help....

[The8thMelody]

OK, so I am very sexual. I am uninhibited and LOVE SEX!!! I've had many partners. I am physically and mentally in good health.

I can't come from actual intercourse.

I can get off from oral sex or manual stimulation, but I think maybe I don't have a G-spot - I've searched, believe me. I thoroughly enjoy sex, but it would be so much better if I could come WHILE ACTUALLY GETTING FUCKED! Help!

I have friends who come more often during sex than from oral. I wish I could know what it felt like! They say it's not that different from a clitoral orgasm, but I want to know first hand.

If you have ANY suggestions, please let me know. I'll try anything. I just felt like this lovely sexually open community would be the right place to ask about this.

Thanks.

 

[MissJackie]

I think your situation is the rule, and your friends cumming from intercourse alone is the exception. I cannot bring myself to orgasm through sex alone, and all of my female friends (save one) can't either. In order for me to have an orgasm during sex, I need to be helping myself along, or letting him help me along. Penetration alone during sex doesn't really do much in the way of clitoral stimulation, which is (from what I can tell) the only way I know of to get off. Try giving yourself a hand (so to speak) the next time you're doing it.

(that probably doesn't help much with your situation, but at least you have some insight.)

 

[krustyalice]

I agree.
I also have orgasims more frequently during oral than during sex alone.
I can say I have had the "O" during sex but enojy it a find it more intense when its the big oral "O", although I find head can become repetitive for me and my partner I need something else.

 

[Guest]

OK, so I am very sexual. I am uninhibited and LOVE SEX!!! I've had many partners. I am physically and mentally in good health.

I can't come from actual intercourse.

I can get off from oral sex or manual stimulation, but I think maybe I don't have a G-spot - I've searched, believe me. I thoroughly enjoy sex, but it would be so much better if I could come WHILE ACTUALLY GETTING FUCKED! Help!

I have friends who come more often during sex than from oral. I wish I could know what it felt like! They say it's not that different from a clitoral orgasm, but I want to know first hand.

If you have ANY suggestions, please let me know. I'll try anything. I just felt like this lovely sexually open community would be the right place to ask about this.

Thanks.

Hi Melody,

I've also posted this in the thread you started in the Authors' Hangout, but, seeing as someone in that thread linked to here, I found this thread, too, and thought I'd also post it here.

Phew! Anyway...

As has already been mentioned in this thread, you are actually in the majority, not the minority. Most women find it easy to get off on clitoral stimulation, but not penetration. I don't know how true this is, because the opposite is true for me. I always orgasm through penetration alone, whether that's with his cock, his fingers, my fingers, his tongue or a toy.

You have got a G-spot, but some women find theirs a lot harder to find than others. Mine is very prominent, probably why I am so receptive.

It is quite easy to locate, if you follow what I tell you here.

- First off, get comfortable. Lie on the bed, or sit in an easy chair.

- Open your legs a little and insert your middle finger into your vagina, with the palm of your hand facing upwards.

- You should only need to insert your finger a little way, probably just an inch or so.

- Bend your finger a little at the first knuckle and apply a little pressure to the front inside of your vagina.

- You should have the tip of your finger parrallel with your abdomen.

- Rub it a little, apart from feeling good, you should feel a little nub inside (I have been told that mine feels like the end of another thumb ).

- That slightly raised nub, which doesn't feel smooth, is the location of your G-spot.

Have a little play, I'm sure you'll be able to find it. You'll also soon find out that rubbing there brings on an orgasm very quickly.

The key to achieving orgasm through penetration is having your G-spot stimulated.

While you are still learning to hone the receptiveness of your G-spot (for want of a better expression), it's all about getting the right position.

I find the best orgasms can be achieved in two positions.

The first is when he bends me over and takes me from behind. I presume this feels so good because as he thrusts in and out, the downforce of his cock rubs my G-spot.

The other postion is when I am on my back and he is on top, with my legs bent up and either held by him or pushed up, over his shoulders. They key is having your legs up and between your two torsos. This is an incredibly effective postition, because as he thrusts in and out of you, the tip of his cock will rub your G-spot - a lot of pressure and friction is placed on that area.

