Help with stamina

[MrChexmix]

Hey guys, I'm an 18 year old college student and I'm a political science major. Both me and my girlfriend were virgins until we got together. The sex is nice and I get off, but it doesn't last long enough. It seems that just as she starts really getting into it I'm finishing. Does anyone know how I could increase my stamina? Any help would be greatly appreciated

 

[SweetErika]

Are you primarily relying on sex to give her an orgasm, or does she usually come before you even get to sex?

Have you tried masturbating before you get together, or coming during foreplay, then taking time to please her, and going for sex when you're hard again?

Are you using condoms? Those can help some.

Also, look up 'male kegel exercises' and do them everyday. Like any exercise, it takes about six weeks for real results to start showing, so stick with it and reevaluate at two months or something. A strong PC muscle can help men stop themselves from ejaculating and put them on the road to becoming multiorgasmic. By contracting the muscle when you're just about to blow, you may be able to orgasm w/o ejaculating several times.

When you're masturbating, practice getting yourself right to the edge and then backing off by distracting your mind and changing the stimulation somewhat. Combine this with contracting your PC muscle at the right time, and you should be able to avoid coming too quickly.

But also realize a lot of women find about 10 minutes of actual penetration to be ideal, and most don't get off from penetration alone. So, make sure you communicate with your partner and don't go overboard on stretching out the sex. It's possible that she takes your extreme arousal as a compliment and would rather have you come quicker, really focus on the moment and relax into a better orgasm than distract yourself and risk having a less intense orgasm. I feel very much that way; I want my partner to have the best experience possible, not worry about how quick he gets there and I take it as a compliment that he's that excited about sex with me, even after all these years.

So, basically, try the above techniques, but focus on making your partner come in other ways, make sure you know what she wants, and don't try to hold off to the point where you're not enjoying yourself as much or are going so long that she hopes you'll just hurry up already.

 

[gundock98]

Stamina Builder

Much of the issue is confidence, however first let's look at the physical side. Here are some suggestions:

1. Arouse her with other parts of your body first. You have a great sex aide in two hands and a tongue and mouth. Get her aroused and excited and at least part way to an orgasm if not 1 or 2 before you even thing about sliding into her.

2. Talk to her about wanting to have more stamina and then do this. After you have prepared her, slide into her with you on top so that you are in control. As you are having sex and you feel yourself getting close to climax slow up or stop a bit to regain control. If you practice this technique for a while you will begin to build control over your erection. Also vary things. Try sliding in and out with just the tip of your penis or try sliding all the way in and just grinding. Variety will be good for her as well as changing the stimulation for you. Try focusing on something else. For example focus on her satisfaction and stimulation rather than on what feels good for you.

3. Lastly is confidence. Premature ejaculation is most often tied to psychology. You need to be a confident lover. Talk to her about it. Talk about sex and learn about sex. Read some books about how to be a better lover. When you are confident and pleasing her you will have more stamina.

Good luck!

 

[MrChexmix]

Wow, thanks so much for all the help. Looks like I'm going to be busy for awhile I'll try out what you guys said and then report back. Again thanks for all the help.

 

[Big Poppa]

I want to suggest something... fuck her clit. By this I mean instead of putting your dick in her put it on her clit and start going at it. I do this with the chicks that don't come vaginally, I feel nothing but then they get theirs and once they orgasm a few times i go in the hole to get mine. YMMV

 

[matureprofiles]

It's this little thing called forplay, also google g-spot get her off before you even get in, learn to be a freak, lick it play with it discover what makes her get off, I could write a very long post on this as I have written them many times, I have tons of exp with over 60 women, it is all about finding her rythem and what feels good to here. But really find out what the g-spot is and how to find hers, you will be her hero for life
Also do like the nana and put your back into it and face

 

[bakedbeams]

I find that as a woman I have some of my best orgasms when I'm on top, it means I get great penis stimulation and I can push my clit against his public area and end up having a double orgasm vaginal and clitoral at the same time.

Try grinding more when you are on top, same sort of thing as above for alot of ladies clit stimulation is the key.

Perhaps this might help her to 'get off' more in time with you. To be honest as others have said.. loads of foreplay is the key. For me the right amount of foreplay can lead to an orgasm as he's putting his penis in.

I know most guys will pause if they feel they are getting close and want to delay things, but do keep stimulating her.. I mean its YOU who needs the break not her.. you want her motor to keep running!! Sometimes that pause can be as simple as changing position.

Good luck and I hope that you both continue to enjoy each other.