completely of this Dom.

Now look at you from the inside out. Are you a brat by nature? Think long and hard now! Be honest! Brutally honest!

If the answer is yes then you need to communicate this with any Dom/me you converse with. Some adore brats some don't have the time of day for them. your journey should be taken with the type of Dom/me that compliments your personality not alters it.

Brattiness never insights Domination in any Dom/me but those few particularly kinked to the brat/Disciplinarian kink. It simply bores many of Us and we move on.

 

[James Blandings]

I agree with Shadowsdream. You need to clarify to yourself why you behaved as a brat in your previous relationship. Is topping from below something inherent in yourself, or was it a response to less than satisfactory dominance?

 

[Slinky'sWench]

I am not a brat by nature, it happened out of sarcasm, I became my previous Master's counsellor and would use sarcasm to lift his mood, this overflowed to any play, with me hoping he would be the Master I needed.

The Dom I speak of now has said I show no signs of being bratty, maybe i am just paranoid of the same mistake occuring again ????