Hopefully, in time, you'll be able to achieve orgasm through penetration in any postion, as I do.

I do count myself as very lucky, but it's all about exploration and experimentation.

I hope that helps!

Let me know how you get on, if only through PM.

Lou

P.S. I might well write this up and embellish it a little, then post it as a story, in the "How To" category.

 

[Beloved]

well I think Tatelou summed it up pretty well.

It's not all unusual for a woman to not achieve orgasm from penetration. I know that personally I have to be almost bent in half during face to face, missionary sex to have a snowballs chance in hell of orgasm.
I would suggest that you ask your partner to put you legs over his shoulders and slightly elevate your torso if you are having missionary sex. That should help put your pelvis at the right angle.
The other option would be rear entry. Don't get on all fours, but rather push your ass into the air and lay the weight of your body down on your arms, maybe if it won't give you some killer vertigo try hanging your upper body slightly off the bed. This provides some truly delicious friction during thrusting and has never failed to bring me to orgasm. The only problem is that if tyhe sex goes for a while your arms will be jello when you're done....' course if the orgasm is good your whole body will be jello!

Good luck and remember half the fun is in the trying.

 

[hook848]

Hi Melody,

This thread may help you find that elusive "O" Its a long read but highly recommended.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70892

Best of luck to ya.

Hook

 

[phoenix1224]

Have you tried the CAT (coital alignment technique)?

Start in the missionary position, and have him put his weight on his elbows while your knees are slightly bent and raised. Have him slide his entire body up, so that his pelvis is slightly above yours. In this position, the base of his cock should be rubbing directly on your clit. Have him relax his upper body so you bear his weight. Press your pelvis into his, while he does the same. You set the pace until you feel it's right.

Hope you have fun...

 

[sheath]

Have you tried the CAT (coital alignment technique)?

Start in the missionary position, and have him put his weight on his elbows while your knees are slightly bent and raised. Have him slide his entire body up, so that his pelvis is slightly above yours. In this position, the base of his cock should be rubbing directly on your clit. Have him relax his upper body so you bear his weight. Press your pelvis into his, while he does the same. You set the pace until you feel it's right.

Hope you have fun...

Just reading that made me want sex. There are a few positions absolutely guaranteed to set me off like a rocket, and this is one of them.

THIS works. This SO fucking works.

Makes me melt in no time.

S.

 

[The_old_man]

Another way to achieve the CAT is woman astride, facing each other. The woman then can scrub her clit over the base of his cock. She does have to be careful to not move so far she pulls him out.

 

[Quint]

I've gotten myself to come once, and once only, through g-spot stimulation. The conditions have to be absolutely perfect: alignment of the moon and stars, no sort of sex or orgasm for at least a week beforehand, I must be about to start my period, and I must tease the living fuck out of myself. MAYBE then I'll be able to get there.

Don't feel bad. There's a whole club for we button-babies.

Honestly, when I want to come during sex, I have my partner put on this toy that we purchased. It's a cock-ring with a vibrating bullet attached to the top of it, so once it's on and he's up against me, the toy is right on my clit. The fucking gets me hot, the vibration gets me off. I feel no guilt about that; my body was constructed this way and so I'll deal with it to the best of my ability.

The advice that's been given is great, but don't beat yourself up if none of it works. Physical is physical.

 

[Phoenix Stone]

I've gotten myself to come once, and once only, through g-spot stimulation. ...I feel no guilt about that; my body was constructed this way and so I'll deal with it to the best of my ability.

The advice that's been given is great, but don't beat yourself up if none of it works. Physical is physical.

Gotta agree with Quint, here, on all of this. (including the one-time g-spot biz.) And especially the last bit. It's always fun to try new ways but try not to get in a sweat about it -- cumming is cumming, and lucky us that we can.

The guy on top CAT position doesn't push my button, but if i do it right so that I'm rubbing against his pelvic bone while he's inside, guy on top has a few times. Otherwise, I usually slide my hand down between us, in any old position, and rub away. (His hands are usually at the wrong angle or holding him up.) Feels great to have him inside when i cum, so worth trying.